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20 Jun 2012, 8:55 pm

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This is on my profile. I guess I'm not dating material:
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As for my hobbies, I like math. It's been an obsession of mine for the last 4 years. I particularly enjoy proving things and understanding difficult, abstract concepts.


If you wanted to attract brainless, fling-type chicks, you're doing it wrong.


I want any type. My only requirement is that there is physical attraction. I can't stand brainless people but I think I rather have a brainless person than someone I'm not attracted to. For instance there is this girl at school that likes me but there is no physical attraction whatsoever. Thus I can't be with her. I love her personality and intelligence and wish to remain good friends with her. My ideal woman would be average or above average looking with average or above average intelligence. But I don't think I'll ever end up with a woman. I'm too autistic lol. fml. That's why I'm hoping I can make lots of money because hopefully women will just gravitate towards me lol.


I don't know whether to feel sad or happy for you, lol. Maybe you should find an autistic girl who's attractive and too autistic as well.


That would be ideal, but I have no idea what other autistics are like. Could be a big turn off.



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20 Jun 2012, 9:27 pm

bizboy1 wrote:
Kinme wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
Kinme wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
This is on my profile. I guess I'm not dating material:
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As for my hobbies, I like math. It's been an obsession of mine for the last 4 years. I particularly enjoy proving things and understanding difficult, abstract concepts.


If you wanted to attract brainless, fling-type chicks, you're doing it wrong.


I want any type. My only requirement is that there is physical attraction. I can't stand brainless people but I think I rather have a brainless person than someone I'm not attracted to. For instance there is this girl at school that likes me but there is no physical attraction whatsoever. Thus I can't be with her. I love her personality and intelligence and wish to remain good friends with her. My ideal woman would be average or above average looking with average or above average intelligence. But I don't think I'll ever end up with a woman. I'm too autistic lol. fml. That's why I'm hoping I can make lots of money because hopefully women will just gravitate towards me lol.


I don't know whether to feel sad or happy for you, lol. Maybe you should find an autistic girl who's attractive and too autistic as well.


That would be ideal, but I have no idea what other autistics are like. Could be a big turn off.


Worth a shot, eh?



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20 Jun 2012, 9:28 pm

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That would be ideal, but I have no idea what other autistics are like. Could be a big turn off.


Its as big a shot in the dark as NTs. Ive met but one aspie and weve gotten along great (or atleast i think we have)



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20 Jun 2012, 9:37 pm

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That would be ideal, but I have no idea what other autistics are like. Could be a big turn off.


Its as big a shot in the dark as NTs. Ive met but one aspie and weve gotten along great (or atleast i think we have)


Exactly. Same for me. It's been wonderful thus far. Cupcakes and rainbows. And don't forget the cats on rainbows.



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20 Jun 2012, 9:38 pm

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That would be ideal, but I have no idea what other autistics are like. Could be a big turn off.


Its as big a shot in the dark as NTs. Ive met but one aspie and weve gotten along great (or atleast i think we have)


Exactly. Same for me. It's been wonderful thus far. Cupcakes and rainbows. And don't forget the cats on rainbows.


Yep, though ive not been dating her.


Also to keep this thread on topic, been chatting all night with that one girl that messaged me. So my personal consensus is, shirtless pic does work.



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20 Jun 2012, 10:01 pm

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MXH wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:

That would be ideal, but I have no idea what other autistics are like. Could be a big turn off.


Its as big a shot in the dark as NTs. Ive met but one aspie and weve gotten along great (or atleast i think we have)


Exactly. Same for me. It's been wonderful thus far. Cupcakes and rainbows. And don't forget the cats on rainbows.


Yep, though ive not been dating her.


Also to keep this thread on topic, been chatting all night with that one girl that messaged me. So my personal consensus is, shirtless pic does work.


Gotcha, lol.

That's great. :D



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20 Jun 2012, 11:33 pm

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it still sounds like a better love story than twilight

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20 Jun 2012, 11:36 pm

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it still sounds like a better love story than twilight

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I think you're just hating on the brilliance that is Twilight. Those novels are the greatest comedies I've never read.



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20 Jun 2012, 11:52 pm

MXH wrote:
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That would be ideal, but I have no idea what other autistics are like. Could be a big turn off.


Its as big a shot in the dark as NTs. Ive met but one aspie and weve gotten along great (or atleast i think we have)



I have met quite a number of people on the spectrum through this website and I have met a few through circumstance, people can get along better when they have a mutual understanding but personalities and traits can still vary greatly. You could try joining some groups in your area but I don't think you should close yourself to people that aren't on the spectrum either. If you could find a girl that is willing to take the time to understand you, that would be the most ideal scenario.



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20 Jun 2012, 11:54 pm

bizboy1 wrote:
Kinme wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
This is on my profile. I guess I'm not dating material:
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As for my hobbies, I like math. It's been an obsession of mine for the last 4 years. I particularly enjoy proving things and understanding difficult, abstract concepts.


If you wanted to attract brainless, fling-type chicks, you're doing it wrong.


