My problem with relationships and age

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Yeah but that's because there's old folks who lost their partners or are living single in a home. What have you got to lose then, new people living virtually next door, it's like being in college dorm rooms again except the men/women are next to each other.

It kinda belies the stereotype that people lose their drive though. If that statistic is true. I guess when you're postmenopausal, pregnancy inst a issue, that can lead to not caring to use contraception....Also the communal nature of some of those facilities, means alot of interaction, alot of different people, and aging reduces inhibition in some people.

I never was interested in sex dolls or any kind of sex toys like fleshlights and never used them. IMO, they do nothing to replace the sense of connection and intimacy with a woman. In fact I find many of these toys unsettling.

I use pornographic films and my hand because I have no other options. When I do watch porn, I need to see that the women are expressing enthusiasm and pleasure while having sex. I know its acting but they have to be convincing. It is not like having a connection with someone, but it is the only thing I can get. That's what I think you are failing to understand: men using sex dolls don't prefer them to actual women, they just can never get actual women so they have no other choice.

Unfortunately a lot of women are clueless to why men use porn.

Statistically, I've seen a chart on search terms for porn. Dived by gender. It's...interesting.

Oh? What's the reason?

The biggest reason is men are conditioned to porn. A lot of men started watching porn in our early teens and fapping off. Our brains are hardwired so eventually if our wives or g/f's aren't on time then we tend to resort to porn.

The reasons we (may) use porn has nothing to do with how much we love our wives or partners.

1. We enjoy sexual excitement and release and porn delivers.

2. We like sexual variety and porn has an endless selection to choose from.

3, In the world of porn, our virtual sex partner will do anything we want them to do. And they will enjoy it. And they never get tired. And they are always ready for more.

4. The real world has a lot of stress and uncertainty. The world of porn is predictable and controllable.
Even when our sexual partner is available and interested most of the time (which can be a problem at any age, but particularly as we get older), there are always those times when we're hot to trot but our partner is tired tonight. A quick visit to the home office and a harem of available playmates awaits our commands.

5. In a world where we are all so busy with work, home, and family, a pornographic affair may seem like some small comfort for those who are cut-off and lonely.

I don't understand why women seem so appalled by men liking porn. If a guy catches his female SO with porn, he will think it's hot that she likes that. But if a woman catches her male SO with porn, she acts shocked and appalled. Why is it appalling to women?

Depends on the individual. My wife probably knows I watch porn but she has a philosophy of out of sight out of mind. Some women are prudish and some may be jealous? some play the feminist card. Probably a hundred reasons.

Oh okay. What would be the feminist card, when it comes to porn? That women feminists like porn too?

Probably. but I have heard feminists complain about women being objectified for their bodies.

These same feminists who after complaining would most likely masturbate to images of men who are bair chested and perhaps showing off abs, perhaps even fullly naked porn images, etc...

Probably

It just seems this is an example about how some people are hypocritical on porn.

It's like reading a women's magazine where a woman is advising other women on how to please her man (I've seen that topic on the cover of women's magazines several thousands of times on magazine racks. I mean how would a woman know what we want? If I was a woman who sincerely wanted to please her man I would ask another man.

I might give a woman the benefit of the doubt if they asked men. But any examples from these magazines on 'how to please your man'?