Would you dump someone who got fat?

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No. I can't think of a more irrelevant thing to me about a person than how much space he takes up.
I've spent most of my life obese, and could wind up there again, so I make it a point from the beginning that bigotry and hatred toward fat people will get him shown the door.

Can totally sympathise with above comment. I hope that a guy simply not wanting to date someone over a certain weight when they have no problem with fat folks otherwise isn't lumped in with the bigots. My sister doesn't date black men merely out of preference, even though otherwise colour is no real matter to us (it would be stupid if it was a matter to us, because a lot of our family are black!), I'd be pretty damn peed if someone called her racist for that.

Anyways, DogsWithoutHorses said it best with that video of "It's ok not to like things, just don't be a dick about it." Don't like it, fine, just don't tell others not to like it either lol and if someone not liking things really gets to you don't be a dick about it to them either

LMAO!

If she became morbidly Obese yes (like 150 lbs overweight). If its like 30--40 pounds no.

Maybe the whole world lol should be more accepting of men in bras?

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Amen!

I think, generally, everyone has their own hardships in life, their own struggles, and just like most people can't see all of what what pushes an aspie along an aspie path, an alcoholic along an alcoholic path, a grifter along a grifting path, or a person who's 400+ lbs along their path, I think we make a lot of wild assumptions that fit what we want to feel about the world and sadly quite often its about feeling better about ourselves at their expense (not always, sometimes its just sincerely not getting it), but regardless it seems like the best way of going about this is say to yourself - if you have to judge at all "Pshh....I could never let my self go like that", keep that to one's self, and keep that as personal standards. Sharing it really starts painting a lot of tautologies that society already has out there in force anyway and it ends up being an exercise in stating the status quo obvious, which these people are swimming eyeballs deep in - if it was going to shock them into changing they already typically would have.

I hope that doesn't sound like a shot at anyone at any side of this - really just a suggestion that the human condition is still rubbish, has been for millions of years, and so much of what we already grate on each other for is either redundant, arbitrary, or both. I get that evolutionary psychology drives us to be petty, drives us to try and exclude people from mating and set big stigmas on those who don't meet the right criteria or definitions but we've seen just how well that's working these days already - not much at all, and if anything what's the added stress and cortisol going to do to an overweight person's weight?

Yes! ^ That is a super post by techstepgenr8tion. Very articulate and well thought out.