11 Jun 2012, 9:27 am
Kyra71 wrote:
I recently joined, and it's been... interesting. I highly doubt I'd ever actually find anyone who was compatible with me (since I'm asexual, and don't want to be in a sexual relationship). But I've enjoyed getting to know some folks on there, and it's made me feel like I'm not the only person in the world who is in relationship limbo, longs for human companionship, and feels it's lacking in their life. So basically I've found other people to commiserate with, and just be friends while we continue looking for our perfect match.
I agree about the 'stalking' issue... It's typical for me to visit someone's profile 2-3 times, because I forget who they are, or if I've been there already. And if they never actually messaged me, and it's clear that we're not suited for each other, I don't feel obligated to message them either. I think it's best to not get hung up over who visits your profile; they're just randomly clicking on people without keeping track of where they've already been
I agree about the 'stalking' issue... It's typical for me to visit someone's profile 2-3 times, because I forget who they are, or if I've been there already. And if they never actually messaged me, and it's clear that we're not suited for each other, I don't feel obligated to message them either. I think it's best to not get hung up over who visits your profile; they're just randomly clicking on people without keeping track of where they've already been
yeah.. but it gets my hopes up.. I'd much rather imagine she wanted to send me a message but has instead been abducted by space aliens and so now she can't. It's not an obligation, it's just common courtesy.. if I talked to you in real life, you'd have to say 'no thanks' or "hey buzz off" or whatever.
I don't understand this particular item.. the more similar we are, and the higher our matches tend to be.. the less likely the reply.. like.. why do you mention all these things that you consider important.. but then get freaked out when a guy who also likes the same things contacts you? I wish they would all just be honest and say "I'm really only on here to get an Ego Boost from sad losers like you, you really shouldn't waste your time".
11 Jun 2012, 9:37 am
I agree, it seems like common courtesy to reply to messages. (I reply to each and every one, even if only to say I'm not interested - based on specific incompatibilities - and wish them luck!) But this is the internet, and not everyone takes the time to treat random strangers like actual human beings with feelings... Unfortunately that's just how it is 
11 Jun 2012, 10:22 am
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11 Jun 2012, 10:56 am
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately
11 Jun 2012, 5:21 pm
11 Jun 2012, 5:24 pm
MXH wrote:
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately
Well considering none of the women on the site ever f*****g return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.
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11 Jun 2012, 5:33 pm
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11 Jun 2012, 5:34 pm
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately
Well considering none of the women on the site ever f***ing return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.
if your messages are anything like your posts here then i can see why they dont
11 Jun 2012, 5:41 pm
11 Jun 2012, 5:45 pm
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately
Well considering none of the women on the site ever f***ing return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.
if your messages are anything like your posts here then i can see why they dont
Yes, because clearly insinuating that I'm an idiot who would be stupid enough to send a woman a message like I post here isn't insulting or anything.
11 Jun 2012, 5:52 pm
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately
Well considering none of the women on the site ever f***ing return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.
if your messages are anything like your posts here then i can see why they dont
Yes, because clearly insinuating that I'm an idiot who would be stupid enough to send a woman a message like I post here isn't insulting or anything.
Well man I don't think he necessarily means that you would talk to a girl like that but a lot of your posts to have really pessimistic or angry vibes to them...
11 Jun 2012, 6:04 pm
Xenu wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately
Well considering none of the women on the site ever f***ing return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.
if your messages are anything like your posts here then i can see why they dont
Yes, because clearly insinuating that I'm an idiot who would be stupid enough to send a woman a message like I post here isn't insulting or anything.
Well man I don't think he necessarily means that you would talk to a girl like that but a lot of your posts to have really pessimistic or angry vibes to them...
That's because I come here when I'm feeling pessimistic, and I get angry when people like him treat me the way they do.
11 Jun 2012, 6:14 pm
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately
Well considering none of the women on the site ever f***ing return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.
if your messages are anything like your posts here then i can see why they dont
A lot of girls won't reply even if yourmessage doesn't give off an angry vibe. Posting a polite rejection takes ten seconds.
