90% of Aspies can't get a date?

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"Why am I not interested in women?
Before I got my Aspergers diagnosis in June 2003, I had complexes for being 30 and a virgin.
They went away with the diagnosis.
My social abilities are so extremely bad that I never learned how to get friends and to understand other people. Therefor, I don't have the same need to get a girlfriend or a family as other people. It's actually like being around a lot of people makes me want to "change the channel" or turn off when it becomes to much for me.
With the chromosome translocation i have, I don't even dare to have children either.
Somebody will maybe disagree with me on this, but I don't want a child neither me as a father or to inherit my autism or genetic disorder!
I spent a great deal of time at an internet dating site and got to "know" some girls there, but now I know that I was only looking for "the wrong part" of the relationship between to people.
On this dating website i behaved like a fool. But I've put that far behind me now. I now know that I'm 30 and a virgin because I have a form of autism and that I've long since accepted, the same way that I've accepted that I can't drive a car because of my epilepsy.
Boys with Asperger's mature slower than other boys and because of that, the gap between them and girls their own age becomes much wider and therefor they have less than zero chance of getting a girlfriend at age 16-18 like other boys. While other boys go to parties or are active in sports at this age, a 16 year-old boy with Asperger's may still be interested in his action figures or other things boys his age grew out of at age 12.
The result of this is that 90% of all men with Asperger's never get a girlfriend or marry.
Sadly there is a sickening "industry" of "experts" who publish books and has websites promoting advice for women who are in love with or are married to men with Asperger's. There are so extremely few men with Asperger's who are in this situation that it's only pathetic!
My obesity, due to my overeating doesn't make me a perfect "fatherhood candidate" either.
I would like to sum up the reasons to why I don't care about this in this way:
1: Lack of social abilities.
2: Doesn't want to subject anyone to the same things my family has had to go through for 30 years, such as weird habits, lack of empathy, rage and "manic" periods.
This is what often destroys relationships for people with Asperger's Syndrome.
More about this on the website of Families of Adults Afflicted with Asperger's Syndrome.
3: I don't want children.
4: I want to "disappear in the crowd" and by no means attract any attention and cause bullying.
I'm against sexual education for young people with Asperger's because 90% of all boys with Asperger's will never reach the maturity needed to get a girlfriend. For them, this education will just become another form of pornography.
schools today has no education about the acceptation of asexuality."

Not sure who this was written by, but it's gotten me thinking. What are the actual numbers of Aspies with romantic relationships?

I have been trying to talk to this girl for a long time. I finally started a conversation and I must have gone on too long or I was boring or whatever, because she seemed extremely disinterested. I just want to talk to this girl, but I can't think of anything to say and even when I do, I always mess up the conversation. How do you get around this?

I know a lot of you people will say something like "Don't worry about it. Just go up and talk to her." Well, I don't know her very well and I at least want to establish some kind of friendship with her beforehand. Obviously, this is the dilemma for most Aspies.

Anyways, to summarize, 1. What do you think of the 90% statistic the person above me gave? Do you think he's just depressed about his life or do you think there is truth to what he says? 2. How do you tackle the problem of not knowing what to say to a girl?

Thanks and have a good day!

What basis do you have for 'most aspies never go to college'? One only has to look on WP to see that many do; of those, not all succeed but that applies to those both off and on the spectrum. Watch the attacks on women, LM - calling them pathetic bullies for having feelings and taking action is patently unfair and wholly inaccurate.


M.

Do you think that a working class kid with AS in a small town ever goes to College? No he's destinied for working as a janitors assistant, or if it's a girl with AS, as a cleaner.
A middle class kid with AS may be "included" in the high school class(course) where he/she is least in danger of being bullied. Wich means that 95% of Aspie kids in Norway go to "Art" courses in high school before being given automatic social security/disability pension at age 19.
These students should be given jobs at age 13, not be included in school.

I'm from a small town, only kid in my class to have AS, yet I'm the only one going to a major university...again, stop with the BS excuses dude. I might be a rare case but this sh** happens. Your opinions on this stuff is that, opinions.