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24 Feb 2009, 8:11 am

Arguably a significantly huge portion (although probably not the majority) of men are not at all how you describe them ttqs84. I don't mean offense, but your rant there is precisely the reason why, as a general rule, I try to steer clear of girls with daddy issues. No matter what a man does, it's never good enough.

Resolve your issues (perhaps see a counselor, it's always good to talk to a neutral party if nothing else, I know it helped me) and realize that every person is an individual, and you might actually find yourself desirable by men again when your attitude about them changes. In other words, you're bringing your problems on yourself. Or, ya know, you can ignore my words and stay in that hole -- I'm sure it's great down there.



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24 Feb 2009, 10:34 am

ttqs84 wrote:
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22 year old virgin over hear no big deal - being free from std's is a big plus imho


24 years old and still a virgin. why? i'm autistic and ugly and the average guy is turned off by that. they rather want blondes with fake breasts, no intellect whatsoever, and who are submissive to them.


Do you wanna lose it, or would you rather just wait untill you meet the right guy?


there won't be a 'right guy' out there, he doesn't exist and will never exist. i think men have been brainwashed by the media long enough to know what a 'real woman' is because they don't pay attention to the positive attributes of a woman like personality and intellect among other things. so instead, it's all about the "common role of women", their physique and f@%king them. that's it. men don't want to see us females as human beings trying to overcome obstacles in life, but rather than their maids and sex-slaves. and if we get pregnant, planned or unplanned, they won't give a flying hoot about the woman's child. it's pretty much a fact. my dad's hardly been there for me, so why should i trust a guy? i have to agree with Learning2Survive's opinion on STDs and the like. abstinence, i think, is safe. therefore, i'm a virgin and proud of it!


I've seen several men either walk away from their children or marry their girlfriends who cook and clean in return. For guys the cooking/cleaning makes them feel like the woman is caring for them. Your dad's absence has nothing to do with YOU.



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24 Feb 2009, 4:51 pm

I am a 16 year old virgin. Here, that's pathetic.



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26 Feb 2009, 1:18 am

Learning2Survive wrote:
I've seen several men either walk away from their children or marry their girlfriends who cook and clean in return. For guys the cooking/cleaning makes them feel like the woman is caring for them. Your dad's absence has nothing to do with YOU.


which makes them think that's what we're only good enough for. men don't give their girlfriends or wives anything in return. they rather expect for us to give, give, and give.



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26 Feb 2009, 11:07 am

25 years old now, still a virgin, and after reading this thread especially, I can safely say I don't care.



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26 Feb 2009, 5:32 pm

ttqs84 wrote:
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I've seen several men either walk away from their children or marry their girlfriends who cook and clean in return. For guys the cooking/cleaning makes them feel like the woman is caring for them. Your dad's absence has nothing to do with YOU.


which makes them think that's what we're only good enough for. men don't give their girlfriends or wives anything in return. they rather expect for us to give, give, and give.


You're deluded.


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26 Feb 2009, 6:11 pm

^ Actually.. hate to say it but this is often true. In many cases the women are expected to cook and clean and take care of the kids while that guy is expected only to work. Now that women are working too, things need to shift around a bit. In some cases they do. But some guys are spoiled by their mommies and expect their wives to spoil them too.



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26 Feb 2009, 6:29 pm

Actually in a lot of cases. Guys go out working all day while the women stay at home and spend the money.


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26 Feb 2009, 6:31 pm

That can also be true in many cases.
I guess it evens out then :P



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26 Feb 2009, 7:22 pm

I sense this thread is devolving into sexist rants, on both sides.



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26 Feb 2009, 9:16 pm

benjimanbreeg wrote:
Actually in a lot of cases. Guys go out working all day while the women stay at home and spend the money.


Wow, back that truck up, my friend. Try staying home and taking care of a home and the kids and tell me it's not work. My husband is HAPPY to go to work after spending 2 days trying to do what I do in a day. He couldn't do what I did. Work was a relief. :wink:

I think there is a huge misconception out there that being at home isn't work.



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26 Feb 2009, 9:43 pm

My mother worked a full-time job as a PhD student-then-tenure track academic raising me, and after the age of four it was mostly on her own.



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26 Feb 2009, 9:44 pm

CelticGoddess wrote:
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Actually in a lot of cases. Guys go out working all day while the women stay at home and spend the money.


