12 Jan 2018, 2:45 pm
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fluffysaurus wrote:
^If this forum is only for people who are in the right frame of mind for positive social interaction, then none of us belong here 
Agreed. Aren't support forums like this meant for people who have problems? Sure there might be some here that have so severe problems that they should be kept away from all internet forums in order to not cause harm to their own or someone else's minds (I'm not talking about anyone specific here), but I think most are the type that this forum has been made for in the first place.
They are but with respect to social problems such as the likes that many here have, I believe they often fall short. Two points...people tend to want one of three things from an online support forum. 1. Empathy or sympathy, 2. Solutions to problems. 3. Information.
But some people here may be incapable of sufficiently providing, expressing, or acknowleging 1 and may be unwilling to accept 2 and 3 no matter how logical.
Many on the spectrum, when they have a hypothesis or theory but that hypothesis or theory fails they, they will reject it and formulate a new one, and people on the spectrum seem to do that better than NTs, but those on the spectrum who are unable to do this, do not make any progress here. The solution they want is for the world to change to fit their theory and not to change their theory to fit the world. They get stuck in a positive feedback loop where they become more and more upset that they are not getting the results they want and they become entrenched in negativity based on false premesis. They spend their time making post after post "venting" but this ultimately only serves to reenforce the neorological pathways that make them feel that way (SadAspie) rather than revise their theory until they find something that works (Face_of_Boo).
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12 Jan 2018, 2:50 pm
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They are but with respect to social problems such as the likes that many here have, I believe they often fall short. Two points...people tend to want one of three things from an online support forum. 1. Empathy or sympathy, 2. Solutions to problems. 3. Information.
But some people here may be incapable of sufficiently providing, expressing, or acknowleging 1 and may be unwilling to accept 2 and 3 no matter how logical.
Many on the spectrum, when they have a hypothesis or theory but that hypothesis or theory fails they, they will reject it and formulate a new one, and people on the spectrum seem to do that better than NTs, but those on the spectrum who are unable to do this, do not make any progress here. The solution they want is for the world to change to fit their theory and not to change their theory to fit the world. They get stuck in a positive feedback loop where they become more and more upset that they are not getting the results they want and they become entrenched in negativity based on false premesis.
But some people here may be incapable of sufficiently providing, expressing, or acknowleging 1 and may be unwilling to accept 2 and 3 no matter how logical.
Many on the spectrum, when they have a hypothesis or theory but that hypothesis or theory fails they, they will reject it and formulate a new one, and people on the spectrum seem to do that better than NTs, but those on the spectrum who are unable to do this, do not make any progress here. The solution they want is for the world to change to fit their theory and not to change their theory to fit the world. They get stuck in a positive feedback loop where they become more and more upset that they are not getting the results they want and they become entrenched in negativity based on false premesis.
YES! This is sly, to a T.
Once he can FINALLY accept that, he'll be able to move forward with some positive change.
Sly: You say you don't read my posts but I know you do because you respond to some of them and then say you won't again. Anyways, what I want you to know is that I don't want you to accept what I and others advise you to because I want to be able to say "Told ya so, I'm right, you're wrong." No. Nothing could be further from the truth. Reality is that I WANT you to be a happier healthier sly vs. a suicidally depressed sly. That's it that's all. Your stubborn resistance to my, or others', advice does nothing to help you one iota so there's ZERO sense in continuing down the same path and keeping yourself feeling awful. It's a new year, time to learn some new things, let go of your resistance to improvement and Try to see what you can learn and do to be a better, happier, you.
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13 Jan 2018, 4:37 am
Chronos wrote:
fluffysaurus wrote:
^If this forum is only for people who are in the right frame of mind for positive social interaction, then none of us belong here 
Many probably don't. Many would be better served focusing on productive offline endeavors and interacting with people in person. I do not think the internet has been a good thing for mental health. It causes people to spend too much time in their head and dwelling on their problems rather than out grow them.
Then why are you even here?
I don’t like people who preach for things they don’t do themselves.
13 Jan 2018, 4:49 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Chronos wrote:
fluffysaurus wrote:
^If this forum is only for people who are in the right frame of mind for positive social interaction, then none of us belong here
Many probably don't. Many would be better served focusing on productive offline endeavors and interacting with people in person. I do not think the internet has been a good thing for mental health. It causes people to spend too much time in their head and dwelling on their problems rather than out grow them.
Then why are you even here?
I don’t like people who preach for things they don’t do themselves.
I'm not here most of the time. I've been here more recently lately because I've currently been somewhat hung up with health problems and there are some people I have been corresponding with.
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13 Jan 2018, 4:57 am
Chronos wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Chronos wrote:
fluffysaurus wrote:
^If this forum is only for people who are in the right frame of mind for positive social interaction, then none of us belong here
Many probably don't. Many would be better served focusing on productive offline endeavors and interacting with people in person. I do not think the internet has been a good thing for mental health. It causes people to spend too much time in their head and dwelling on their problems rather than out grow them.
Then why are you even here?
I don’t like people who preach for things they don’t do themselves.
I'm not here most of the time. I've been here more recently lately because I've currently been somewhat hung up with health problems and there are some people I have been corresponding with.
So you are not ok lately, that explains much.
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13 Jan 2018, 5:57 pm
I just want to state that doing sock puppets is against WP rules; isn’t that true Xfilesgeek?
A user who attacks males all the times and refuses to quote me in specific and refuses to talk to me directly; doesn’t that ring a bell? ;p 
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