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17 Feb 2022, 5:14 pm

cyberdad wrote:

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Well I just don't get why the OP is not willing to get his hands dirty if he wants results and just for younger women. Sure they may reject you OP but at least try. And I'm sorry you are morbidly obese, but they are morbidly obese young women out there too.

I'm not sure if the OP wants to settle with a morbidly obese woman though?

But he himself is morbidly obese so he can't afford to be double standard-ish in who he pics most likely.

In my experience, a lot of overweight guys remain single because in their minds they want a slim girlfriend.

Well over the years my friends would keep on asking me why I keep hooking up with overweight or obese women, and I would tell them I'm getting laid a lot more than they are. Bigger women are easier and aren't as much of a challenge.

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17 Feb 2022, 5:19 pm

^^^you sound like a stud :star:

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17 Feb 2022, 5:55 pm

Mona Pereth wrote:

are plenty of un-partnered autistic women here on Wrong Planet.

Are we on the same WP? As far as I remember most women encountered on this site are either taken or single by choice.
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17 Feb 2022, 6:13 pm

cyberdad wrote:

ironpony wrote:

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ironpony wrote:

I'm not sure if the OP wants to settle with a morbidly obese woman though?

But he himself is morbidly obese so he can't afford to be double standard-ish in who he pics most likely.

In my experience, a lot of overweight guys remain single because in their minds they want a slim girlfriend.

I'm not going to lie and say I wouldn't be more attracted to a slim or average-weight girlfriend, but I'd be open to dating someone of a comparable weight to myself, especially if they also wanted to slim down a bit and figure out the ideal dietary balance like I do. It's a venture we could undertake together.

But I agree that it's unreasonable to be overweight and refuse to date other people who are overweight. I think if you're overweight, and you wouldn't be willing to date someone of a similar body type to yourself, you probably need to lose some weight before it's fair to expect any dating success.

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17 Feb 2022, 6:19 pm

I have no problem feeling attracted to overweight women. In fact, I don't prefer thin women. But I'm not attracted to every woman. I think when I'm not attracted to a woman who happens to be overweight everyone just assumes that's the reason.

Some years ago, I met a lady at work that I really liked and spent a lot of time with. She frequently invited me to go places with her or come to her family's house on holidays. But after about 6 months it turned out she was leading me on and only wanted to be friends. She was overweight, and never bothered me in the slightest.

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17 Feb 2022, 6:29 pm

dorkseid wrote:

She wasn't "leading you on." She wanted to be friends.

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17 Feb 2022, 6:53 pm

dorkseid wrote:

Some years ago, I met a lady at work that I really liked and spent a lot of time with. She frequently invited me to go places with her or come to her family's house on holidays. But after about 6 months it turned out she was leading me on and only wanted to be friends. She was overweight, and never bothered me in the slightest.

Um... Did you make it clear to her that you're attracted? Did you compliment her every time you met, touch her more in an affectionate way? Were you making your interest clear?

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17 Feb 2022, 7:57 pm

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Oh okay, I'm see. I'm sorry to hear that! My mistake.

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17 Feb 2022, 8:29 pm

auntblabby wrote:

just have to find alternatives to them, is all.

You sure know how to make ladies feel good around you. Saying how they're perfectly replaceable by an object you use to pleasure yourself with.

A lot in these threads have been rather dehumanizing toward women.

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17 Feb 2022, 9:30 pm

r00tb33r wrote:

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just have to find alternatives to them, is all.

I don't think he means that women are perfectly replaceable by an object, but rather that if one can't attract a suitable woman, an object might be that individual's only option for satisfying their sexual needs.

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17 Feb 2022, 9:40 pm

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Those women are people too. They too have their own desires. They don't exist just to please you, they've got their own life to live. It's your responsibility to be desirable.

Nobody's denying any woman the right to have her own desires. Lamenting an inability to arouse a desire in a suitable woman is not the same as saying that women should be forced against their will to be with guys who can't get girlfriends.

The onus is on the individual to find someone who is romantically interested in them. Nobody's disputing that. That doesn't mean it's not frustrating if one can't achieve that feat. Furthermore, just because it's an individual's responsibility to find an interested partner does not necessarily mean that if one can't find an interested partner, it's all their fault.

Autism is a social disability. It's going to impact on our social lives. For some of us, that means we're going to struggle monumentally with dating. We didn't choose to have this disability. It's like blaming a cripple for struggling with walking.

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