Eligible Odd-Bods! - The Premier Aspergian Singles List

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Sorry for a second post in a short time but I thought I should actually post some details here rather than leaving an OKCupid link - I'm not sure you can actually view my profile without an account there.




I'm a PPE student after previously studying English and Philosophy at University of Liverpool (I'm originally from the Merseyside) and I think a lot about like, stuff. One time I wished that I had continued doing Accounting instead of being a stupid hippy who is all like, yeah, what if nothing is real? What is money really worth? Who is the real winner here, the guy with the car and iPhone or the guy who wears rags and uses the world as his toilet? The answer may surprise you.

I'm into politics, nonfiction reading/newspapers (Guardian and Morning Star, yes I am a dirty lefty), comedy (mostly British TV stuff like Brasseye, I'm Alan Partridge, basically anything by Armando Iannuchi and also Stewart Lee's standup), video games (Dark Souls, Dark Souls, Dark Souls), animals (every single animal: rodents, cats, dogs, rabbits, ants, spiders, jewel wasps, naked mole rats, wild ass, giant African land snails, devil's coach horses), craft beer (drink some weissbier with me). Also coffee.

Note: I don't actually have any friends. I'm not compatible with most people and don't like having to force myself to be someone else, so I generally choose to avoid people. I am capable of being witty and charming though and I'm generally polite - I just find it exhausting because I don't enjoy socialising in the way that most people do. I'm sure a lot of you guys are the same, though! It's why I have so much trouble finding sustainable relationships and I'd like somebody who can understand how this feels.

Finally, don't be shy. Send me an email at [email protected] , add me at https://www.facebook.com/almajo88 or feel free to send me a PM here and I will reply when I see it. Unless you plan to send me a single message and then never follow up for some daft reason - why do so many people do that?

http://imgur.com/rRBm86p

Really?

I don't really know what you're saying - if it's because I'm with another person, I recently ended a relationship and most of my pictures are with her.

And you don't have any friends except her, and you both only recently split up.

I can't believe this. This is funny!! !!

I have no idea what you're trying to say here.

Why were those posts deleted??

Because you were being rather unpleasant to Almajo88.

Was I? He sloppily edited out his ex in his photos. Does that not look dodgy?

I wasn't aware we were now judging people by the quality of their image editing.
That approach seems unlikely to go anywhere productive so it's probably best to not do it.

It wasn't how he done it, it was the fact he did it. Posting pictures of you and your ex together on a dating thread - seriously? I can't believe I even pointed that out. Who in their right mind wouldn't be put off by that?

I like the one where he replaced her with a picture of a dog

Did he?!

Hmm...

I think it's ok to have pics with one's ex up on a dating thread. It shows you at your happiest, perhaps.

I'm thinking it's the editing out which kinda screams bad vibes. If I were single, I'd be putting up photos of just me, but if I did include some with exes, I'd check with them first that it's ok to display their image, and then do so proudly. If they said no, I'd crop them out rather than blanking them out. So that it looks like the pic was just me to begin with.

I'm willing to bet the effect is the same as when taking friends of the opposite sex with you when you go out on the town (not implying we all do. I don't, for one). Other members of the opposite sex notice how much fun your friend is having with you, and they want some of that. Personally, if I saw a cute girl enjoying the company of some dude, I'd assume they were a couple, so I'm not sure how reliable this theory is.

Exactly.

I haven't been following this thread since my last post because of terrible anxiety but I figured I ought to at least click and see the last couple of posts.

I DID check with my ex before posting the pictures. We are still sorta-friends, despite everything. I wanted to not hide the context of the pictures without actually revealing her identity publicly - I thought that it would be obvious from the text of my post that she was who I was referring to.

I'll readily admit though that I don't understand a lot of these rules that people seem to follow. Although there's surely a logic to it, they just seem arbitrary to me and it frustrates me that I can't understand.

Someone on an autism thought doing something that violates social norms and expectations!? Perish the thought!

Sorry but I couldn't help myself, I don't mean to be negative just to point out the possible irony here.