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03 Nov 2017, 6:48 am

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There are no guarantees in life. The rich will say "I did x and I become successful. They're unaware of the thousands of people who did the exact same thing and didn't succeed. They don't know just how chance based life can be.

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03 Nov 2017, 7:27 am

^ I couldn't have put it better myself!


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03 Nov 2017, 8:02 am

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Aspies are all different. I’m clingy and aspie. Though I wouldn’t follow a woman to a bathroom. I just like to talk daily. Which makes me clingy


Which means you need to share special interests, values, and politics. Nobody likes someone telling them what they are doing is wrong. A huge problem with Aspies is the inability to pick up social clues. Which means that Aspies often launch into monologues and create problems that an NT wouldn't. An NT would stop as soon as he picked up that he was being inappropriate.

What has worked on this forum is to find someone on SSI who doesn't mind moving across the country. Perhaps on the Internet via a special interest forum. You might start by looking for a target shooter who doesn't like hunting.



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03 Nov 2017, 12:45 pm

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Why are men so desperate? I have the opposite problem. Must be an aspie thing. I can't stand my man's clingy ways, geez, he seriously would follow me in the bathroom if I didn't shut the door. Then he blames it on me saying i never connect. I should date an aspie...does that work? Or would they both drift apart too easy?

Aspies are all different. I’m clingy and aspie. Though I wouldn’t follow a woman to a bathroom. I just like to talk daily. Which makes me clingy


liking to talk daily when one is in a relationship isn't clingy. it's normal, healthy even.



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03 Nov 2017, 2:38 pm

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sly279 wrote:
Aspies are all different. I’m clingy and aspie. Though I wouldn’t follow a woman to a bathroom. I just like to talk daily. Which makes me clingy


Which means you need to share special interests, values, and politics. Nobody likes someone telling them what they are doing is wrong. A huge problem with Aspies is the inability to pick up social clues. Which means that Aspies often launch into monologues and create problems that an NT wouldn't. An NT would stop as soon as he picked up that he was being inappropriate.

What has worked on this forum is to find someone on SSI who doesn't mind moving across the country. Perhaps on the Internet via a special interest forum. You might start by looking for a target shooter who doesn't like hunting.

People on ssi can’t afford to shoot. Lol. A girl doesn’t have to be into guns for me, just can’t be anti gun.

I recognize when people stop talking at all they aren’t interested in talking to me so I’m not clueless might take me longer then nuts to realize I suppose though.

How does one find ssi people.theres no ssi dating site and we don’t tend to self identify as people hate us for according to them “stealing their money”



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03 Nov 2017, 3:31 pm

sly279 wrote:
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Aspies are all different. I’m clingy and aspie. Though I wouldn’t follow a woman to a bathroom. I just like to talk daily. Which makes me clingy


Which means you need to share special interests, values, and politics. Nobody likes someone telling them what they are doing is wrong. A huge problem with Aspies is the inability to pick up social clues. Which means that Aspies often launch into monologues and create problems that an NT wouldn't. An NT would stop as soon as he picked up that he was being inappropriate.

What has worked on this forum is to find someone on SSI who doesn't mind moving across the country. Perhaps on the Internet via a special interest forum. You might start by looking for a target shooter who doesn't like hunting.

People on ssi can’t afford to shoot. Lol. A girl doesn’t have to be into guns for me, just can’t be anti gun.

I recognize when people stop talking at all they aren’t interested in talking to me so I’m not clueless might take me longer then nuts to realize I suppose though.

How does one find ssi people.theres no ssi dating site and we don’t tend to self identify as people hate us for according to them “stealing their money”

in my area, there's an asperger's support group and a disability support group. could there be something such as those near you? i met a fellow on disability that i dated briefly just by walking in my neighborhood. any hobby
or activity can be an opportunity. anyone who thinks folks on disabilty are stealing their money are grossly misinformed and need some education or perhaps aren't worth your time.



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03 Nov 2017, 5:02 pm

cathylynn wrote:
sly279 wrote:
BTDT wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Aspies are all different. I’m clingy and aspie. Though I wouldn’t follow a woman to a bathroom. I just like to talk daily. Which makes me clingy


Which means you need to share special interests, values, and politics. Nobody likes someone telling them what they are doing is wrong. A huge problem with Aspies is the inability to pick up social clues. Which means that Aspies often launch into monologues and create problems that an NT wouldn't. An NT would stop as soon as he picked up that he was being inappropriate.

What has worked on this forum is to find someone on SSI who doesn't mind moving across the country. Perhaps on the Internet via a special interest forum. You might start by looking for a target shooter who doesn't like hunting.

People on ssi can’t afford to shoot. Lol. A girl doesn’t have to be into guns for me, just can’t be anti gun.

I recognize when people stop talking at all they aren’t interested in talking to me so I’m not clueless might take me longer then nuts to realize I suppose though.

How does one find ssi people.theres no ssi dating site and we don’t tend to self identify as people hate us for according to them “stealing their money”

in my area, there's an asperger's support group and a disability support group. could there be something such as those near you? i met a fellow on disability that i dated briefly just by walking in my neighborhood. any hobby
or activity can be an opportunity. anyone who thinks folks on disabilty are stealing their money are grossly misinformed and need some education or perhaps aren't worth your time.


There is they meet on Wednesday nights at 9pm at a Catholic Church. I’ve heard it’s mostly older men when it was described to me. Not a lot of aspie women and most of them don’t struggle with dating. But I can’t attend night functions.

