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21 Jun 2012, 1:46 pm

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and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


So what I'm learning (or reaffirming) is that women are shallow, if not more than men. If you have a nice body or lots of money and a bit of charisma/confidence prepare yourself for lots of sex.


Sounds about right. I've already thought this well before anyone said anything.



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21 Jun 2012, 1:53 pm

Kinme wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
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and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


So what I'm learning (or reaffirming) is that women are shallow, if not more than men. If you have a nice body or lots of money and a bit of charisma/confidence prepare yourself for lots of sex.


Sounds about right. I've already thought this well before anyone said anything.


I don't think it makes people shallow though, people judge people on presentation, looks, appearance, tone of voice, charisma, humour, what else have they got to go on when it comes to first impressions? Handling situations in a different way, compatibility and sharing similar long term goals, views or insights become more apparent later on in a relationship.



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21 Jun 2012, 1:58 pm

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Kinme wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
MXH wrote:
and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


So what I'm learning (or reaffirming) is that women are shallow, if not more than men. If you have a nice body or lots of money and a bit of charisma/confidence prepare yourself for lots of sex.


Sounds about right. I've already thought this well before anyone said anything.


I don't think it makes people shallow though, people judge people on presentation, looks, appearance, tone of voice, charisma, humour, what else have they got to go on when it comes to first impressions? Handling situations in a different way, compatibility and sharing similar long term goals, views or insights become more apparent later on in a relationship.


I think they mean when the people are looking for solely those things in a relationship. They're not looking for a deeper connection.



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21 Jun 2012, 2:07 pm

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bizboy1 wrote:
MXH wrote:
and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


So what I'm learning (or reaffirming) is that women are shallow, if not more than men. If you have a nice body or lots of money and a bit of charisma/confidence prepare yourself for lots of sex.


Meanwhile those of us who paid attention to the lessons in kindergarten, are respectful, quiet, sharing, caring, etc, are consistently locked out until all the fun times are over and it's time to settle down.


That's why you need to treat women like a commodity if you want to get laid. Just be confident and apply basic economics to your issues. Women have a higher purchasing price due to excess demand, therefore they are able to pick and choose more easily (hence they are more shallow). It's much easier for an ugly women to get laid than it is for an ugly man purely from an economic standpoint. If you're looking to get laid the most obvious thing is to maximize what most are looking for: namely wealth, power, and looks. I'm sure someone will say tell me I'm wrong and that personality matters too. Well, personality does matter, but does it get your foot in the door? I'm a nice guy and it hasn't worked for me. In fact, most of my research shows being nice doesn't get you laid, being a jerk does. I know many guys with great personalities but without looks and money they get rejected all the time. The good looking guys, the wealthy guys, the jerks get the women. Therefore try to be one of those guys. It's the easiest way I believe. Like Tom Leykis says, there are exceptions to the rule. I'm sure some of you women will deny this, pretend it's not true, or simply are the exception to the rule.



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21 Jun 2012, 2:11 pm

bizboy1 wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
MXH wrote:
and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


So what I'm learning (or reaffirming) is that women are shallow, if not more than men. If you have a nice body or lots of money and a bit of charisma/confidence prepare yourself for lots of sex.


Meanwhile those of us who paid attention to the lessons in kindergarten, are respectful, quiet, sharing, caring, etc, are consistently locked out until all the fun times are over and it's time to settle down.


That's why you need to treat women like a commodity if you want to get laid. Just be confident and apply basic economics to your issues. Women have a higher purchasing price due to excess demand, therefore they are able to pick and choose more easily (hence they are more shallow). It's much easier for an ugly women to get laid than it is for an ugly man purely from an economic standpoint. If you're looking to get laid the most obvious thing is to maximize what most are looking for: namely wealth, power, and looks. I'm sure someone will say tell me I'm wrong and that personality matters too. Well, personality does matter, but does it get your foot in the door? I'm a nice guy and it hasn't worked for me. In fact, most of my research shows being nice doesn't get you laid, being a jerk does. I know many guys with great personalities but without looks and money they get rejected all the time. The good looking guys, the wealthy guys, the jerks get the women. Therefore try to be one of those guys. It's the easiest way I believe. Like Tom Leykis says, there are exceptions to the rule. I'm sure some of you women will deny this, pretend it's not true, or simply are the exception to the rule.


I have no wealth, I have no power, nor do I have the ambition to get either of those things. They don't interest me in the slightest. I have looks, but obviously not the looks which attract attractive women. Since all I seem to manage to attract are ugly fat girls.



