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11 Jun 2012, 6:17 pm

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lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately :?


Well considering none of the women on the site ever f***ing return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.

if your messages are anything like your posts here then i can see why they dont


Yes, because clearly insinuating that I'm an idiot who would be stupid enough to send a woman a message like I post here isn't insulting or anything.


Well man I don't think he necessarily means that you would talk to a girl like that but a lot of your posts to have really pessimistic or angry vibes to them...


That's because I come here when I'm feeling pessimistic, and I get angry when people like him treat me the way they do.


I treat you like i do because of how you act. Not the other way around. Youve been given more help by males and females than most males get here and you just shrug it off and keep about your ways. You have no right to be pissed off about it if you're not willing to even try changing it



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11 Jun 2012, 6:28 pm

MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
Xenu wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately :?


Well considering none of the women on the site ever f***ing return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.

if your messages are anything like your posts here then i can see why they dont


Yes, because clearly insinuating that I'm an idiot who would be stupid enough to send a woman a message like I post here isn't insulting or anything.


Well man I don't think he necessarily means that you would talk to a girl like that but a lot of your posts to have really pessimistic or angry vibes to them...


That's because I come here when I'm feeling pessimistic, and I get angry when people like him treat me the way they do.


I treat you like i do because of how you act. Not the other way around. Youve been given more help by males and females than most males get here and you just shrug it off and keep about your ways. You have no right to be pissed off about it if you're not willing to even try changing it


That's because all the advice is s**t.



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11 Jun 2012, 6:30 pm

rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
Xenu wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately :?


Well considering none of the women on the site ever f***ing return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.

if your messages are anything like your posts here then i can see why they dont


Yes, because clearly insinuating that I'm an idiot who would be stupid enough to send a woman a message like I post here isn't insulting or anything.


Well man I don't think he necessarily means that you would talk to a girl like that but a lot of your posts to have really pessimistic or angry vibes to them...


That's because I come here when I'm feeling pessimistic, and I get angry when people like him treat me the way they do.


I treat you like i do because of how you act. Not the other way around. Youve been given more help by males and females than most males get here and you just shrug it off and keep about your ways. You have no right to be pissed off about it if you're not willing to even try changing it


That's because all the advice is sh**.


Is it because the advice is s**t or is it just because you don't like it...? I don't mean to be harsh but a lot of people on here tend to get really confrontational when they don't like actual legit advice. Sometimes you have to listen to the advice and take yourself out of your comfort zone in order to fix things.



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11 Jun 2012, 6:34 pm

Xenu wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
Xenu wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately :?


Well considering none of the women on the site ever f***ing return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.

if your messages are anything like your posts here then i can see why they dont


Yes, because clearly insinuating that I'm an idiot who would be stupid enough to send a woman a message like I post here isn't insulting or anything.


Well man I don't think he necessarily means that you would talk to a girl like that but a lot of your posts to have really pessimistic or angry vibes to them...


That's because I come here when I'm feeling pessimistic, and I get angry when people like him treat me the way they do.


I treat you like i do because of how you act. Not the other way around. Youve been given more help by males and females than most males get here and you just shrug it off and keep about your ways. You have no right to be pissed off about it if you're not willing to even try changing it


That's because all the advice is sh**.


Is it because the advice is sh** or is it just because you don't like it...? I don't mean to be harsh but a lot of people on here tend to get really confrontational when they don't like actual legit advice. Sometimes you have to listen to the advice and take yourself out of your comfort zone in order to fix things.


You're not being harsh, and what you just posted is good advice that offers a new perspective on a problem.

Other people's idea of advice is simply to tell me consistently that my standards are too high and that I'm not worth enough to bother trying to achieve anything else.



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11 Jun 2012, 6:38 pm

rabbittss wrote:
Xenu wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
Xenu wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately :?


Well considering none of the women on the site ever f***ing return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.

if your messages are anything like your posts here then i can see why they dont


Yes, because clearly insinuating that I'm an idiot who would be stupid enough to send a woman a message like I post here isn't insulting or anything.