There’s a aspie love and relationship function also takes place at night I think but it cost money to attend it. Hundreds of dollars. All the adult aspie stuff cost money to go to. Seems crazy to require a group of people more likely to have little money to pay to get help.

https://kindtree.org/#
http://www.autismsocietyor.org/index.ph ... -region-7/

There lots of free stuff for kids with autism or parents with kids with autism. All paid for by the state and federal governments but seems government doesn’t care about helping adults with autism

They’re the taxes are theft types. They only want the military and roads paid for nothing else.
I’ve heard some say those who can’t work should just be lined up and shot. It’s evolution and survival of the fittest.



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03 Nov 2017, 5:41 pm

sly279 wrote:
cathylynn wrote:
sly279 wrote:
BTDT wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Aspies are all different. I’m clingy and aspie. Though I wouldn’t follow a woman to a bathroom. I just like to talk daily. Which makes me clingy


Which means you need to share special interests, values, and politics. Nobody likes someone telling them what they are doing is wrong. A huge problem with Aspies is the inability to pick up social clues. Which means that Aspies often launch into monologues and create problems that an NT wouldn't. An NT would stop as soon as he picked up that he was being inappropriate.

What has worked on this forum is to find someone on SSI who doesn't mind moving across the country. Perhaps on the Internet via a special interest forum. You might start by looking for a target shooter who doesn't like hunting.

People on ssi can’t afford to shoot. Lol. A girl doesn’t have to be into guns for me, just can’t be anti gun.

I recognize when people stop talking at all they aren’t interested in talking to me so I’m not clueless might take me longer then nuts to realize I suppose though.

How does one find ssi people.theres no ssi dating site and we don’t tend to self identify as people hate us for according to them “stealing their money”

in my area, there's an asperger's support group and a disability support group. could there be something such as those near you? i met a fellow on disability that i dated briefly just by walking in my neighborhood. any hobby
or activity can be an opportunity. anyone who thinks folks on disabilty are stealing their money are grossly misinformed and need some education or perhaps aren't worth your time.


There is they meet on Wednesday nights at 9pm at a Catholic Church. I’ve heard it’s mostly older men when it was described to me. Not a lot of aspie women and most of them don’t struggle with dating. But I can’t attend night functions.

There’s a aspie love and relationship function also takes place at night I think but it cost money to attend it. Hundreds of dollars. All the adult aspie stuff cost money to go to. Seems crazy to require a group of people more likely to have little money to pay to get help.

https://kindtree.org/#
http://www.autismsocietyor.org/index.ph ... -region-7/

There lots of free stuff for kids with autism or parents with kids with autism. All paid for by the state and federal governments but seems government doesn’t care about helping adults with autism

They’re the taxes are theft types. They only want the military and roads paid for nothing else.
I’ve heard some say those who can’t work should just be lined up and shot. It’s evolution and survival of the fittest.


Screw them!! :evil:


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03 Nov 2017, 6:20 pm

If there actually is a global man drought, which I doubt, then give up. You clearly have no hope.



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03 Nov 2017, 6:23 pm

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Why are men so desperate? I have the opposite problem. Must be an aspie thing. I can't stand my man's clingy ways, geez, he seriously would follow me in the bathroom if I didn't shut the door. Then he blames it on me saying i never connect. I should date an aspie...does that work? Or would they both drift apart too easy?


I dumped the first guy I ever dated for being like that. It was disgusting. He was an NT, being clingy isn’t an aspie behaviour.



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03 Nov 2017, 8:35 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
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Why are men so desperate? I have the opposite problem. Must be an aspie thing. I can't stand my man's clingy ways, geez, he seriously would follow me in the bathroom if I didn't shut the door. Then he blames it on me saying i never connect. I should date an aspie...does that work? Or would they both drift apart too easy?


I dumped the first guy I ever dated for being like that. It was disgusting. He was an NT, being clingy isn’t an aspie behaviour.


Agreed. Anyone can be clingy, Aspie/Autistic or not.



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03 Nov 2017, 11:52 pm

Why do people presume that women are very desperate for men? I'm not desperate for anything of that nature. I get more turned on by looking at tech gadgets and hardware.


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12 Nov 2017, 3:16 pm

Apparently a study says women are happier being single than men

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2017/11/11/women-prefer-single-relationships-hard-work/

Gotta say, the older I get the less appealing a relationship is. Especially as I know people in relationships who are unhappy. I'd rather be free and single. I'm past that being curious stage and I don't care now. No one has ever wanted me, I'm sick of being judged as not good enough. I'm going my own way.



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13 Nov 2017, 12:57 am

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Apparently a study says women are happier being single than men

I agree that women are really (way) less happy in relationships than men, but I don't think that 'doing more chores' is the complete answer here. My wife does less work than I do, but still she is (way) less happy.



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13 Nov 2017, 3:14 am

314pe wrote:
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Apparently a study says women are happier being single than men

I agree that women are really (way) less happy in relationships than men, but I don't think that 'doing more chores' is the complete answer here. My wife does less work than I do, but still she is (way) less happy.

Doing less chores? Is this for dual income couples or single income couples? If both work full time they should take an equal share of the chores. But if one works and one doesn't then I wouldn't recommend they split the chores equally. Instead the one who doesn't work should take the lionshare of the chores.


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13 Nov 2017, 3:39 am

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314pe wrote:
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Apparently a study says women are happier being single than men

Doing less chores? Is this for dual income couples or single income couples? If both work full time they should take an equal share of the chores. But if one works and one doesn't then I wouldn't recommend they split the chores equally. Instead the one who doesn't work should take the lionshare of the chores.


Yes that's a fair way of doing it... but many men and even women view chores as woman.s work.