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21 Jun 2012, 2:14 pm

rabbittss wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
MXH wrote:
and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


So what I'm learning (or reaffirming) is that women are shallow, if not more than men. If you have a nice body or lots of money and a bit of charisma/confidence prepare yourself for lots of sex.


Meanwhile those of us who paid attention to the lessons in kindergarten, are respectful, quiet, sharing, caring, etc, are consistently locked out until all the fun times are over and it's time to settle down.


That's why you need to treat women like a commodity if you want to get laid. Just be confident and apply basic economics to your issues. Women have a higher purchasing price due to excess demand, therefore they are able to pick and choose more easily (hence they are more shallow). It's much easier for an ugly women to get laid than it is for an ugly man purely from an economic standpoint. If you're looking to get laid the most obvious thing is to maximize what most are looking for: namely wealth, power, and looks. I'm sure someone will say tell me I'm wrong and that personality matters too. Well, personality does matter, but does it get your foot in the door? I'm a nice guy and it hasn't worked for me. In fact, most of my research shows being nice doesn't get you laid, being a jerk does. I know many guys with great personalities but without looks and money they get rejected all the time. The good looking guys, the wealthy guys, the jerks get the women. Therefore try to be one of those guys. It's the easiest way I believe. Like Tom Leykis says, there are exceptions to the rule. I'm sure some of you women will deny this, pretend it's not true, or simply are the exception to the rule.


I have no wealth, I have no power, nor do I have the ambition to get either of those things. They don't interest me in the slightest. I have looks, but obviously not the looks which attract attractive women. Since all I seem to manage to attract are ugly fat girls.


Then to be happy you must lower your standards. If you can't get good looking women, then don't dwell on them. Either accept ugly fat girls or don't be in a relationship.



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21 Jun 2012, 2:20 pm

bizboy1 wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
MXH wrote:
and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


So what I'm learning (or reaffirming) is that women are shallow, if not more than men. If you have a nice body or lots of money and a bit of charisma/confidence prepare yourself for lots of sex.


Meanwhile those of us who paid attention to the lessons in kindergarten, are respectful, quiet, sharing, caring, etc, are consistently locked out until all the fun times are over and it's time to settle down.


That's why you need to treat women like a commodity if you want to get laid. Just be confident and apply basic economics to your issues. Women have a higher purchasing price due to excess demand, therefore they are able to pick and choose more easily (hence they are more shallow). It's much easier for an ugly women to get laid than it is for an ugly man purely from an economic standpoint. If you're looking to get laid the most obvious thing is to maximize what most are looking for: namely wealth, power, and looks. I'm sure someone will say tell me I'm wrong and that personality matters too. Well, personality does matter, but does it get your foot in the door? I'm a nice guy and it hasn't worked for me. In fact, most of my research shows being nice doesn't get you laid, being a jerk does. I know many guys with great personalities but without looks and money they get rejected all the time. The good looking guys, the wealthy guys, the jerks get the women. Therefore try to be one of those guys. It's the easiest way I believe. Like Tom Leykis says, there are exceptions to the rule. I'm sure some of you women will deny this, pretend it's not true, or simply are the exception to the rule.


I have no wealth, I have no power, nor do I have the ambition to get either of those things. They don't interest me in the slightest. I have looks, but obviously not the looks which attract attractive women. Since all I seem to manage to attract are ugly fat girls.


Then to be happy you must lower your standards. If you can't get good looking women, then don't dwell on them. Either accept ugly fat girls or don't be in a relationship.


you might be the 3000th person to tell him that :lol:



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21 Jun 2012, 2:23 pm

Kinme wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Kinme wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
MXH wrote:
and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


So what I'm learning (or reaffirming) is that women are shallow, if not more than men. If you have a nice body or lots of money and a bit of charisma/confidence prepare yourself for lots of sex.


Sounds about right. I've already thought this well before anyone said anything.


I don't think it makes people shallow though, people judge people on presentation, looks, appearance, tone of voice, charisma, humour, what else have they got to go on when it comes to first impressions? Handling situations in a different way, compatibility and sharing similar long term goals, views or insights become more apparent later on in a relationship.


I think they mean when the people are looking for solely those things in a relationship. They're not looking for a deeper connection.


I think the usage of the word shallow is meant to depict the same way that women talk about men as being shallow and only into looks.



