Why is it girls have an easier time getting dates than guys?

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I don't see entitlement here; I see frustration.

If one stops seeing losing one's virginity as an impending need, and starts emphasizing things like studying, making friends, and enjoying life in nonsexual ways, I believe the path to losing one's virginity would probably be smoother.

I went through a desperate phase that lasted quite a while. When I stopped being desperate, I began to obtain tangible results.

No, it doesn't. "Not by choice" means it's not due to a choice to remain a virgin you made, because you didn't have a choice. But I'm sure you're well aware of this. Whatever attitude you gratuitously decide to ascribe to me to make me look bad is entirely your business and has nothing to do with what I actually said.

This implies that you are crazy and need to see a good shrink.

As other have explained it's not quite as you say, and it's more about being a late virgin than being a virgin. You can say that it's nothing etc etc but the reality of facts is that people can also dump you for being a late virgin.
This been said I am sorry for telling you to shut up kraftie and I apologize for my overreaction.

It's Katy-Kay back at it Uh-Gain......

Don't even reply that just encourages *her*.

Because men care about having sex more than women do.

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-Top 10 Sex Myths-

That's right! Women want sex too. But women are MUCH pickier about who they sleep with. And this seems to confuse a lot of guys into thinking that women don't want sex as much as they do.

That also means a woman could believe she is much less interested in sex than she really is if she never sees a man who is up to snuff

Believe? Doubtful. Pretend? Definitely.

She usually never responds to me though. And I am not sure that she knows she is wrong and is just trolling, some feminists really think that way.

Well, that was a mess and a half.

These bits struck me:



The corollary being that, if you're a woman, it is Not The Done Thing to chase the man you desire. So, you can want someone but do nothing about it except flaunt and flatter as best you can. On a bad day, the man you're after ignores your efforts (or is oblivious to them), and everyone else thinks you a trampy flirt. Pretty crushing.



Whyever would you want shallow girls to give you the time of day?



Same the other way around.



As it is about a great deal of things, society is very confused about women and sex. This:

http://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relatio ... h-more-men

is a really interesting read.

The common worry, still, is a woman's sexuality-as-weapon. She's making you want her (taking away control). She's leading you on only to deny you, for kicks. She's going to steal your sperm and raise your child alone. She's going to get pregnant to force you into marriage. She can get laid any time she wants - you can't. She's making you 'involuntarily celibate'. She slept her way to the top. And so on.

It's no wonder it's near impossible to have clear thinking on the matter.

What the HELL does feminism (which is, for the billionth time, about equality) have to do with some girls wanting nothing to do with some guys?

Can you please explain to me how a guy "being a virgin not by choice" doesn't imply that that guy feels entitled to sex?

Sly and Spiderpig freely admit that they don't talk to to girls, do not ask girls out and haven't in YEARS... because they got rejected by some girls years ago.

They aren't trying. They're alone because they don't try.

Hell, Sly insisted that a new, pretty female coworker who said hi to him and chatted with him occasionally did so with some sort of malicious intent because she had a boyfriend. Because making idle chit-chat is evil? Because a cute, outgoing, chatty girl made a purely friendly overture is nefarious?

Sly is a tall, okay looking, college-educated white guy with an inferiority complex. He barely leaves his room, reacts badly when females try to engage him in conversation and b*****s no girls ever want him. (How would girls find him or know he exists? There are no girls in his sad little room.

Spiderpig really, truly (and it goes without saying incorrectly) believes that merely talking to a woman who isn't interested in him, in a public place, in broad daylight will get him beat up or a restraining order filed against him. He talks to no girls ever. Hasn't asked a girl out in years!

Spidey, Sly aren't trying. They are single virgins by CHOICE. Because CHOOSING not to TRY to date is a choice. They're CHOOSING to remain virgins and blaming it on the women of the world!

Lemme explain something to you and simplify things:


If you CHOOSE to ask someone out, they can CHOOSE to say "No" for Any.Reason. They. See. Fit!
In fact, they don't owe you an explanation and they sure as bloody f*cking hell don't have to justify it. Some women might say no because you're not tall enough. Dating and Sex is an area of life where people are going to judge you on things you don't have any control over. That's the ugly reality of many relationships: You often get LESS out of them than you put into them.

When I was a teenager I was constantly asking girls out in HS and getting rejected again, and again, and again, and uh-gain......
....And this continued into college. I got rejected 9 TIMES(same # of times Ferris Bueller skipped school) before I finally met my first gf.
Social stuff, be if friendship or dating, is NOT a meritocracy. It makes no difference how many times you and some others post this "think positive" self-help snakeoil BS. People hear just aren't buying it.

Entitlement means that you believe that other people are *obligated* to give you something. It isn't the same thing as simply wanting something. So this whole "you're not entitled to sex blah blah blah" is just another way of saying "know you're place and stay in it, peasant".

Maybe some feminists want equality but some other feminists are crazy sexists who hate men. It really annoys me that you keep pretending that these feminists are a fairy tale, we even have some here other than you.

How long will you keep abusing our patience Katy? For how long will this madness of yours still mock us? To what extent will your unbrindled audacity carry itself?
I thought that English was your first language, don't you understand it? I thought that you were a college-educated women, has such level of instruction sunk so low?
When a guy is not virgin by choice it means by definition that a guy would like to have sex but doesn't find a mate, it by no means implies that he thinks that women are not giving him something he is entitled to. You are attributing to this defitnition something that has nothing to do with it and you are using it to put down people. Are you evil or just incredibly stupid?
Please do us all a favour and go see a good shrink instead of pestering us with your insanity.

Last edited by Peacesells on 01 Jan 2016, 6:52 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I knew #3 was TRUE!! (From work experience - at the hospital)

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