If you're 27 and never had a girlfriend, is it too late?
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She won't mind hearing that, as long as you don't follow it up with "because I wish I had a girlfriend all that time". People often say to their partners "I wish I met you earlier" but it usually means "because you are so awesome that I would like to have spent more time with you". The focus should be on finding the right person for you, not just finding a person. If you just want a girlfriend (whoever will have you), rather than wanting a partnership with someone you adore, it will often show, and be an unattractive trait. I don't have any words of wisdom about how to remove the bitterness and resentment but yes, it's important that you do. Perhaps start a new topic about how to do that and someone might have some useful advice?
Infact he has already pointed out that he just wants a girlfriend so that he can make experiences and he refuses to be serious with her. He also said that he doesn't wanna settle down with any until he has experienced a few of them.
But then he complains that woman are superficial.
I guess men and women are both superficial in their own ways
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OK, the truth is I change my views, opinion and general outlook on life several times per day. Mood swings. I felt pretty happy and energetic in the early afternoon but I wrote that last post in the late afternoon, on the train home from the worst office party I've ever been too (long story). Maybe that gave me a bleaker outlook. Maybe I wasn't wrong before or maybe I should count my blessings. I don't know. I have trouble gauging if I'm being too optimistic or too pessimistic.
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Don't try to make it look like "oh I am superficial just like everybody else". You are no better than these gold diggers you love to criticize and probably even filthier than them. It's disgusting really. It is only good that you didn't hurt any young lady so far, especially in her teens. It's even thanks to people like you that they become bitchy. Do you know how it hurts to be used and then thrown away, knowing that the love you felt was all fake? It can change a person.
And I don't even know why I try to explain these things to you, because you obviously don't care for anything except your twisted desires. I really hope that you don't find anyone and don't hurt any woman. This of course unless you grow up and give up on your foolish ideas.
P.S.: And I am shocked that if a woman says that she thinks income is important in a relationship all the guys here jump on her, whereas none says a word about these things you say.
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It's not, but it can f*** their mind more.
No person can be the right person before you know them, so there's no right person who wasn't just a person at some point in the past. I find it quite annoying that, whenever someone who has never been in a relationship admits how much they want to be in one, they usually get admonished with the assumption that their hypothetical partner would be "just a person" to them. To me, this assumption is tantamount to replying they don't actually want a relationship, as if you could know their wishes better than they do. Why not assume what they want is to find someone they'd love and who would love them, too? This obviously can't happen while you don't find anyone at all. It almost looks like this latter interpretation, which makes much more sense to me, is routinely avoided in order to scold them, and usually by people who have no trouble finding relationships, one after another, but wouldn't tolerate others telling them their partner is "just a person".
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It's not, but it can f*** their mind more.
Peace, I appreciate what you are saying and it's true, but he isn't going to listen. He just wants to get a rise out of you. I wouldn't get your blood pressure up over it. People who use people never come out good in the end (they never really feel good about themselves - if they have a conscience) and this he'll find out for himself. I'd just leave it alone. You're a good person Peace.
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It's not, but it can f*** their mind more.
Peace, I appreciate what you are saying and it's true, but he isn't going to listen. He just wants to get a rise out of you.
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Thanks a lot for your words, they are really kind.
I know you don't, maybe she was referring to someone else.
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The topic is about a male having a girlfriend but of course it applies the other way around as well. I rarely distinguish my general L&D advice between the two sexes.
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The topic is about a male having a girlfriend but of course it applies the other way around as well. I rarely distinguish my general L&D advice between the two sexes.
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