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03 Mar 2022, 2:00 pm
ironpony wrote:
Well if the political stuff going on right now, and her wanting me to agree with her perhaps, ends up killing the relationship let's say, do you think it's best to be weary of dating women of possible certain other races, because they are likely going to use my 'whiteness' against me?
Your gf most likely isn't using your whiteness against you. She's having political views and debates of a detailed level that you don't like and think are ridiculous. She likes your personal whiteness but thinks you're snob minded and don't get hardship unless it's yours, and are insensitive to her saying her points of view, unappreciative. She probably thinks she got to learn a lot about you but i suggest you prove her wrong about these things. It seems like you really care about the relationship and you are willing to learn. You're not just using her for sex, right? Because when the relationship began I thought that was your reason. You were looking for young women before probably for gratification. How do you think your desires modified?
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03 Mar 2022, 3:41 pm
03 Mar 2022, 3:43 pm
Pepe wrote:
I have been with women but haven't had intercourse for over 20 years.
I never want to do that stupidity ever again.
So, I win...
Errr.
I never want to do that stupidity ever again.
So, I win...
Errr.
There's plenty else to do instead of worrying about bumping bodies isn't there
Young men are so preoccupied, if only they knew.
03 Mar 2022, 3:54 pm
03 Mar 2022, 4:51 pm
03 Mar 2022, 6:02 pm
kraftiekortie wrote:
There's really too much emphasis on "age" these days.
In the old days, it wasn't uncommon at all for there to be relationships between 30s guys and 20s girls. In fact, it was just about the "norm." A man in his 60s going for a twenty-something woman would be called a "dirty old man." But not somebody under 50, certainly.
The only people who minded were the fathers of the younger women.
In the old days, it wasn't uncommon at all for there to be relationships between 30s guys and 20s girls. In fact, it was just about the "norm." A man in his 60s going for a twenty-something woman would be called a "dirty old man." But not somebody under 50, certainly.
The only people who minded were the fathers of the younger women.
I recall in the 1970s you could grope young girls in public and say whatever you wanted to them. My own mother would casually tell us about catching the train to work in the early 1970s and getting wolf whistled every day, I recall my dad saying something about not wearing bright colours as that attracted attention
older teachers male teachers were having affairs with their female students.
When my wife was in Uni in the 1980s she knew a girl who was actually sleeping with not one, but two of her lecturers. When I was in uni one of my lecherous lecturers actually told me he used his office to screw his graduate students. I mean they literally had no fear in those days.
03 Mar 2022, 6:06 pm
cyberdad wrote:
Pepe wrote:
I have been with women but haven't had intercourse for over 20 years.
I never want to do that stupidity ever again.
So, I win...
Errr.
I never want to do that stupidity ever again.
So, I win...
Errr.
There's plenty else to do instead of worrying about bumping bodies isn't there
Young men are so preoccupied, if only they knew.
Worshipping a naked female goddess is my specialty.
03 Mar 2022, 6:14 pm
Rexi wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Yes they are more experienced but I wouldn't know I haven't had sex in 16 years.
Rexi wrote:
What happened to cause such a thing?
I think "it" fell off.
03 Mar 2022, 6:22 pm
kraftiekortie wrote:
There's really too much emphasis on "age" these days.
In the old days, it wasn't uncommon at all for there to be relationships between 30s guys and 20s girls. In fact, it was just about the "norm." A man in his 60s going for a twenty-something woman would be called a "dirty old man." But not somebody under 50, certainly.
The only people who minded were the fathers of the younger women.
In the old days, it wasn't uncommon at all for there to be relationships between 30s guys and 20s girls. In fact, it was just about the "norm." A man in his 60s going for a twenty-something woman would be called a "dirty old man." But not somebody under 50, certainly.
The only people who minded were the fathers of the younger women.
When I was young, the usual paradigm was:
An older man establishes a "nest", through building wealth.
When he is financially secure, he finds a partner.
Things have changed now that women are financially/career independent.
When I was young, many/most women didn't have a job outside the family.
