Are most men struggling to get healthy weight women?

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That will only work if there is a difference.

**cricket sounds***

Its a sad day when a grown man can't apologise for making an assumption

Acting as a grown man here is boring.

And at "sad day"...lol give me a break, you're too serious.

Maybe you would prefer decent human being?

Actually....the **cricket sounds*** was a humorous acknowledgement that you were right, but it flew over your head.

It did but I suppose that comes with the aspie territory. I was just offended by the idea that I don't pull my own weight. If that is the case then I apologise for my previous words.

Good point. I honestly don't know if there is.
But if there is, hypothetically the chance of attracting the wrong women will decrease quite a bit.
I've been thinking about dressing more like a dork, because I seem to attract shallow girls I have nothing in common with.

At times like these for autistic men and women, I just can't fathom how bad it must sting when karma bites. If anything that makes me upset is constantly being told live and learn by my own peers, family, and friends, and all I ever wanted was to actually make them smile and laugh, and learn something new and unique, but instead garbage infests my life and the people who gave garbage to my peers, family, and friends is what I'm irritated the most about.

I don't wish for the most beautiful girlfriend on the planet, but rather someone who just is an honest girlfriend, and the milennials like myself made honesty something to be frowned upon.

I don't know about neurotypicals but it sounds like most aspies are struggling to find a healthy weight partner.

I agree with this. The sad fact is, that no matter how attractive or intelligent us aspie guys are, we are still below average marketplace value.

Like most HF Asperger men I have a difficult time meeting women as it is, as I have no social circle to meet or be introduced to women. I never made any friends during my latter HS, college and university years due to appearance-based bullying and/or shunning (125lbs, 5'9 and a face of a 14yo boy doesn't sit well for a 21yo man at the time; then sprinkle undiagnosed low level high functioning Aspergers on the top). Thus I adopted the 'lone wolf', "sod the lot of 'um!" persona and had to accept it. So all I ever had to rely on was online dating or meeting women through volunteer work or hobby groups. My work is all-male based Blue Collar, so there is no women at work. Every volunteer work I have undertaken, and every hobby club I have done (martial arts, photography. walking) the healthy weight girls are already taken, or they are retired women over 60, and the only few single women are obese. Obesity is not my thing, I can't help the way I'm wired. I tend to lose all attraction if a woman (of 5'2 > 5'6) tips over the 150lbs mark, or a BMI over 26, 26.5.

I'm now 172lbs, 5'10, with an average appearance. Look younger than my 39 years - somewhat neotenous face, black hair light pale skin. The main thing is I'm a healthy weight (17.5 > 18% bodyfat) and not really ugly in the face/skull... I don't think. I'm not an "ugly bloke" like say Toby Jones but nor am I anyway near the likes of the Jessie Pavelka's or Rav Wilding's of this world.

Anyway, my experiences have been pretty depressing with online dating. My reply rate is probably under 1%. That is for every 100 average women of healthy weights I send a message to, maybe just 1 has the courtesy to reply back (probably more like 1 in 150). This tends to lead to nowhere because I feel they are often rude, standoffish or are just leading me on to bolster their ego. There is no "Game" to win these women over, they aren't pets than be 'tricked' into liking you, they simply have better looking guys holing them up from another browser. I never get messaged from a healthy weight woman, that is they never contact me first. On those rare occasions when a woman does contact me first (about one every 2 months I'm active) they are always very overweight women, i.e. 175lbs+, 200lbs, 250lbs. They dangle me a carrot, but big women/BBW is just not my thing and I don't message them back.

I think I know what is going on in a nutshell. For a start there is perhaps only 18 female profiles per 50 male profiles on most -- if not all-- dating sites. Then we could say that at least half of those 18 females are too overfat for the majority of men like myself, so we have about 8 or 9 healthy weight female profiles created per 50 male profiles created.

So any healthy weight/slim woman with an average face (or even below average face) gets inundated with hundreds of prospective suitors a month in her inbox. Women of healthy weights know they can use their healthy bodies as 'bait' (with seductive full body pics) to lure a male of higher genetic worth than herself (i.e. better looking than her) in outright lieu of ignoring, rejecting or even abusing average men of healthy weights in her own objective league.

So. No single healthy weight women in my real world (they are all taken) and online dating makes me feel like worthless ugly s**t.

Any guys going through the same stuff?