Well man I don't think he necessarily means that you would talk to a girl like that but a lot of your posts to have really pessimistic or angry vibes to them...


That's because I come here when I'm feeling pessimistic, and I get angry when people like him treat me the way they do.


I treat you like i do because of how you act. Not the other way around. Youve been given more help by males and females than most males get here and you just shrug it off and keep about your ways. You have no right to be pissed off about it if you're not willing to even try changing it


That's because all the advice is sh**.


Is it because the advice is sh** or is it just because you don't like it...? I don't mean to be harsh but a lot of people on here tend to get really confrontational when they don't like actual legit advice. Sometimes you have to listen to the advice and take yourself out of your comfort zone in order to fix things.


You're not being harsh, and what you just posted is good advice that offers a new perspective on a problem.

Other people's idea of advice is simply to tell me consistently that my standards are too high and that I'm not worth enough to bother trying to achieve anything else.


Ah... Well in regards to that I can kind of see where they are coming from with that but I do recognize that it's not your fault you aren't attracted to these girls. One thing you do kind of have to realize that on Okcupid a lot of the girls will be a bit curvy which while it may not be a problem for many people like me it's understandable that you aren't attracted to that and people shouldn't be sh*****g on you for it. But like what that means is that a site like Okcupid probably isn't the site for you.



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11 Jun 2012, 7:17 pm

rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
Xenu wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately :?


Well considering none of the women on the site ever f***ing return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.

if your messages are anything like your posts here then i can see why they dont


Yes, because clearly insinuating that I'm an idiot who would be stupid enough to send a woman a message like I post here isn't insulting or anything.


Well man I don't think he necessarily means that you would talk to a girl like that but a lot of your posts to have really pessimistic or angry vibes to them...


That's because I come here when I'm feeling pessimistic, and I get angry when people like him treat me the way they do.


I treat you like i do because of how you act. Not the other way around. Youve been given more help by males and females than most males get here and you just shrug it off and keep about your ways. You have no right to be pissed off about it if you're not willing to even try changing it


That's because all the advice is sh**.

as ive said, youve been given way better advice than most here get. you dont like it? then stfu and stop with your idiocies



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11 Jun 2012, 7:23 pm

MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
Xenu wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
lots of straight single guys been looking at me lately :?


Well considering none of the women on the site ever f***ing return messages.. maybe he's getting desperate.

if your messages are anything like your posts here then i can see why they dont


Yes, because clearly insinuating that I'm an idiot who would be stupid enough to send a woman a message like I post here isn't insulting or anything.


Well man I don't think he necessarily means that you would talk to a girl like that but a lot of your posts to have really pessimistic or angry vibes to them...


That's because I come here when I'm feeling pessimistic, and I get angry when people like him treat me the way they do.


I treat you like i do because of how you act. Not the other way around. Youve been given more help by males and females than most males get here and you just shrug it off and keep about your ways. You have no right to be pissed off about it if you're not willing to even try changing it


That's because all the advice is sh**.

as ive said, youve been given way better advice than most here get. you dont like it? then stfu and stop with your idiocies


Well if thats better than what most get, I'd hate to see the dreadful quality the rest are stuck with.



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11 Jun 2012, 7:29 pm

you know what you have to change. so eitherdo it and if it doesnt work then complain or stop complaining at all



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11 Jun 2012, 7:33 pm

You are issuing ultimatums. That isn't the same thing as "giving advice".



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11 Jun 2012, 8:02 pm

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So I've been talking to a girl since the 4th., we now text a lot as well. When is it appropriate to add her on Facebook?


ASAP.

Then attempt to meet her ASAP.

Don't waste time on texting...


Well meeting won't be so easy as she lives about 45 minutes away... But if she's interested in meeting me I wouldn't have an issue taking a bus. The thing is I don't really know where we lie right now as we've only been talking for like a little over a week. And is it normal to just add somebody on Facebook? I mean she told me her full name so I can easily find it but I just don't really know that much about social norms and all..