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21 Jun 2012, 2:24 pm

And the answer is still the same, every time, I won't be in a relationship, and I'll continue to complain about it online.

Don't like it, don't read my posts.

I mean, be realistic here, if I lower my standards.. then I'm not really any happier than i was with my standards where they are now. I'm just admitting to myself I don't deserve anything better than the girl I'm then with. That's not fair to me, and it's certainly not fair to her.



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21 Jun 2012, 2:27 pm

MXH wrote:
Kinme wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Kinme wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
MXH wrote:
and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


So what I'm learning (or reaffirming) is that women are shallow, if not more than men. If you have a nice body or lots of money and a bit of charisma/confidence prepare yourself for lots of sex.


Sounds about right. I've already thought this well before anyone said anything.


I don't think it makes people shallow though, people judge people on presentation, looks, appearance, tone of voice, charisma, humour, what else have they got to go on when it comes to first impressions? Handling situations in a different way, compatibility and sharing similar long term goals, views or insights become more apparent later on in a relationship.


I think they mean when the people are looking for solely those things in a relationship. They're not looking for a deeper connection.


I think the usage of the word shallow is meant to depict the same way that women talk about men as being shallow and only into looks.


Yeah, on the surface stuff; not love and genuine feelings to be with the person for more than shallow reasons.



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21 Jun 2012, 2:31 pm

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and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


Are you SURE they're not bots? 8O


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21 Jun 2012, 2:40 pm

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MXH wrote:
and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


Are you SURE they're not bots? 8O

if they are i need to get myself a bot this conversational



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21 Jun 2012, 2:41 pm

MXH wrote:
Kinme wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Kinme wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
MXH wrote:
and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


So what I'm learning (or reaffirming) is that women are shallow, if not more than men. If you have a nice body or lots of money and a bit of charisma/confidence prepare yourself for lots of sex.


Sounds about right. I've already thought this well before anyone said anything.


I don't think it makes people shallow though, people judge people on presentation, looks, appearance, tone of voice, charisma, humour, what else have they got to go on when it comes to first impressions? Handling situations in a different way, compatibility and sharing similar long term goals, views or insights become more apparent later on in a relationship.


I think they mean when the people are looking for solely those things in a relationship. They're not looking for a deeper connection.


I think the usage of the word shallow is meant to depict the same way that women talk about men as being shallow and only into looks.


By that standard, everyone would be shallow since most short term attraction, getting a foot in the door and first impressions are based upon presentation. A more extreme case of shallow would be someone that's a gold digger and has long term intentions to exploit the other person based on something superficial.



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21 Jun 2012, 2:42 pm

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And the answer is still the same, every time, I won't be in a relationship, and I'll continue to complain about it online.

Don't like it, don't read my posts.

I mean, be realistic here, if I lower my standards.. then I'm not really any happier than i was with my standards where they are now. I'm just admitting to myself I don't deserve anything better than the girl I'm then with. That's not fair to me, and it's certainly not fair to her.


I dont like it because you act like a dipshit against everyone here. Also with your library of ignorance you arent making yourself to be much more than a laughing stock. I wish you could see how stupid you sound here at times



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21 Jun 2012, 2:54 pm

MXH wrote:
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and the tally is up to 3 girls having messaged me in24 hours of making the account


Are you SURE they're not bots? 8O

if they are i need to get myself a bot this conversational


I'll just wait for the website links, viagra references, and porn.


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21 Jun 2012, 3:04 pm

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And the answer is still the same, every time, I won't be in a relationship, and I'll continue to complain about it online.

Don't like it, don't read my posts.

I mean, be realistic here, if I lower my standards.. then I'm not really any happier than i was with my standards where they are now. I'm just admitting to myself I don't deserve anything better than the girl I'm then with. That's not fair to me, and it's certainly not fair to her.


I dont like it because you act like a dipshit against everyone here. Also with your library of ignorance you arent making yourself to be much more than a laughing stock. I wish you could see how stupid you sound here at times


And you are a broken record, just like 70% of the rest of this forum.

No one ever has any real solutions to the problems, so they just repeat the same chestnuts over and over again.

Any advice which requires me to change anything about myself which I do not wish to change is unacceptable.
Any advice which requires me to accept the way things are and delude myself into being something I'm not is unacceptable.
Any advice which tells me to engage in activities which I'm not interested in or aren't available in my area, is simply useless.

Only 2 people on this forum have ever given me solid advice, and their advice still didn't change anything even once I put it into effect.