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19 May 2020, 12:16 am

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I haven't read this entire thread but I think answer to this is rather obvious. The stats alone show that being as Aspie doesn't lead to a lot of romantic success. The marriage rate is much lower for Aspie men than NT men. Aspie men have had fewer girlfriends across their lifetime compared to NT men, same with sex partners.

Is there any romance or relationship stat where Aspies even come close to NTs on?



Is because women just see Aspie men as rejects or losers? Even when comparing aspie men and aspie women,it's clear that aspie women have far more success with dating and interacting with the opposite sex compared to than aspie men,and it's not even remotely close. Being unemployed does play a factor why aspie men struggle with dating so much.However,even then,there's aspie men like myself who had/have a job and still couldn't get any female attention.People tend to blame men for why they struggle with dating without looking at the set of circumstances that may be outside of their control. They fail to understand/accept that having certain issues,like having Aspergers Syndrome, having bad Genetics,being a ethic minority,living in a certain area,being a virgin after a certain age,low social status,etc will put men in a disadvantage dating wise. With the dating game being so favorable towards women nowadays,unless you're a Chad/Brad,you're going to have a harder time attracting women anyway.Then add being a aspie male,it appears to be a hopeless/pointless endeavor to even bothering trying to date or even conversing with women for that matter.



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19 May 2020, 12:28 am

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Is because women just see Aspie men as rejects or losers? Even when comparing aspie men and aspie women,it's clear that aspie women have far more success with dating and interacting with the opposite sex compared to than aspie men,and it's not even remotely close. Being unemployed does play a factor why aspie men struggle with dating so much,but even then,there's aspie men like myself who had/have a job and still couldn't get any female attention.People tend to blame men for why they struggle with dating,including other men,not understanding/accepting that odds may be against him in the first place. With the dating game being so favorable towards women nowadays,unless you're a Chad/Brad,you're going to have a harder time attracting women anyway.Then add being a aspie male,it seems hopeless/pointless endeavor to even bothering trying to date or even conversing with women for that matter.


I'm a lot closer to Krøgh the Barbarian than Chad or Brad and I've often managed to attract women, even while unemployed. Please keep removing yourself as competition though, I'm sure I need all the help I can get. :clown:


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19 May 2020, 12:44 am

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I don't know. Do aspie men simply just dislike aspie women?


Its virtually impossible for an aspie guy to find an aspie girl to date for the same reason that you would find it hard to date a person who actually walked on the Moon. Like Apollo astronauts aspie women are a tiny population.


So being "rare" is the same as "non-existent". Okay have fun being a miserable sexist incel.


We are dealing with reality here.
Your presence is not needed/required. :mrgreen:



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19 May 2020, 12:56 am

rick42 wrote:
ProfessorJohn wrote:
I haven't read this entire thread but I think answer to this is rather obvious. The stats alone show that being as Aspie doesn't lead to a lot of romantic success. The marriage rate is much lower for Aspie men than NT men. Aspie men have had fewer girlfriends across their lifetime compared to NT men, same with sex partners.

Is there any romance or relationship stat where Aspies even come close to NTs on?



Is because women just see Aspie men as rejects or losers? Even when comparing aspie men and aspie women,it's clear that aspie women have far more success with dating and interacting with the opposite sex compared to than aspie men,and it's not even remotely close. Being unemployed does play a factor why aspie men struggle with dating so much.However,even then,there's aspie men like myself who had/have a job and still couldn't get any female attention.People tend to blame men for why they struggle with dating without looking at the set of circumstances that may be outside of their control. They fail to understand/accept that having certain issues,like having Aspergers Syndrome, having bad Genetics,being a ethic minority,living in a certain area,being a virgin after a certain age,low social status,etc will put men in a disadvantage dating wise. With the dating game being so favorable towards women nowadays,unless you're a Chad/Brad,you're going to have a harder time attracting women anyway.Then add being a aspie male,it appears to be a hopeless/pointless endeavor to even bothering trying to date or even conversing with women for that matter.


Quite a few aspie males have success, with NT females.
Even Fnord found a luving partner, for goodness sake. 8O 8O 8O
I think you are being too binary, here.
Well, I *know* you are. :wink:

Keep in mind,
A lot of NT females don't find a life partner either.
And many who end up in a relationship, ultimately wished they hadn't. 8O

I don't know what the figures are these days,
But a 1/3 to 2/3s of marriages/defacto-relationships failed, back "in my day".
I think you need more objectivity to see the total picture.
Here, have some. :mrgreen:



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19 May 2020, 1:02 am

I think that the current figures for the US are that slightly less than 50% of first marriages will end in divorce.



