Slys dating site advice help thread.

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Lmao I was waiting for someone to call me a homophobe. XD
When I said "she" I was talking about MissChess, when I said "they" I was talking about random people who butt in without reading a discussion, just like you did. You helped me prove my point.

Would you find it odd if she disagrees with me? Somehow, I wouldn't.

Thing is, people don't look at how they are, they look at what they can get. Usually that influences their standards more.

Honestly I think that katy/willbur is subconsciously racist to the bone with preconceived prejudices against Italians and Middle Easterns.
I bet she checked your location and thought “oh he must be a hardliner catholic homophobe”.

It’s not her first time she rushes to accuse the two of us (due to her not understanding the post well like the above example) of such things.

A girl I talked to on POF (yeah, that same dating app site) had a care giver that helped her do things. We both said we wanted to go do hang out somewhere over the weekend, but because of being the cluster that it is and my poor/lazy planning, it didn't exactly go through. She didn't get upset or hurt me, though.

The name “Plenty of fish” always makes me feel like eating fish and chips.

It makes me wants to eat Sayadieh (fish and rice....well because, where I live we usually eat fish with rice, not with chips).

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^They both sound yummy.

I prefer it this way though (rice cooked separately):

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From this point on, the next person who accuses Kara of being a sockpuppet is getting a thirty day ban. If they do it again after that, it's going to be a permanent ban.

There's no evidence that she's a Katy alt. Not everyone who expresses a feminist opinion is a Katy/Wilbur/StarvingArtist clone.

Stop it.

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As the "she" under discussion here...

You said something I didn't understand. That happens. I asked for clarification, and you responded by asking if I'm functionally illiterate.

This says a great deal about your temperament (which is judgemental and obnoxious) and nothing about my level of literacy.

You didn't really ask for clarification.

I said, and I quote myself, "I was thrown by Peace's reply as well, to the extent that I wondered if it was sarcasm or a joke I didn't get."

To me, that seems to indicate a need for clarification. If that wasn't clear to you, perhaps you could ask me to clarify next time, rather than impugning my literacy?

Just a gentle suggestion.

But I don't really get how could I seem to be sarcastic or joking, I was talking about sexual harassment. Thats mostly what made me upset.

Sweetness, I'm a 50-year-old Aspie. There are a lot of times that I don't "get it" when other people use sarcasm, and even more times when I don't understand how something that I don't perceive as a joke was actually meant as a joke by whoever said/wrote it.

You're in here tossing around phrases like "scum and freaks" to describe people whose sexual preferences, and the expression thereof, don't match yours within the framework of a gay hookup app where that's accepted behavior. I went down a list of options in my mind, and in order, they came up as:

1. Peace is a judgemental jackhole who may or may not be a religious fundie;
2. Peace is joking in a way I don't understand;
3. Peace is using sarcasm in a way I don't understand.

Note that only one of these three involved assuming something negative about you. I try not to do that, so I opted for the other two.

You, on the other hand, immediately assumed I'm functionally illiterate, and have been fairly nasty about it since then. Ergo, I've had to revise my earlier willingness to make a charitable assumption, and have now concluded that you're a judgemental jackhole who may or may not be a religious fundamentalist.

Mind you, I'm not saying you're a bad person - we tend to be more or less what we're raised to be. You will, however, have to excuse my irritation at your baseless assumptions regarding my literacy, particularly when your usage made it clear that you'd regard functional illiteracy as an insult. That's a nasty piece of ableist language there.

Psst....there are many functionally illiterate people who are intelligent, kind, wonderful human beings. You won't find an awful lot of them on a forum where text is the primary means of communication, but that doesn't make it acceptable to use a description of their abilities as an insult.

Thank you kortie. They are par for the course though.

I don’t eat fish or anything from the ocean.

Okay Sly, so I've read through most of this and I can easily conclude that you are single because you believe you deserve to be and therefore you are.
You say the world is shallow and that it's all about money and looks but I think it's that way in YOUR world because you've made it so. It sounds like you spend all day imbedded in fantasy to the point you don't know what real women are like or even how to communicate with them - minus being an aspie

I used to have a friend like you, granted he was more social and always falling in love with his female friends. Then one day the 'impossible' happened and he met a very beautiful woman at a bus stop. They were together for years and throughout most of those years he was depressed and soon became emotionally manipulative to cope. And then he became physically abusive. Because even though he thought he was only unhappy because he was alone, it turned out his issues were a lot deeper than money, clothes and sex.

I think you take solace in emotionally beating yourself up and I fear if you got into a relationship with a woman of the calibre that you want that you wouldn't treat her right because you don't even know how to treat yourself right.

You show the signs of someone who has the ability to be abusive. Homophobic, misogynistic, sexist, fatphobic, shallow and unrealistic. Also you deflect so much of your own emotions into the world, even if a woman told you she liked you I'm sure you would somehow self-sabotage.

I hate to sound like I'm bashing you or being mean but seriously. Even when people have tried to be helpful on here or kind you just seem to brush them or be throw in another sob story.

I advise getting help for the depression. I know as an aspie it will always come and go but your self-esteem and self-image is so low what do you have to lose?

Also just because someone is disabled, fat, unemployed, ugly, poor, weird, sad or lonely, that does not mean they have no ambitions. For many people in those positions, their ambition is to be happy or content in any way they can be. It's kind of insulting how you look down on them. I personally feel hurt tbh.