It was what it was. <shrug>
03 Mar 2022, 6:24 pm
kraftiekortie wrote:
A man in his 60s going for a twenty-something woman would be called a "dirty old man."
Only if he wasn't a billionaire.
03 Mar 2022, 8:50 pm
03 Mar 2022, 8:52 pm
Rexi
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03 Mar 2022, 11:03 pm
cyberdad wrote:
Rexi wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
ironpony wrote:
Well I just find her conspiracy theory rants, and her being frustrated if I do not agree with them, to be kind of annoying, but everything else in the relationship is great.
Racism isn't a conspiracy theory ironpony. If she is making projections/drawing lines connecting disparate events with people's behaviour (e.g. truck drivers) maybe tell her that her model may be missing some factors that she hasn't accounted for. If she's as intelligent as you say she will appreciate your attempt at critical thinking.
That's what he's been telling her continuously. She has a lot of patience.
Back to the topic, I agree his g/f has patience.
A friend of mine back in my university days was a fine-arts student and he had a male artist friend who was in his mid-40s who was dating an 18 year old freshman. We met up occasionally for coffee and he and I used often talk about what on earth the girl (who was also a hottie) saw in him.
I've seen this in church. The worst was in a church friendship group where a really gross ugly guy who was in his mid 30s managed to snag a hot 20 year old. He openly showed off but framed his luck as "by the grace of god". He was overweight, irritating and nauseating, But fortunately for him the girl was very religious. He would end every church meeting with "well I might see you all but there again I might never see you again" and laugh as if what he said was hilarious. We all just rolled our eyes.
As young men we might have been a little envious, but now that I'm older it seems maintaining a relationship with a younger girl would require some effort.
But you seem to think your wife and yourself are on the opposite pole of the extremes.
That romance needs cpr.
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Rexi
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03 Mar 2022, 11:07 pm
ironpony wrote:
Rexi wrote:
ironpony wrote:
Well if the political stuff going on right now, and her wanting me to agree with her perhaps, ends up killing the relationship let's say, do you think it's best to be weary of dating women of possible certain other races, because they are likely going to use my 'whiteness' against me?
Your gf most likely isn't using your whiteness against you. She's having political views and debates of a detailed level that you don't like and think are ridiculous. She likes your personal whiteness but thinks you're snob minded and don't get hardship unless it's yours, and are insensitive to her saying her points of view, unappreciative. She probably thinks she got to learn a lot about you but i suggest you prove her wrong about these things. It seems like you really care about the relationship and you are willing to learn. You're not just using her for sex, right? Because when the relationship began I thought that was your reason. You were looking for young women before probably for gratification. How do you think your desires modified?
Sorry, what's this? Who said I was looking for young women for gradification or using for sex?
The last women I dated before her was older than me, and I don't recall saying I was targeting young women before for gradification.
Sorry. I must have misunderstood.
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Rexi
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03 Mar 2022, 11:07 pm
ironpony wrote:
Rexi wrote:
ironpony wrote:
Well if the political stuff going on right now, and her wanting me to agree with her perhaps, ends up killing the relationship let's say, do you think it's best to be weary of dating women of possible certain other races, because they are likely going to use my 'whiteness' against me?
Your gf most likely isn't using your whiteness against you. She's having political views and debates of a detailed level that you don't like and think are ridiculous. She likes your personal whiteness but thinks you're snob minded and don't get hardship unless it's yours, and are insensitive to her saying her points of view, unappreciative. She probably thinks she got to learn a lot about you but i suggest you prove her wrong about these things. It seems like you really care about the relationship and you are willing to learn. You're not just using her for sex, right? Because when the relationship began I thought that was your reason. You were looking for young women before probably for gratification. How do you think your desires modified?
Sorry, what's this? Who said I was looking for young women for gradification or using for sex?
The last women I dated before her was older than me, and I don't recall saying I was targeting young women before for gradification.
Sorry. I must have misunderstood.
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04 Mar 2022, 5:30 am
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