How many of you are on OKcupid?

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Had a quick look at your profile and was a little surprised by "I only check this like once a dayish". Isn't that quite often? Or am I just old and not up with the frequency of technology use of young adults today

I dunno... I wanted to add something like that so it didn't look like I was on all the time...

I pretty much leave mine on in the background all the time. I love tabbed browsing. Doesn't mean I'm actively checking it though.

I do the same thing which is why I thought the notice might be needed, I removed it though.

So frustrating.. found a really interesting young lady.. so I visited her profile.. she visited my profile.. so I sent her a message.. Nothing..

3 days later she visited my profile again.. so I sent her another message..

Still nothing..

Still doing that to me before. Always stalk the profile without responding the message. If she kept that up, report her as a stalker.

Ahh, no, I don't think she's stalking me at all. I'm just frustrated that she hasn't sent me a reply, yet is interested enough to check out my profile twice.

In my experience, girls that look like her don't stalk people.

Dude, you know what stalking means?

Women are smart enough to know about things, even reading messages, checking notifications and that like. She didn't reply to you, so to me. That is uncomfortable, if she checked the profile more than twice. That is prime example of stalking. There is no evidence of knowing this is actually an interest. It just stalking ok?

Yeah I know what stalking is, I'm not an idiot. I also realize that most women are smart enough to read messages and check notifications. She's looked at my profile a few times, big deal, I'm hoping that means she's interested and is just trying to think of something to say, all It is right now is waiting.. and frustration..

I'm not concerned about it.. in fact.. I'd be thrilled if she wanted to stalk me. She wouldn't have to stand outside in the rain, she could come on inside, riffle through my personal possession if she liked.

I hardly think you can notify the police for stalking when someone looks at your profile twice

Dude you are being paranoid. You have Aspergers right? So you understand what it is like to be socially awkward and not quite sure what to say or how to respond to someone. If somebody is on a dating site like Okcupid it obviously means they are having some issue with dating in real life which is why they are on their in the first place. It's highly likely that the girl is incredibly shy and anti-social, just like many of us and doesn't quite know how to talk to the guy but still likes him.

The scenario as it may have happened:

You visited her profile.
She saw that you visited, so she looked at yours. Maybe she wasn't interested.
You sent her a message because you saw that she viewed your profile.
She got your message and couldn't quite remember who you were so she checked your profile again. Still not interested.
You sent her another message because you saw that she viewed your profile again.

Not saying this is the case, but it's an example of how it can work. Checking a profile means nothing, which is why I have that feature turned off so I don't get distracted by "what it all meeeaaannnss".

THANK YOU! This is what I mean before! Now I feel good for someone backing me up. Yes its clear.

This is the scenario I am getting lately:

I visit her profile, I don't message her, she messages me later

OR...

I visit her profile, I don't message her, I wait and get no message so I message her with something humorous or a relevant flirt about a physical feature of her or something abt her profile. She usually replies.

OR

Nothing of the above works so I say NEXT, because like girls on okc, I can afford now to be ....hmm... picky on okc!

Now I just want to delete my profile again. thanks.

I recently joined, and it's been... interesting. I highly doubt I'd ever actually find anyone who was compatible with me (since I'm asexual, and don't want to be in a sexual relationship). But I've enjoyed getting to know some folks on there, and it's made me feel like I'm not the only person in the world who is in relationship limbo, longs for human companionship, and feels it's lacking in their life. So basically I've found other people to commiserate with, and just be friends while we continue looking for our perfect match.

I agree about the 'stalking' issue... It's typical for me to visit someone's profile 2-3 times, because I forget who they are, or if I've been there already. And if they never actually messaged me, and it's clear that we're not suited for each other, I don't feel obligated to message them either. I think it's best to not get hung up over who visits your profile; they're just randomly clicking on people without keeping track of where they've already been