What is the main reason why guys have to do the approaching?

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18 Nov 2012, 5:22 pm

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Yes we should be support each others. Let start 1- not all men who can't get dates are creepy
2-it not women fault they get men. Men are the one's who are hitting on and tolerated women
3-Aspie women are not bad because they get dates, they are just lucky they live in a society in which men will Tolerate them
4- Shy men,aspie men,nervous men are not bad people
5- since there is alot anti gay bulling stuff. we need to teach young girls that not all men have the ability to go up and ask out a women, we need to teach young girls that they too can go up and talk to men and teach young girls that shy men are not creepy
6- we need to stop showing support for jerks and abusive men. We need to stop teaching girls that men who like jerks are ''real men'' and men who are shy are ''p**** and not worthy''
7- we need to teach men, that women have feeling and are not ''slu*ty bimbo's''


I take no issue with anything on this list.

Most of these are societical issues. The only way they will change if we actually change it - once again, someone has to go first.

I take issue with people think think they will change things by being negative, bitter, and blaming their problems on others - in other words, I have no issue with the ends only the *means* they choose to do it through.


I blame the liberals (LOL) just kidding



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18 Nov 2012, 5:34 pm

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You got the guys who want nothing but sex and b***h and moan about not getting it when they know they can't get it because it's obvious they want sex and nothing else. You also got the guys who can GET girls who come in here talking about women being prizes or sex objects, though the guys who are saying that aren't getting attacked (why is that?) You got the guys like me who don't care about sex but want a relationship, but can't GET one no matter what they do, and they're getting attacked and thought of as creeps/molesters even though sex isn't on their minds.

Then you got the girls talking about how all guys are creepy, and they should have a right to judge a man by crazy things, even though most rapists/molesters/whatever are actually thought of as attractive.



Yeah it's true that most rapists are sociopath(ASPD) womanizer types which contradicts the creepy/ugly stereotype of them.

Also, I think a lot of guys on here want to try sex just one time to see if it's overrated or not. It's crazy how much you have to go through before you can try it just once.



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18 Nov 2012, 5:36 pm

Venger, there are ladies you can go to, for that.



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18 Nov 2012, 5:47 pm

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Venger, there are ladies you can go to, for that.


This is really insulting and uncalled for. Kind of shocking how much it's been brought up in discussions like these when it's obvious it's not really a solution at all.


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18 Nov 2012, 5:53 pm

What's insulting about that? It's true. Or are you going to bury your head under the sand and choose to believe it doesn't happen?



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18 Nov 2012, 5:58 pm

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Venger, there are ladies you can go to, for that.

It's obvious you don't see why sex is a big picture item in these men's lives. It's a way of feeling like someone wants them, not just for the sake of having sex. It's a way of them to show how unwanted they feel



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18 Nov 2012, 6:04 pm

Craigs list?

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Venger, there are ladies you can go to, for that.


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18 Nov 2012, 6:10 pm

Boxman108 wrote:
aspiesandra27 wrote:
Venger, there are ladies you can go to, for that.


This is really insulting and uncalled for. Kind of shocking how much it's been brought up in discussions like these when it's obvious it's not really a solution at all.


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Venger, there are ladies you can go to, for that.

It's obvious you don't see why sex is a big picture item in these men's lives. It's a way of feeling like someone wants them, not just for the sake of having sex. It's a way of them to show how unwanted they feel


I can see why she got confused.

Wanting the experience of sex is one thing.

Wanting a girl wanting you enough is another thing - you guys are talking about having girls attracted to you, liking you, and wanting you as people.


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18 Nov 2012, 6:26 pm

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Lol, let me be even more blunt: I have never met such a huge amount of self-pity, accusatory, spleenful group of men, in my life.

On the opposite end of the scales, there are some really positive, kind and full of verve guys too.

I don't seem to be discriminating about height, weight, or looks in general, do I?



Name them.



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18 Nov 2012, 6:39 pm

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I can see why she got confused.

Wanting the experience of sex is one thing.

Wanting a girl wanting you enough is another thing - you guys are talking about having girls attracted to you, liking you, and wanting you as people.


Its a mixture of both, but as I said, its mostly a way of saying like "hey, girls want me so little not one has considered me for anything thats involved in a relationship" more so than "i just want dirty sex". Not saying all are like this, but the majority of them started out with the former, and after years and years of more negative results tend to end in the latter as they gave up hopes of a relationship.



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18 Nov 2012, 6:42 pm

I can see why she got confused.

Wanting the experience of sex is one thing.

Wanting a girl wanting you enough is another thing - you guys are talking about having girls attracted to you, liking you, and wanting you as people.

yes that was the majority of men here want. couple myth I need to break
myth 1: shy and dateless men only want sex
wrong: many of them want to have a relationship, yes they do want to have sex but too many relationship is just as important

myth 2: shy and dateless men only go after model type
wrong: Many of these men go after all types of women

myth 3: once a man get laid, all his opinion on women will change. he will become a feminst
and start saying women too have it hard as shy men do
wrong; I had sex before and that hasn't change my view that women do get dates easier.
in fact alot of men who complain about how dating is unfair are men who had sex
and alot of times are men who have been succesful in relationships.

which brings us to myth 4: men who complain about how unfair dating is are dateless men who can't get model
wrong: like I said above, many men who complain about how dating is unfair are men who have dated and
have been with many women

myth 5: men hate when approach them
undecide: I don't think men care, but I have not look much into this



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18 Nov 2012, 7:53 pm

^^ That pretty much sums it up in a nutshell. I prefer I let the women approach so I don't feel like or get thought of as a creep.


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18 Nov 2012, 9:38 pm

Life in general is so much harder for males than females. Females literally have life handed to them on a silver platter. The males have to put in all of the effort into working, improving themselves and finding love. Some Aspie males who are severely disadvantaged simply can not be bothered and remain single and alone for most of their lives.
Females look at most males as just bank account balances and males can be used by females in order to help her climb the social status ladder.



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18 Nov 2012, 9:41 pm

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Life in general is so much harder for males than females. Females literally have life handed to them on a silver platter. The males have to put in all of the effort into working, improving themselves and finding love. Some Aspie males who are severely disadvantaged simply can not be bothered and remain single and alone for most of their lives.
Females look at most males as just bank account balances and males can be used by females in order to help her climb the social status ladder.


BS.



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18 Nov 2012, 9:42 pm

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Life in general is so much harder for males than females. Females literally have life handed to them on a silver platter. The males have to put in all of the effort into working, improving themselves and finding love. Some Aspie males who are severely disadvantaged simply can not be bothered and remain single and alone for most of their lives.
Females look at most males as just bank account balances and males can be used by females in order to help her climb the social status ladder.


thing is humans are complicated. Even IF women had everything handed to them, plenty of them would rather accomplish something for themselves.



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18 Nov 2012, 9:47 pm

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Life in general is so much harder for males than females. Females literally have life handed to them on a silver platter. The males have to put in all of the effort into working, improving themselves and finding love. Some Aspie males who are severely disadvantaged simply can not be bothered and remain single and alone for most of their lives.
Females look at most males as just bank account balances and males can be used by females in order to help her climb the social status ladder.


thing is humans are complicated. Even IF women had everything handed to them, plenty of them would rather accomplish something for themselves.
Spot on!


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