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I love making my bf laugh I do

He proper gets the giggles

I wonder what makes some people want to get married in this day and age

^ Maybe it is an insecurity thing for some people.

They want to be sure of their partners commitment, i.e, "you are mine".

It is strange.

Signing legally binding documents doesn’t exactly scream romance in my opinion.

A lot of people I know got married for religious reasons. I got married because my parents were threatening to shun me. It was never something I especially wanted to do.

Even when I was a kid it never even occurred to me that I might get married one day

I just don't get it

It's like some kind of medieval ritual

^ Yeah, I can relate to that. JW weddings really suck. There’s a talk in them that outlines the different roles for men and women.

It seemed medieval to me. I always hated going to weddings. Well, cake is nice.

Oh yeah I'll have the cake but you can stick the ritual up your jumper

They were always a bit embarrassing to me - the virginity part. That’s more about fundie weddings though. Going to my sister-in-law’s lingerie shower was the worst. It was even worse than being one of her bridesmaids.

As far as being in weddings go, I don’t like uncomfortable clothes or feeling obligated to dance with people, have my picture taken, or smile.

I don’t think I’ll go to a JW wedding again. I definitely won’t go to another lingerie shower. In my opinion, it’s a waste of time and money.

I don't mind the idea of a wedding, but I think they should be private.
Done properly, I think the vows are so intimate and sacred it's like making love.

Most people wouldn't want a huge audience for that.

I don’t really see the vows that way although I think reciting one’s own vows in a private ceremony could be romantic but still not for me.

The way vows are normally done they're not romantic at all.
That's the problem.
They sound rushed, memorized, repeated, and anxious.
In many cases they sound inconsequential.

On microphone it's even weirder.
It's like they're talking to the guests instead of each other.

Some couples blow through them like they're nothing.
It's like the party is all they're after.

I don't get it.

If you're really pledging to stay with someone it should be romantic.
You'd think, anyway?

My own vows were pretty funny.
They were the standard ones with a couple changes.

When I tried to say "for richer or poorer" the mike cut out.
I said FOR RICHER quite loudly, then you can't hear "or poorer".

Maybe I should contest that he didn't follow through with his vow.
I definitely got "for poorer" in the deal.

My ex and I said traditional vows too. He didn’t uphold them either.

I don’t find the idea of following tradition that romantic. A part of me always wants to push back and do something different - to do something more individualistic. Of course, people like different things. I don’t like the concept of marriage, so finding any of it romantic is a challenge.

Even if I never marry, I'm really happy that it's an option. I am fortunate to live in an accepting country.

If I did get married, I don't think I'd want it in a church. There's just something about churches...I've always found them a little garish yet overly sombre. Apparently churches used to have a more jovial atmosphere in terms of architecture. So I've heard anyway. I'm not the religious sort but it would be nice to have a celebration.

I suspect that I'll be forever alone though. Still, it's a comforting thought. A musing of a future that will likely never be.

When I said it's more romantic to be private I meant, entirely private.
No officiant. No paperwork. No fiduciary contracts.
Very individualistic.
It's more meaningful if vows are made freely, like the way I proposed to MR.
We're accountable to ourselves and not the law.

It should be mandatory that when on a first dinner date both parties have to eat spaghetti Bolognese