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Let's be clear, we're dealing with THAT guy & here I am being called creeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeepy.

Apparently only the hyper-vigilant can tell at all who the real creeps are.

Cool. My favorite girl gave me a tour almost like a tourist guide.

We need to make sure the ND genes survive, so a great initiative. You are doing no good in this area, so be grateful somebody else does a better job.

rdos, the reason why some may end up at the conclusion that your behavior is stalking, is that all you write about your relationship is very strange and that from what you write it is impossible to tell what is actually going on. With all the supernatural stuff it's often not possible to make the same inferences one would make if any other person wrote about a similar experience (I mean the parts that are not supernatural) and be near certain that they're true.

For example, if another person wrote that their girl showed them around when they first met, I'd conclude that he ask her if she'd show him around or she ask him if he'd like her to show him around - you know, ask in actual words - and then she did. With you I can not exclude that this is what happened but I can also not exclude that you just followed her around, no prior conversation or direct interaction.

If another person said some girl followed them around or they followed some girl around, I'd conclude that he knows this because he actually saw her. With you and either of you following the other around, I am not sure you always saw her when you concluded this is what happened. Maybe you just sensed her.

If anyone else said someone was following them on or communicating with them on many forums on the internet I'd conclude they have actual real life evidence for that - like she always uses her or at least the same name on these accounts or she always posts photos of herself etc.. With you I do not know if there's such evidence or if you just sense it's always the same person. After all you said you may know her real identity now because she uses a name that really exists on a dating site - meaning she probably didn't use her real name on her facebook account. Admittedly, I do not have a facebook account and the things you said about your communication with her may be confusing to me because I'm not familiar with all its features but at least I can not tell how clear it is that any actual conversation is going on and you are not just interpreting things. I'm not sure if people more familiar with facebook are more certain what's going on.

If what you're describing consists of a conglomeration of actions that would not really make sense for a lot of people to do and in several cases you may or may not be referring to something you just sensed instead of having any other kind of evidence it is not possible for anyone else to tell what's actually going on.

There was a previous interaction, but no conversation.



I think I made this pretty clear in the background post. All the happenings during the first years were real and not sensed. The mind-to-mind communication and direction sense was later.



I'm using the same username on various forums, and my site also uses it, and so if you follow things on Facebook it's not rocket science to search for other forums too. Thus, if she makes a lot of posts just after I've written something, or communicates it mind-to-mind (like was the case with another forum), I find that evidence enough.



She certainly didn't use her real name on Facebook. I concluded it was her by matching with real-world happenings. She only uses her real first name on the dating site (it is a bit unusual), and so I matched it with people that had this as their first name.



I wouldn't say it is features, more like bugs. We have exploited various bugs. Some have been fixed and so we have exploited new that are not fixed.



I think the whole point is that at least some NDs find it intriguing to try to make sense of things. At least, I'm like that. I really enjoy our games, and it would be rather boring to just get to know everything about her with conversation.

Shame on you Goldfish for being gay and refusing to spread your seed and superior autistic genes! You should at least be grateful that others are lying and wishing ill on others!

I need a gallon of brain bleach after reading this thread



You're missing the point - leaving aside your spiteful attitude towards NTs - how well do you think a low functioning autistic child will fare with parents that are completely unprepared for and ignorant of his needs? The kid will likely pay the biggest price for your recklessness and dishonesty.

I’m gonna need some of that brain bleach, too, so don’t use all of it.

OK, so today I had planned a slightly different path after the sports hall. It was all in my head and I didn't share it anywhere. She obviously knew about the change, because after we had walked side-by-side around the sports hall, she suddenly passed me and managed to get out before I could see her. She usually waits for me to get a bit from the hall before she leaves, so, apparently, she knew my modified plan.

At the train station, I was late, and first I felt she was waiting for the train, and just before I reached the platform, I noticed she left. I couldn't see the train, so it was not based on that. Then I looked at the clock, and it was exactly the departure time.

I'm sorry, I'm not believing this story of this magical telepathic relationship that rdos has. It sounds to me like an obsessive interest in this woman, that possibly started out as a casual friendship (or something) but has turned into something else that exists only in his mind.

It's weird and a bit scary. And I don't believe for one minute that she is knowingly part of it. Maybe in his mind she is, but she unfortunately is not aware of it.

I don't believe it. I believe she has a stalker who is obsessed with her.

I talk about it regularly on my new Facebook account where I have her as my only friend, and so if she thought I was completely crazy, I'm sure she would react in some way. She has not, and she even encouraged going that way. Besides, she is interested in spiritual things, and I'm too after having met her. You might say we created a common interest in spiritual issues.

We never were friends. We have not even had a regular conversation.

Yeah, I'm getting the picture now, I went back and read some of the older posts of this thread.

You're obsessed with this woman and have created something in your own mind that doesn't actually exist in reality. My armchair diagnosis is Erotomania.

"Erotomania is listed in the DSM 5 as a subtype of a delusional disorder, is a relatively uncommon paranoid condition that is characterized by an individual's delusions of another person being infatuated with him or her.

This disorder is most often seen (in patients) that are shy, dependent, and sexually inexperienced. The object of the delusion is typically (someone) who is unattainable due to high social or financial status, marriage, or disinterest.

Delusions of reference are common as the erotomanic individual often perceives that he or she is being sent messages from the secret admirer through innocuous events such as seeing license plates from specific states."

(From the Wikipedia entry of Erotomania)

I'm not saying his actions are terrible, only that his intent is bad - and thus the result of his actions could be terrible. If mrspock had said that he donates his seed to ensure the Aspie genes get passed on in hopes that he fathers the next Temple Grandin or musical savant or something along those lines, then I'd have less of a problem with it. But he does it out of spite in an attempt to get some sort of revenge on NT's. If you believe in anything metaphysical whatsoever then you know full well there's a huge difference even though his actions are the same. I'd much prefer those babies were conceived from baby batter shot out with positivity & love vs. negativity & hate.

I actually agree with you there. The big problem is that sperm donation & usage doesn't have neurotype as an important parameter.

Ohh, great. Another fake DSM diagnosis. Who was it that got this completely insane idea that shy people could "suffer" from delusions?

IMHO, psychosis and delusions are completely fake. These conditions were most likely created by the church targeted at people that had the wrong spiritual ideas that violated their beliefs. It also was (and still is) an excuse to put people in a mental hospital, and abuse them with heavy drugs. While most things related to psychology & psychiatry from this time have long been relegated to the history books as utter rubbish, the notion of psychosis and delusions still lives happily.

No dude, it's a real diagnosis. I'm almost certain you have it.

FFS, leave this woman alone. If you're not happy in your marriage, fix it or leave it. But quit with the stalking.

I don't have any diagnosis, and I don't plan to get any either.



I thought you read the thread? How could you miss that it is mostly her that follows me around? Selective reading?

In fact, she could stop sending me messages at any time, and stop going to the places we plan to visit at any time, and I couldn't (and wouldn't) do anything to interfere with her decision. This is completely mutual, and there is no stalking involved.

Besides, I can find lots of things in the dx that are not correct:
1. She is not unattainable. She is single. Maybe I'm technically unattainable, but you didn't diagnose her.

2. I have no opinion if she is infatuated or not, but she seems to be interested. I'm the one that had a three-year long crush on her.

3. The messages that are purposely sent has no resemblance to what is actually sent. I don't care about license plates.