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04 Oct 2010, 5:45 pm
Erisad wrote:
Lol, but I like Pennsylvania. I would move to a different city in PA because I like the people there better than back home. Obviously, it isn't exotic enough since it's a college town and most of the students are from another part of PA or NJ. 
Hey i'm from NJ, you're saying i'm not exotic enough huh?
04 Oct 2010, 5:54 pm
nick007 wrote:
As I said before; I think Aspies would stand a much better chance if we had arranged marriages. That goes on in some other countries. If I could easily move to another country; I would go to one that has em. The only way I could ever get a woman is if she was pressured into it. American women will never give me a chance unless they are on something 
You know, nick, my father was as screwed up as any of the male Aspies here and he was all happy when some pastor found him a wife. Unfortunately for him, having a semi-normal wife only added 101 more problems he wasn't able to handle and he quickly lost my mother's respect. She didn't divorce him because she's Catholic and because she's too proud to officially have a failed marriage, but she's barely talked to him in the last twenty years. And you know who else barely talk to him? All of his kids, who find it equally hard to give the respect he expects as a father.
Nowadays he just sits there watching out the window waiting for the death that never comes. I'll bet if he could have a do-over, he'd rather stay single and be considered the weird single man no woman wants to marry than to jump into marriage with the first woman who was pressured into meeting him.
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menintights wrote:
nick007 wrote:
As I said before; I think Aspies would stand a much better chance if we had arranged marriages. That goes on in some other countries. If I could easily move to another country; I would go to one that has em. The only way I could ever get a woman is if she was pressured into it. American women will never give me a chance unless they are on something
You know, nick, my father was as screwed up as any of the male Aspies here and he was all happy when some pastor found him a wife. Unfortunately for him, having a semi-normal wife only added 101 more problems he wasn't able to handle and he quickly lost my mother's respect. She didn't divorce him because she's Catholic and because she's too proud to officially have a failed marriage, but she's barely talked to him in the last twenty years. And you know who else barely talk to him? All of his kids, who find it equally hard to give the respect he expects as a father.
Nowadays he just sits there watching out the window waiting for the death that never comes. I'll bet if he could have a do-over, he'd rather stay single and be considered the weird single man no woman wants to marry than to jump into marriage with the first woman who was pressured into meeting him.
We really can't compare your father to any of the men here. Circumstances and personalities are different.
However, I agree in a way with what you're saying. It's no picnic to have someone pressured into being with you. It's not a life most people really want, even if they think they do. I'm pretty sure nick and Toad want a woman that wants to be with them more than anything. We all want that.
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04 Oct 2010, 7:33 pm
ToadOfSteel wrote:
menintights wrote:
Nowadays he just sits there watching out the window waiting for the death that never comes.
That's what I feel like now... and I don't even have the failed marriage to blame for it. Some men are just defective. It doesn't have anything to do with AS/NT lines, but I am unfortunately one of those men that just can't make it in life...
Same here Toad.
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
menintights wrote:
nick007 wrote:
As I said before; I think Aspies would stand a much better chance if we had arranged marriages. That goes on in some other countries. If I could easily move to another country; I would go to one that has em. The only way I could ever get a woman is if she was pressured into it. American women will never give me a chance unless they are on something
You know, nick, my father was as screwed up as any of the male Aspies here and he was all happy when some pastor found him a wife. Unfortunately for him, having a semi-normal wife only added 101 more problems he wasn't able to handle and he quickly lost my mother's respect. She didn't divorce him because she's Catholic and because she's too proud to officially have a failed marriage, but she's barely talked to him in the last twenty years. And you know who else barely talk to him? All of his kids, who find it equally hard to give the respect he expects as a father.
Nowadays he just sits there watching out the window waiting for the death that never comes. I'll bet if he could have a do-over, he'd rather stay single and be considered the weird single man no woman wants to marry than to jump into marriage with the first woman who was pressured into meeting him.
We really can't compare your father to any of the men here. Circumstances and personalities are different.
However, I agree in a way with what you're saying. It's no picnic to have someone pressured into being with you. It's not a life most people really want, even if they think they do. I'm pretty sure nick and Toad want a woman that wants to be with them more than anything. We all want that.
I think it's possible that after a woman's with me a while; she would be glad she's with me Women write me off as a worthless loser without ever taking the chance to get to see what's inside my heart. If women saw my soul instead of seeing all the superficial cr@p; I would be very desirable. Despite what others say; the reality is that it's what's on the outside that matters & what's in the heart is completely worthless
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