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18 Feb 2022, 8:07 pm
kraftiekortie wrote:
Now wait a second.....how am I "joking about other people's experiences"?
If my wife doesn't want me to "fap" in front of her, I won't "fap" in front of her. I'm just not of the opinion that pleasing myself constitutes "cheating."
If my wife doesn't want me to "fap" in front of her, I won't "fap" in front of her. I'm just not of the opinion that pleasing myself constitutes "cheating."
Well, if it's serious what you said, then my issue is with the appreciation of the kind of humor and more so the person using it below your post.
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18 Feb 2022, 8:08 pm
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18 Feb 2022, 8:16 pm
theprisoner wrote:
Rexi wrote:
A person for example may be uncomfortable for their gf to use a dildo of the same or higher size even if that dildo helps with back pain and curving uncomfortably or reach easier, and help giving an aging vagina more elasticity and keeping shape, or help before gyn visits. .
I am all for women's rights. Women's right to use a dildo. Of any description.
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I guess the next step is to claim disloyalty if you accidentally get a boner from seeing an underwear ad.
The boner was disloyal to the person, sadly. Boners have their own mind, lol. The person is not a boner.
Yeah your above paragraph, and the resulting thoughts, that naturally arose, of women using dildos.. on themselves....well it does have a mind of it's own, you're right.
Female boners, I don't like exposing myself to them when in a commitment regardless of it being allowed. I enjoy sharing it with my fiance.
When I was poly it was very different, however I have a different view on commitment and different desires, wishes and needs. After something like a joke I make, if it wasn't right I don't feel good about it, just doesn't seem like the kind of person I am and the things I like to do, the atmosphere I want to create and be part of.
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18 Feb 2022, 8:20 pm
kraftiekortie wrote:
I guess I would feel sort of "inadequate" if a woman used a dildo.
But I wouldn't get all crazy about it.....if that's what she digs....then it's cool by me.
But I wouldn't get all crazy about it.....if that's what she digs....then it's cool by me.
Crazy? I doubt anyone's crazy for their feelings and desires being that way, and wanting something to be unique in their relationship. Perhaps they don't have to agree.
Maybe because you don't think it's anything special that you don't have any ["crazy"] feelings about it.
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18 Feb 2022, 8:35 pm
theprisoner wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
I guess I would feel sort of "inadequate" if a woman used a dildo.
Understandable, some of those things are ridiculously large. If it's just one of those pocket ones, ya know, non replica, lol, like all generic, I don't see what the big deal is.
How would a woman feel if you brought in a artificial plastic 'pussy-cat, would she feel jealous, ..? I don't know...all depends on individual personality, at the end of the day. What they are willing to be open towards.
Yep. Many people are ashamed to be truthful and hide what bothers them just because society expects them to put up with it or feel a certain way about it, or they're labeled p**** if they don't.
And the issue of women being all over the place in sexualized instances is so excessive in the media with the discovery of technology, but it would be on sculptures otherwise, except the amount would be closer to 1:1 with the greeks, not that it's any more pleasant. Maybe then some people would comprehend but maybe not. and to be expected to go through it every day, every movie that's not animated, even animations, ads, it's everywhere, while you're trying to have a romantic time with your s\o. I'm not sure if people really understand what some have to endure. Feelings just are, so try to deal with them, hide them, you have issues, etc.
And then some people have an entitlement over whatever happens in a relationship as if they're single, no discussion, do whatever they want and not only that but refuse to listen and soothe the partner who feels like a slave offering commitment as good as they can but who doesn't matter, and some even expect exposure to high triggers, like my ex constantly getting performed fellatio in front of me by her friend and never allowing it from me, I hope both her genitals and his head fell off.
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18 Feb 2022, 8:39 pm
cyberdad wrote:
r00tb33r wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
“The Hand” alleviated much sorrow, and provided relief.
My right hand mistress
nothing compares 2 dolly
Here's my mistress dressed up for me
Some partners see solitary masturbation as a form of disloyalty, if they expect to share sexual experiences with you. You can read about people going "no fap", lots of good feedback.
I've done a long post on it a few years ago. Most couples reach their 50s they rarely do it at all. It's just a fact of life.
I'm nearly 60, and this is not the experience of me or others I know.
18 Feb 2022, 8:40 pm
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18 Feb 2022, 9:03 pm
kraftiekortie wrote:
I'm a "vanilla" sort of guy----sort of boring for some....but I'm okay with it.
I've had girlfriends who were pretty wild, into S & M, B & D. Roleplaying.
I'm not into that stuff. It doesn't move me
I don't feel people expressing their fantasies is immoral or anything like that.
I've had girlfriends who were pretty wild, into S & M, B & D. Roleplaying.
I'm not into that stuff. It doesn't move me
I don't feel people expressing their fantasies is immoral or anything like that.
Kinks are kinks, I'm for fulfilling them, my forehead star isn't gonna fall off if i do unless there's medical or mental concern. I see it as responsibility rather than preference and I know I'd appreciate it if they do the same for me. That's why partners are committed, so they work stuff out amongst themselves otherwise they wouldn't be. They go to each other with their situation and it is trusted it will be understood and resolved. If something as simple as a kink can't be worked out what is the hope percentage for intimacy there, and harder life problems?
It's only fair to expect the same. then again that might require adjustments, you know like there are some concerns in partners and things that can be done to make things as comfortable as possible. "Live dangerously" but don't die, lol. And listen and take no for an answer, ultimately. There are alternatives, it's clear when someone's trying to please, in other ways. No means no.
I think most things shared with a s\o can't be anything else but pleasant. Maybe I just have a very pleasant fiancee. Hmm, except when it hurts and he's always listening to me and doing it better. Sometimes I don't wanna say, because of some warped sense that I can please him that way, but he keeps making sure I'm okay. Those memories are perfection.
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18 Feb 2022, 9:56 pm
auntblabby wrote:
r00tb33r wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
“The Hand” alleviated much sorrow, and provided relief.
My right hand mistress
nothing compares 2 dolly
Here's my mistress dressed up for me
Some partners see solitary masturbation as a form of disloyalty, if they expect to share sexual experiences with you. You can read about people going "no fap", lots of good feedback.
if somebody had an enthusiastic attractive sex partner, why would they fap?
Well, if I want to have sex but my boyfriend isn't up to it...then that is a viable option. Or if I get the urge and he's at work. Or if I want to experiment and explore things a little myself so I can get more ideas of what feels good and can communicate that to my boyfriend.
Seeing it as a form of disloyalty seems puritanical. Though I suppose I could see it being an issue if ones partner refuses sex with them most of the time but masturbates all the time instead.
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19 Feb 2022, 6:39 am
Benjamin the Donkey wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Who am I cheating on when I "fap"?
Your other hand.
you made me fall off my chair
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