What is the MOST ATTRACTIVE Aspie woman you've ever...

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haha, well go ahead

I can see where you ladies are coming from. I have low self-esteem so I might feel a little bad if someone said X was more attractive than me. But what you have to realize is that attractiveness is completely relative. Just because one guy says you're not attractive to him doesn't mean that you are not attractive at all. Everyone is guaranteed to be attractive to someone somewhere and unattractive to someone else.

Its ok.. that's what makes life interesting. Diversity.

true, but wouldn't this thread be nicer overall if everyone just complemented the ones they find attractive, without pointing out the less (in their opinion) attractive ones?

if this thread was praise-only I'd even post a full-frontal nude picture of myself!*

*(the damage is already done, so don't be begging me to do it )

I don't quite believe in that anymore, attractive people are attractive to the vast majority and unattractive people are unattractive to the same vast majority, but that is another topic....

But notice how you don't have to be good looking to get a relationship, in fact I say being good looking actually makes things harder from experience. Others expectations tend to be higher.

wide ranges, yeah probably. But within a small range... it is less likely. attractive people might be attractive to a vast majority, but within that majority there is dissention over who "really" belongs. etc.

there is not such thing as unanimous attractiveness/unattractiveness.

pretty much everyone has someone.

and you only need one person.

^I agree with that notion because I've seen even guys disagree about what body types they like in a woman as well as women disagreeing what types of guys they find attractive. However there is distinction between attractive people and non-attractive people. Most people who fit into this wide selection of attractiveness are similar in their degrees of symetry.

I came across this Wiki article as well as other links which I thought were interesting. In my observations I do find people in my job as well as forums are responded to more bad or good by the way they look. IMO, I think all of us are capable of this "mistake" but sometimes this "mistake" can also be misread by people such as starvingartist. I just look at it from a Darwinistic perpective as well as our own idealogies ingrained in the way we respond and react toward other's opinions.

Anyway I thought this article and other links related to it were interesting. I think this goes for guys as well although I do tend to think that women are more judged by looks than men in many societies. But every one has their own "contradictory theory."

Here it is...

http://visualwikipedia.com/en/Beauty


Here's the second half of how it affects us..

Effects on societyBeauty presents a standard of comparison, and it can cause resentment and dissatisfaction when not achieved. People who do not fit the "beauty ideal" may be ostracized within their communities. The television sitcom Ugly Betty documents the life of a girl faced with hardships due to society's unwelcoming attitudes toward those they deem unattractive. However, a person may also be targeted for harassment because of their beauty. In Malèna, a strikingly beautiful Italian woman is forced into poverty by the women of the community who refuse to give her work in fear that she may "woo" their husbands.


Chinese Jade ornament with flower design, Jin Dynasty (1115-1234 AD), Shanghai Museum.Researchers have found that good looking students get higher grades from their teachers than students with an ordinary appearance. Furthermore, attractive patients receive more personalized care from their doctors. Studies have even shown that handsome criminals receive lighter sentences than less attractive convicts. How much money a person earns may also be influenced by physical beauty. One study found that people low in physical attractiveness earn 5 to 10 percent less than ordinary looking people, who in turn earn 3 to 8 percent less than those who are considered good looking. Discrimination against others based on their appearance is known as lookism.


I think we're going off topic to what this thread was really about and that's feeling better about ourselves and not letting people's judgements be the absolute power over ourselves because beauty does vary from person to person. Humans are little more complex than animals based on each person's different characteristics of what deems them attractive.

They are though. This sort of thread, both male/female, encourages guys to "vote" and make lists of their top choices. People who make the lists encourage this kind of behavior. You can call it a joke, but they really are putting in a vote for who they think is the most attractive- the thread titles are asking people to. Just because we don't have the results in poll or graph form doesn't mean it's not the same thing. That's why I voiced my opinion earlier that this is not the best idea.

And even the people who were mentioned get insecure when they are competing for a vote or a list- remember how jwa jumped to explain that yes, she is worth calling pretty because she has all these modeling contracts after I made some generic statement about how pictures online don't always represent the real thing anyway?

Women are judged too often on looks anyway, why turn this into a pageant?

tbh I've had at least ten males go "I think X is more attractive than hale_bopp" At LEAST. In my time here. It doesn't hurt my feelings as i've never found the people who said it remotely attractive themselves, but it ANNOYS me because it's so f*****g RUDE.

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Ah but see 'vast majority' is not the same as 'everyone'

I found it more insensative than rude but yeah...I can see why it would be rude for instance Magnus...I thought that was pretty rude.

This is one reason why I didn't post a comment or agree on who the prettiest was but really I just took this thread as a joke. I think most of the women in here are beautiful. It's funny how the guys didn't exactly compare eachother in the other thread like some of the women did as well as the guys in this thread.

I think all in all though, most people here have been taking this well and not coming off as insensative as I've seen other sites do when threads like these have popped up.

Maybe aspies do have a good side afterall....

Thats the right attitude.

I totally agree what Fuzzy said. It's totally silly to be hurt if I was been unnoticed because of someone else.

People rate other people's looks all the time , it's a fact of life.

I know for sure that everyone rate my coworker as more attractive than me for example. There was a funny incident where me and my coworker had to meet a group of bankers for work issues. It happened that these bankers were all young females , we didn't know how they look like nor we knew how we look like but we worked on phone together, we passed by the window of their office in the private offices part of the bank and I heard a female voice "there's a handsome guy here!" , we both heard it.


One of them was sliding back by her chair to take a better look when she got surprised that my coworker was looking at her direction, she freaked out and slided forward quickly. We had no idea they were the banker that we are supposed to meet them till one employee told us. When we entered the room they were all looking at him , the first girl said 'hi I am _ ' very awkwardly. When we introduced ourselves , she looked at him smiling (and so all the other girls) and said in a surprising tone: "you are _? , we talk on phone but never expected you would look that good!" , I talk to these banks on phone far more often because I am an older employee in the company (been working for 3 years while he worked for 4 mths) but never got such a reaction.....


Does that mean that I should feel down or hold grudge against him and against them and against the world for this? It's not his fault nor the world's fault , it's how humans are wired. While he's more attractive than me, another would be more attractive than him. One should just accept that.

What about me

you haven't posted a picture

funny, something similar happened while ago in the guy's thread where a guy member admitted that he was upset because he wasn't mentioned while I was mentioned on the same page. What's funny that the "flirt" I got from a lady member there was all just a part of a 'game' or 'theater' that were playing all along it since a specific thread ...it's a long story, you know like those kids who play mommy and daddy, that member has declared herself as my future housewife in some thread lol but this is all joke, yet he took it seriously then.
Good that he has realized that later.