If you're 27 and never had a girlfriend, is it too late?

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confidence.

It wouldn't be ideal, but it would provide an excuse/reason to talk to her where it wouldn't exist otherwise.

I used to carry a lot of business-cards around. Then I would hand out my business-cards. Then I would ask if these nice young ladies had any business-cards for me that they had, and if not, I would let them use the back of one of my own business-cards. I got pretty damn good at being able to obtain lots of phone-numbers from girls I had just met.

For follow-ups, before we parted ways, I just said something like: « Hey. Let's keep in-contact ! »
Nearly all of them were always like...: « Okay, sure, that would be great ! »
Then I would finish with something like...: « When would be the best times to call you ? » (...because you want to make sure that it's during her available-time rather than busy/occupied time... managed to have a lot of nice, long conversations with this one girl, weekly, and it would've very likely turned out to become a real & genuine-relationship, had I not been so inexperienced with what to do about girls back then, and eventually I got her to meet me at a buffet one day after like several weeks of talking to her each week, and she was a very beautiful girl, also managed to share a nice hug with her after our buffet, and come to think of it I have never been hugged by anybody else so tightly before the way she just squeezed me in her arms... actually she was the first adult-aged girl I had ever received a hug from... that was the happiest I had ever felt in my life... really sometimes kind of wish I could go back-in-time & re-do things so that I would have just proceeded to seduce her anyway & lost my virginity to such a nice & beautiful girl [because I was in-love with her actually at the time] although I did have a very vivid lucid-dream one day where we had sex with each other for over ten hours in a row in a hotel-room, and that I even got to orgasm inside her at the end after making her orgasm five times in a row in all of the different sexual-positions for a total of 30+ orgasms from her due to the ridiculously high sex-drive that I had, and the pleasures all felt very real as I still remember all of the physical-sensations that I had experienced with her, all before waking up from that lucid-dream [that was also the only time I ever experienced an actual full-orgasm during a dream before actually waking up from one]. She is still a very special girl to me even to this very day although she's since already gotten married whilst I had still gone on for another ten years without getting into any kinds of actual relationships but on the other hand I simply had changed my purposes & pursuits & priorities since the state of the world had made me realise that I had bigger fish to fry that would be of even more potential benefit to multitudes that I needed to do on my own !).

Apologies about that really long run-on-sentence. Must be that « Aspieness » aspect of mine...

so you made the first move on him first as in broke the ice first?

Or maybe the girl just isn't interested. Or swamped at work that week. Or has the flu and isn't checking her messages.

Women who play hard to get are best avoided. The ones who like you back are the ones who return your texts/calls.

I envy the power women have in their youth, people will say it's not a competition, but yet at the same time, people say life is a competition, so sounds hypocritical.

Which competition are you referring to? The competition between the sexes? The competition between rival women? Or the competition between men to be seen with the hottest girl?

well it's often argued, debated that womens peak attractiveness years start earlier than mens do

In that case don't envy them. Their power is short lived. Your power will last much longer. At 27 a girls looks have faded, her best years are behind her. Your power is increasing. Your best years are still to come.

if you're gotten into a career with advancement. men's attractiveness in later years rely s on having a good career.
men age just like women do, older you get less physically attractive you are.

You'd be surprised.

Many times, people actually get more attractive as they get older. Women most definitely included!

well the reason why I do envy them is because I feel women are far less likely than men are to miss out on dating, relationships and sex throughout your 20's, and that's why I have said to myself if I don't experience having a girlfriend for the remainder of my 20's, then I strongly feel like giving up once my 30's begin, never bother to deal with women ever again, sadly unfortuneately the desire for wanting a girlfriend does not go away.

Em. No. My brother-in-law started dating my sister when he was 28. First girl he dated ever. Bit of a nerd, but not an Aspie. Heck, lately told me that he never though my sis would fall for him.

Married, with a kid, family life, stable job, and happy.

so he married his first ever girlfriend? that sucks, I believe a person should experience a couple of relationships with different people before getting married, settling down.

Point, but not my life.

Plus, it works out for some people. While others are fine by themselves all their lives.

We are all different.

That is lucky, beautiful and does not suck at all. You have issues.