I want any type. My only requirement is that there is physical attraction. I can't stand brainless people but I think I rather have a brainless person than someone I'm not attracted to. For instance there is this girl at school that likes me but there is no physical attraction whatsoever. Thus I can't be with her. I love her personality and intelligence and wish to remain good friends with her. My ideal woman would be average or above average looking with average or above average intelligence. But I don't think I'll ever end up with a woman. I'm too autistic lol. fml. That's why I'm hoping I can make lots of money because hopefully women will just gravitate towards me lol.


So, if I'm reading you right. You'd be content with someone completely devoid of thought/personality that you find engaging as long as they were pretty? Why not just stick a maxim cover on a cantelope after you cut a hole in it and put it in the microwave? (I kid)
I know it's not your first choice but damn...I can't picture myself putting up with someone I don't like talking to just for access to genitals on a pretty body (even in the midst of seemingly unending dryspells, that hasn't sounded appealing.)
I'd rather spend the energy I'd use tolerating them on making money for some nice toys.
that's kind've a tangent whoopsie, anyway I'm not trying to say you're wrong or anything, just musing


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21 Jun 2012, 12:16 am

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
Kinme wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
This is on my profile. I guess I'm not dating material:
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As for my hobbies, I like math. It's been an obsession of mine for the last 4 years. I particularly enjoy proving things and understanding difficult, abstract concepts.


If you wanted to attract brainless, fling-type chicks, you're doing it wrong.


I want any type. My only requirement is that there is physical attraction. I can't stand brainless people but I think I rather have a brainless person than someone I'm not attracted to. For instance there is this girl at school that likes me but there is no physical attraction whatsoever. Thus I can't be with her. I love her personality and intelligence and wish to remain good friends with her. My ideal woman would be average or above average looking with average or above average intelligence. But I don't think I'll ever end up with a woman. I'm too autistic lol. fml. That's why I'm hoping I can make lots of money because hopefully women will just gravitate towards me lol.


So, if I'm reading you right. You'd be content with someone completely devoid of thought/personality that you find engaging as long as they were pretty? Why not just stick a maxim cover on a cantelope after you cut a hole in it and put it in the microwave? (I kid)
I know it's not your first choice but damn...I can't picture myself putting up with someone I don't like talking to just for access to genitals on a pretty body (even in the midst of seemingly unending dryspells, that hasn't sounded appealing.)
I'd rather spend the energy I'd use tolerating them on making money for some nice toys.
that's kind've a tangent whoopsie, anyway I'm not trying to say you're wrong or anything, just musing


In any case, trying to make lots of money to attract women will only attract the wrong type of women who only like you for superficial reasons and not for who you are. You need to cancel out this defeatist attitude that you won't find a relationship because I'm sure there are women out there who would be willing to date you or find you attractive. It's a matter of persistence and confidence, if you get shot down once, get up again. Successful people fail and face rejection again and again before becoming successful, it's the ability and outlook to view it as something positive instead of negative that allows them to keep persisting.



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21 Jun 2012, 7:29 am

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Successful people fail and face rejection again and again before becoming successful, it's the ability and outlook to view it as something positive instead of negative that allows them to keep persisting.



I'm of the opinion that failure can never be positive, and that people who think otherwise are delusional, or insane. That being said, due to the fact they are delusional, or insane, they don't stop to think about the consequences before doing something, and that tends to lead to success.

"Sanity is a one trick pony, but when you're good and crazy.. the world is your oyster"



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21 Jun 2012, 11:53 am

Ok wolf, lets just get this out of the way. A positive outlook will not get you farther than a negative one. If anything a negative one will show you what you must do to get what you want instead of pretending smurfs are going to bring it to you on a silver platter. And that being said I take even less from dating advice given by some young hot guy. If I sawsome fat ugly guy with hot girls giving advice Id listen all damn day.



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21 Jun 2012, 12:15 pm

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Ok wolf, lets just get this out of the way. A positive outlook will not get you farther than a negative one. If anything a negative one will show you what you must do to get what you want instead of pretending smurfs are going to bring it to you on a silver platter. And that being said I take even less from dating advice given by some young hot guy. If I sawsome fat ugly guy with hot girls giving advice Id listen all damn day.


A positive one will make you more persistent and less defeatist towards yourself. It depends what you consider far, someone that has positive and kind self talk will develop a healthier self esteem than someone who uses self critical or defeatist talk.

For example, a person has several unsuccessful dates or job interviews.

Positive: The positive person minimizes the negativity of the situation and focuses on the positive aspects, they learn what they could have improved on and how they could have handled situations better. They tell themselves that a few setbacks aren't going to prevent them from achieving what they want.
Negative: This person overreacts to failure, they magnify the fact it didn't go successful and they let it define their overall self confidence, they take it personally and decide not to do more approaching until they feel comfortable or ready.

There are many other examples on how to respond to a situation correctly and incorrectly, one will help towards a healthy self esteem and the other will lead to having less confidence.



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21 Jun 2012, 12:33 pm

Of course, I'm not saying everything is dependent on positivity and confidence, raw talent and technique play a key role. Someone might believe they are the best snooker player in the world and be positive about it but without the ability and raw talent, they aren't going to be a world champion. That doesn't mean they won't be able to play a half decent or good game through trial and error though.



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21 Jun 2012, 12:33 pm

You do understand no matter how much better written the first one is both scenarios end with the same conclusion, no? But the guy in the latter is being realistic on why it happened and not just waiting for something to