Didn’t come as a surprise that he was a virgin!

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You certainly have been, and you haven’t been condescending.

I think it’s important to demonstrate how many variables there are which can make dating a challenge for some women, especially when posters claim, as they’ve done in this and recently locked threads, that it’s easier for women or even that one should take their stated problems “with a grain of salt.”

I think these posters don't realize it's easier for women to find sex and dates if they want guys who are not discerning or unethical. It is not easier for women to find sex and dates they want.

Does this mean that guys are turning down the opportunities to loose their virginity because they can't get a woman they want enough?

But wouldn't a lot of guys who are virgins eventually give in and realize maybe in some cases, beggers cannot be choosers?

But wouldn't a lot of guys who are virgins eventually give in and realize maybe in some cases, beggers cannot be choosers?

I think these posters don't realize it's easier for women to find sex and dates if they want guys who are not discerning or unethical. It is not easier for women to find sex and dates they want.

Still, I get the sense some of the women here find the fact that men answered the question annoying.

Do you reflect the experiences and knowledge of all women?

What do you do for living, folks?

It took a heavy slant toward reality, because a few of the male posters kept asking why dating might be difficult for women.
Someone suggested the only thing women had to worry about was "being rejected by Chads", which was laughable.

The original topic from Jamesy was whether and how a woman can spot a virgin man.
That was a question which women should be answering, not men.
That's why women came to this thread.

Men went off topic to talk about their loneliness and frustration as virgins, including three men (Aspie1, ironpony, and Nades), who aren't even virgins. They were veering off topic from Jamesy's question, so the women who were here to answer Jamesy's question started answering yours as well.

I'm sorry you find the topic of sexual assault and violence against women to be a downer.
I'm not a fan of it either and that's why we spoke up.

Given the rude tone of some of the earlier posts ("stick your wang in her ... lie to her ... deceive her ...") and the assertions that men were making on women's behalf (..."you can get sex whenever you want it" ...), it was important to protect women's sexual safety and set the record straight.

Sorry to rain on your parade, or Jamesy's.



If I knew how to circle things on a picture, I'd point out the high number of these risk factors I've seen happening in this thread, and around L&D in general.

Edit:
I figured out how to circle. Here's a sample of behaviours I've seen and experienced personally, on Wrong Planet. Some but not all of it can be seen in this thread. I know many other members who have witnessed similar sexism, homophobia, transphobia, and stalking either on the forum, or in Private Message from fellow members. There could be more going on that I'm not even aware of.

Thanks to Alex, Cornflake, and our mod teams past and present for helping to keep WP a safer place for all.

I’m a special education teacher.

For autistic kids?

I’m in learning support, but I have had some autistic students. Most of my kids have learning disabilities and need help with reading and/or math.

I’m thinking about moving to autism support. I have subbed a lot in those classrooms. They’ve been either great or awful. It depends on the teacher.