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^ Sounds like a sock puppet, Isabella.

Yes.


I've had several pairs of socks over the years.

Sometimes dozens in a week, writing to me with zero posts, all claiming to be distinct people who just-so-happen to think we'll get along great.

Constantly seems to be readjusting his schlong in public.

Constantly seems to be searching for his shlong in public.

She writes a four page list of various short-term & long-term goals she wants to accomplish & asks me to help her schedule that list. I would be very willing to help but she often complains about not having time to get routein daily & weekly things done. She spends a lot of time visiting her family & often neglects her health & various chores. Her reasoning is that her family has health issues & might die or kill themselves if she doesn't spend a lot of time with them. She has her own various health issues too thou & she really needs to take better care of herself. She needs a lot of time to rest when she gets back. She insists she does not have the time nor spoons to take care of herself or do various other things she wants or needs to do. She wants my help to schedule her list because I have betrer executive functioning & good with routeins & schedules. I have a better idea of how much time she needs to rest & relax before she can do other major things. I'm not able to help her schedule her list because she refuses to make the needed time. She's mad at me for not helping her but I do not have that magic timepeice thing in Harry Potter that Hermione used to take two classes at the same time. Cass objects to everything I suggest & she's upset that I'm not being supportive She's frustrated & misdirecting it at me

I think that the existence of T-shirts with a text on the chest whose purpose is to define oneself with short text (adjectives most often) is a red flag. The use of Tags too, by the way.

Unless it is requested on a form, this type of clarification is really very rarely requested (and I believe that some of tags should not be in some social networks).

- when someone sends you a dick pic and then complains about blue balls when you don't sext/have phone sex with them

I really hate that. (It's probably already in here somewhere, but I felt like complaining about it again.)

- when people complain about the same thing more than once in the Red Flags thread.

- When people pursue intimate, romantic relationships and later avoid accountability for their actions by telling you it was all in your head, and it didn't really happen because it was just make-believe for them to turn your childhood SA into their grown up sexual fantasies, along with other fantasies that are not allowed to be mentioned on this site.

^ - When those same individuals engage in the same behavior with others, so they can mindf**k multiple people - often, at the same time.

- When they deny doing this, and tell you it was all in your head because you're overreacting or histrionic

- When you show them proof but they still gaslight you, by saying you must be trolling or framing them

- When you don't show that proof but they still gaslight you, by saying you have no proof

- Gaslighters and Liars

- People who always say "Why are you angry with me?!" when they do egregious things

- People who gaslight and shut you down if you do answer that question

- People who gaslight you by saying you are passive-aggressive, if you don't answer that question

People who jump to conclusions as to other people's motives, without any proof of their assertions.