45 minutes? That's nothing.
I had a 1 1/2 year-long relationship with a guy who it took 2-3 hours to go and see, depending on which bus was on that day.
45 minutes is virtually next door.


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11 Jun 2012, 8:14 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
Xenu wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Xenu wrote:
So I've been talking to a girl since the 4th., we now text a lot as well. When is it appropriate to add her on Facebook?


ASAP.

Then attempt to meet her ASAP.

Don't waste time on texting...


Well meeting won't be so easy as she lives about 45 minutes away... But if she's interested in meeting me I wouldn't have an issue taking a bus. The thing is I don't really know where we lie right now as we've only been talking for like a little over a week. And is it normal to just add somebody on Facebook? I mean she told me her full name so I can easily find it but I just don't really know that much about social norms and all..


45 minutes? That's nothing.
I had a 1 1/2 year-long relationship with a guy who it took 2-3 hours to go and see, depending on which bus was on that day.
45 minutes is virtually next door.


The woman I wanted to be with was 2 hours away, and even that was too far for her. But getting across a large metropolis (taking most of said time period) and the rest of the way being mostly rural with a 70 mph speed limit is nothing.

She also said I was weak because I asked for advice.

I didn't meet her on OKCupid, though. I left OKCupid because most people on there apparently hate Christians and Republicans--sad because although I am a Christian and GOP, nearly everybody with the same interests on there was ultra-liberal, and atheist, and wouldn't go anywhere near someone who thought differently from them.


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11 Jun 2012, 8:23 pm

A lot of people come here under the guise they are looking for advice, when really all they want is someone to agree with them, tell them they are right, share a similar story and gang up on what they feel is the problem rather than solving it.

People that don't truly seek advice don't take it on board. Advice comes in many forms. It being not to one's liking, or limiting choices does not make it any better or worse.



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11 Jun 2012, 8:26 pm

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You are issuing ultimatums. That isn't the same thing as "giving advice".

No, an ultimatum is you have 30 minutes to leave before i call someone on you. What im telling you is to plainly STFU if you're not taking advice. Youve been given plenty of ways to improve yourself to try and reach the goal you wanted. You dismissed them all. We brough the goals down to your level. You dismiss that too. Then f**k off, wevedone all we could.



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11 Jun 2012, 8:35 pm

You are still convinced your so called "advice" is even any good. I don't understand. I've told you and others, countless times, None of what you suggest will work.

I have no options to change the things you seem to expect me to be able to change.

I can't change what I'm attracted to.
I can't change what I look like.
I can't change the fact I won't drive.
I can't change the fact I live in a s**thole town.
I'm not willing to change my interests.
I'm not willing to change my religious or political views.

All of these at different times have been things suggested that I change. 4 of them I have no control over. 2 I have control over but if I change them then I won't be me anymore.



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11 Jun 2012, 9:58 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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So I've been talking to a girl since the 4th., we now text a lot as well. When is it appropriate to add her on Facebook?


ASAP.

Then attempt to meet her ASAP.

Don't waste time on texting, the amount of texting won't have any impact on her chemistry toward you in the first meetup (she'd either like you in the first meetup or not).


Agreed! I messaged someone for 3-4 months and really liked her personality but there was worse than zero chemistry when we met - she was downright repulsive! I tried very hard to give her extra chances, but there was just no way it could work beyond friendship - if that.



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12 Jun 2012, 2:27 am

BlueMax wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Xenu wrote:
So I've been talking to a girl since the 4th., we now text a lot as well. When is it appropriate to add her on Facebook?


ASAP.

Then attempt to meet her ASAP.

Don't waste time on texting, the amount of texting won't have any impact on her chemistry toward you in the first meetup (she'd either like you in the first meetup or not).


Agreed! I messaged someone for 3-4 months and really liked her personality but there was worse than zero chemistry when we met - she was downright repulsive! I tried very hard to give her extra chances, but there was just no way it could work beyond friendship - if that.


That is a major disadvantage of online dating. You really can't tell the actual personality of the person with or without chemistry.

I am kinda thinking to delete my account. And focus on real world. As I have one more semester left of uni degree I guess it should get better.


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