Wow, back that truck up, my friend. Try staying home and taking care of a home and the kids and tell me it's not work. My husband is HAPPY to go to work after spending 2 days trying to do what I do in a day. He couldn't do what I did. Work was a relief. :wink:

I think there is a huge misconception out there that being at home isn't work.


research shows that stay at home moms who get to work part time have better mental health. there should be a balance. my friend's wife works full time as an RN and makes a shedload of money. he on the other hand has no profession and sits with their three kids, plays miniature golf, takes them to soccer games and pretends like he is a writing a novel.

they are like one of the most successful couples i know.



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26 Feb 2009, 9:50 pm

Learning2Survive wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
benjimanbreeg wrote:
Actually in a lot of cases. Guys go out working all day while the women stay at home and spend the money.


Wow, back that truck up, my friend. Try staying home and taking care of a home and the kids and tell me it's not work. My husband is HAPPY to go to work after spending 2 days trying to do what I do in a day. He couldn't do what I did. Work was a relief. :wink:

I think there is a huge misconception out there that being at home isn't work.


research shows that stay at home moms who get to work part time have better mental health. there should be a balance. my friend's wife works full time as an RN and makes a shedload of money. he on the other hand has no profession and sits with their three kids, plays miniature golf, takes them to soccer games and pretends like he is a writing a novel.

they are like one of the most successful couples i know.


I would totally believe that. I do 90% of everything around the house, take care of the kids, and that includes homeschooling my oldest because he simply cannot function in a typical school environment. If I don't have time to myself outside the house and their needs, I would lose me mind. I adore them, but I need that mental/physical break.



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26 Feb 2009, 11:20 pm

CelticGoddess wrote:
Learning2Survive wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
benjimanbreeg wrote:
Actually in a lot of cases. Guys go out working all day while the women stay at home and spend the money.


Wow, back that truck up, my friend. Try staying home and taking care of a home and the kids and tell me it's not work. My husband is HAPPY to go to work after spending 2 days trying to do what I do in a day. He couldn't do what I did. Work was a relief. :wink:

I think there is a huge misconception out there that being at home isn't work.


research shows that stay at home moms who get to work part time have better mental health. there should be a balance. my friend's wife works full time as an RN and makes a shedload of money. he on the other hand has no profession and sits with their three kids, plays miniature golf, takes them to soccer games and pretends like he is a writing a novel.

they are like one of the most successful couples i know.


I would totally believe that. I do 90% of everything around the house, take care of the kids, and that includes homeschooling my oldest because he simply cannot function in a typical school environment. If I don't have time to myself outside the house and their needs, I would lose me mind. I adore them, but I need that mental/physical break.


so you'd greet a couple of hours at an easy job - like manning the counter at a plant store - if someone in your family could take over the housework and babysitting/homeshcooling for the time being? i sure would - heck you get to meet new people, do something else.

change is as good as rest!! !



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26 Feb 2009, 11:43 pm

Learning2Survive wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
Learning2Survive wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
benjimanbreeg wrote:
Actually in a lot of cases. Guys go out working all day while the women stay at home and spend the money.


Wow, back that truck up, my friend. Try staying home and taking care of a home and the kids and tell me it's not work. My husband is HAPPY to go to work after spending 2 days trying to do what I do in a day. He couldn't do what I did. Work was a relief. :wink:

I think there is a huge misconception out there that being at home isn't work.


research shows that stay at home moms who get to work part time have better mental health. there should be a balance. my friend's wife works full time as an RN and makes a shedload of money. he on the other hand has no profession and sits with their three kids, plays miniature golf, takes them to soccer games and pretends like he is a writing a novel.

they are like one of the most successful couples i know.


I would totally believe that. I do 90% of everything around the house, take care of the kids, and that includes homeschooling my oldest because he simply cannot function in a typical school environment. If I don't have time to myself outside the house and their needs, I would lose me mind. I adore them, but I need that mental/physical break.


so you'd greet a couple of hours at an easy job - like manning the counter at a plant store - if someone in your family could take over the housework and babysitting/homeshcooling for the time being? i sure would - heck you get to meet new people, do something else.

change is as good as rest!! !


Actually, I'm a bit crazy that way. :wink: I wouldn't give up the homeschooling part to anyone else, but happily give up some of the housework. I just need some time in the day to be on my own, doing my own thing. I'm guaranteed one evening week outside of the house without the kids to do my own thing. That night is like sanity in a bottle.