My problem with relationships and age

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Dude! just walk into your newsagent and have a look for yourself.

I would say the best more important part of being his is the fact that he works it out.
But it seems for you the hand has replaced the wife and it's regarded as better because it's different and easier.

Be careful what you wish for, there are people in the world, rare, but there are, who don't fall out of love. I'm one of them. I've been through a lot of trauma, lack of connection with my exes for years, yet my feelings never ceased regardless of years passing by and things changing drastically. 4 years and 7 months tops without failure, while exes usually fell out within 4-6 months.
The only reason why I wouldn't have it would be that I would be dead. Even if my libido stops, and ability, it won't stop my enjoyment of having such special moments with the one I love. What's your excuse?

Also, you say that things get harder, but there are sexologists to pay, even if you run out of ideas in your adventure of a lifetime, there are specialists who can help, therapists who can work out things getting distant.

Our libido isn't constant, you don't know what you're talking about, you don't know anything about our struggles, ofteness and health. But I can tell you sex was never easy for me either and will continue to be a challenge more than it probably was for you and others, it continues to be easy for you from a physiological point of view at your age. The reason for you is different. I long have been wanting to know, because I've seen you talk about it before, but why do you treat your wife like she's no good?
Meanwhile you have proven to be a pretty fair friend and person except some things you say aren't right about women. It's confusing. Why would you care nothing about your marriage anymore?

I'm no feminist, I'm anti religion [how about you?], I'm anti-porn for other reasons than the ones you can think of, some of which i already talked about, and I don't venerate seed [except special cases], I think seed is dangerous in certain situations. I also don't value objectification of women [who would anyway?], but I think sexualizing of women and not only women, in every media I especially am bothered with when I'm in a commitment is unnecessarily present and noticed. i also think equality is lacking, in that regard, like I already said, there are too many women and men feel entitled to stare regardless of their situation, their interest in someone or their real plans, which is reality after all.

I feel the exact same about toys. With exception of some things made to aid like lubrifiants and other certain things that aid in keeping erections longer.

I think you are confusing me with another writer, I never addressed my opinion for single men who have no other option. My opinion is strictly linked to certain committed relationships where any of the members actually think it's important.
I was aware most people feel entitled and have a different way of seeing commitments, and I have dated women with the same viewpoint, so it's not linked to men, it's a thing that's genderless. And I didn't expect people to actually get me, or to find many who would be able to go through with it for longer than a while. And was partly the reason why I haven't had hopes of being happy in relationships and finding someone to match more my wavelength of thinking.

You know, while you are lonely, and trying to fix it, it's possible that you're making somebody else lonely, too.

I understand what you're saying and your situation doesn't seem ideal at least in terms of matching libidos but seems to work for you two. I think if he shares intimacy with you it's great. Sometimes low libido can have different causes, and can potentially be aided. Have you thought or talked about it?

People who like or need variety, can't live without don't have to get married. It's not a title or a perk, it's a commitment to a person. For lifetime.

Why are they interested in variety if they want a family life? Peculiar.

Most people enjoy release. Doesn't make you any more special or deliverant.

Most mass media has multiple episodes. Most people have downsides, including you. But they work it out, except you? Why is that.

I choose an imperfect human over your perfect harem. That's how I view commitment and that's how I view switching from my former poly relationship to a monogamous one. There are always excuses to explore poly relationships by choice whether it's mentally, physically, visually. If people want poly they can have it but they should not pretend they're not exploring it in that way.

Love, petty love, or care is never enough to make a relationship work. Even google knows that.

Since porn would theoretically affect you with nothing, let's imagine a situation which would, for example your wife goes out all the time, lets men kiss her and spends time with them letting them pet her all over, talks about you to them in terrible ways, like you never have sex with her, you're no good in bed, and you also don't care about her feelings, comes home, doesn't even say hi to you and goes on about her day.

She sees this as common behavior and would say you're a woman hater if you disagreed. Isn't that a bit odd? What you think doesn't matter anyway, she's gonna keep quiet about it at home.

Take it a level lower if this doesn't bother you. Make it so that it bothers you.

Can you see what a difference in opinion in people makes? How about the feelings that brings? Now think back to the significance of marriage. Much different.

Oh and before you say, I know you can learn to live with anything, if you have to.

Yeah....They are ubiquitous. To use a fancy word.

You can gain a lot of insight into women by reading trashy women's magazines. A favourite of mine is take-a-break.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Take_a_Break_(magazine)

I don't make it a habit. But of course I found them interesting enough, to peruse. ^ You're right , you do get an insight ,of a sorts.

Yes, it is not a guide-book or anything of course, but if you read what women read long enough, you will start thinking like a woman in some respects.

Well on that side note, I found this article, not sure if it's written by a woman or a man though but it seems to have good insights on how a woman could please their man, based on me being a man:

https://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/men ... nt-in-bed/

I especially agree with the one that says to leave the lights on. What's with women always wanting to do it with the lights off... I can hardly see anything that way.

not all men like having their prostates digitally stimulated [or with toy] as it is just too sensitive. not all men like negligees or teddies or such. not all men are into situational sex in odd places. some men are boring.

Oh yes, but I imagine a lot still are. I guess that list is not for everyone but thought it still satisfy a lot, seeing it from a guy's perspective.

Quite a few points (and they are good ones) but I think you answered your own question (see highlighted bit). As I said, come back and debate this topic when you are 55.

My wife's libido has also changed. It would seem women also lose their libido. On the odd occasion I show my affection but if my touch becomes sexual she resists. So both of us reached that stage, But it doesn't change our love. Love isn't reliant on sex when you have lived together for 20 years and know each other so closely. Once you experience that Rexi then your perception of love changes from physical to spiritual.

On the matter of sexualising women? women are free to express their sexuality. How does porn harm them? We men are visual creatures, Has it effected me psychologically? I don't know? I am always polite to women and I'm not an aggressive individual.

You are quite funny ironpny

i just noticed that heehee