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19 May 2020, 1:50 am

cyberdad wrote:
lostonearth35 wrote:
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I don't know. Do aspie men simply just dislike aspie women?


Its virtually impossible for an aspie guy to find an aspie girl to date for the same reason that you would find it hard to date a person who actually walked on the Moon. Like Apollo astronauts aspie women are a tiny population.


So being "rare" is the same as "non-existent". Okay have fun being a miserable sexist incel.


I think NP just mean't it's a numbers game...meeting a single Aspie girl is rare

And most the aspies women I’ve meet also want a guy with a real job, car and home.
Some act like Aspie women aren’t women. Society dictates don’t care if your aspie or nt.
There’s a quite a few aspie women on wp who have stated they wouldn’t date a guy who works retail or is on disability.


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19 May 2020, 2:08 am

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Statistics don’t matter. It’s the individual that matters.

Going by statistics only leads to a sense of futility.

While statistics aren't determinant over an individual's circumstances, statistics can be representative of trends that can offer some valuable insights.

It wasn't until not long before I joined this website that I became aware of the fact that the dating issues I was facing are common among other autistic men. I thought I was something of an anomaly and blamed a handful of my physical features for my inability to find a partner. After realising that autistic people disproportionately struggle to find romantic partners, it becomes clear that my being on the spectrum in and of itself is likely a larger contributor to my dating issues than physical appearance, though I'm sure my appearance doesn't help much either.

My point is that identifying trends can be useful in one's quest to find a partner, if they can use this information in a productive manner.



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19 May 2020, 3:51 am

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There’s a quite a few aspie women on wp who have stated they wouldn’t date a guy who works retail or is on disability.


It's interesting you say that. I've watched an Australian program called "Love on the spectrum" and it's funny that many of the parent's and siblings of Aspie girls are very protective of their daughters/sisters and seem to influence their daughters to be picky with men.

The parents of the boys on the hand are relieved if any female takes an interest in their sons.

To be fair though, both genders are picky about comparative disability (there was one aspie guy who on a UK version of the Australian program who only wanted an NT girl and not a girl with disability).

Sadly I've never seen any successful couples but I'm sure there's plenty on WP?



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19 May 2020, 5:41 am

I’ve had quite a few successful relationships where we broke up amicably.

In my mid to late 20s, I had lots of escapades. I settled down with my wife at 34.

I‘m really pretty “Aspie.” That’s me in the avatar. Not a paragon of hip good lookingness exactly.

Do I look like some Chad or Brad type?



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19 May 2020, 6:44 am

Maybe a Thad or Vlad type.


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19 May 2020, 6:51 am

Autobots or Decepticons.



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19 May 2020, 11:01 am

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Okay, fine. All women are evil and demonic and we love to watch men suffer mu ha ha ha. Happy now? :roll:


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19 May 2020, 11:18 am

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Most 30-year olds don’t have new cars. Nor do they own their own homes. Most don’t have the money to take trips to foreign places. When I was 30, I had only been to Canada.

When I was 30, I was renting an apartment, and didn’t even have a driver’s license.

Most 30-year olds have old, used cars, and rent apartments or houses. Many are forced to have roommates for economic reasons if they don’t have a spouse or partner.


I live alone and even in a midwest relatively low cost-of-living area I won't be able to save/afford a house for a looooong time, if ever. Housing costs are so crazy to me. But I also feel like I overpay for my apartment. The cost of living is high no matter where you are. I feel like I make decent money but it would be way better if I could share costs with someone.


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19 May 2020, 11:19 am

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Okay, fine. All women are evil and demonic and we love to watch men suffer mu ha ha ha. Happy now? :roll:


Yeah. :twisted:


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19 May 2020, 2:36 pm

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I’ve had quite a few successful relationships where we broke up amicably.

In my mid to late 20s, I had lots of escapades. I settled down with my wife at 34.

I‘m really pretty “Aspie.” That’s me in the avatar. Not a paragon of hip good lookingness exactly.

Do I look like some Chad or Brad type?



What do you think led to your success? Or what were you doing that most other Aspies don't seem to do?



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19 May 2020, 3:38 pm

lostonearth35 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
lostonearth35 wrote:
Okay, fine. All women are evil and demonic and we love to watch men suffer mu ha ha ha. Happy now? :roll:


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"Pathetic." :roll:



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