How to talk to Asian girls?

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Yep, and that there is my problem. Asian girls won't date losers like me. In your case, lawyer to boyfriend with PhD isn't much of a gap.

I was nothing when we started dating, just a guy doing his undergrad. She has stuck with me through some pretty lean times.

Sounds like you're trying to date a stereotype.

Then why not diversifying your chances by trying other races? (Yes, Asian cultures condition girls to date only successful men).

I don't try at all with any races. Or rather I equally don't try with all other races. If I counted my "tries" or whatever, ie, trying to strike up conversations with girls, it'd probably be more white girls, as Asians are like 4% of the population here or something. I just have a preference for Asian girls like I might have a preference for different types of food or whatever.

Anyway...

I'm more of nothing. I got a f***ing GED.

Maybe I could go to Japan and find a hikikomori girl? There's lots of youth who are total losers like me in Japan, right?

I’m quite happy for you to download, copy and distribute this electronic version of Private Dancer,
but all copies must be distributed unaltered and complete. You must not add or delete anything, or
modify the content in any way. (It’s just fine as it is, thanks.)
You are licensed to copy and distribute this electronic version of Private Dancer, but you must not
benefit commercially from the distribution. (I don’t make any money from Private Dancer, so I
don’t see why anyone else should.)

A growing percentage of marriages to Thais involve sad bastards who can’t find a wives in
their own countries. Strange as it may seem, there are probably more success stories among this
group than any other. Usually they are middle-aged men, often with at least one failed marriage
behind them, who decide that they want a Thai wife. What saves these men from disaster is that
they don’t go through the sex-tourist phase. Instead they use an agency to find them a partner.
Providing the agency doesn’t fix them up with a hooker, and providing the girl/woman is serious
about wanting a farang husband, and providing she moves with him back to his country, these
marriages do have a surprisingly high success rate.

They also tend to be marriages of equals, which makes them more likely to succeed. Plus
marriages through agencies tend to be less for sex and more for companionship. That’s where the
sex tourist usually comes adrift. The Thai girl who looked so attractive dancing naked around a
silver pole isn’t quite so alluring wrapped up in a duffel coat against the chill winds of north east
England. And it’s amazing how quickly the slim, sexy bargirl figure (probably due to heavy Yar
Ba consumption) turns to fat on an American diet. Men who use the agencies tend to be looking
for companionship rather than sex, so they are less likely to be disappointed if they don’t get
fixed up with a sex goddess. Or if their sex goddess metamorphoses into a heavy-set lump, albeit
one with a charming smile......

.....So, to sum up, here are the rules that I would suggest a farang follows if he is determined to
marry a Thai:
1) If you want a Thai wife, don’t become a sex tourist. Find a Thai girl in your own country, or
join a respectable agency which can provide you with checkable references. And if you do find
the girl of your dreams through an agency, get her checked out by a trustworthy private
detective. It’s the only way you will ever be sure that there isn’t a Thai boyfriend or husband
around.
2) If you decide to come to Thailand to look for a wife, do not go into a go-go bar or other
places of prostitution. You wouldn’t go looking for a hooker to marry in your own country so
don’t do it here.
3) Do not, under any circumstances, marry a bargirl. Marriages to bargirls do not work out.
Anyone who has married a bargirl and thinks that he has a successful marriage just hasn’t
discovered the truth yet.
4) If you do marry a bargirl, don’t complain when it goes wrong.
5) If you are a sex tourist, you will never have a successful long-term relationship, with any
girl. Accept that and continue being a sex tourist.
6) Treat any Thai girl you meet on the Internet with suspicion. Ask yourself why a good Thai
girl would go looking for a Western boyfriend on the Internet. The answer is simple – a good
Thai girl wouldn’t.
7) Marry a girl as close as possible to your own social, financial and educational standing. And
the closer you are in ages, the better.
If you do marry a Thai girl, only stay in Thailand if you can earn more here than in your
home country. Or if her family is a positive asset. Outwith those two provisos, your marriage
will have more chance of working outside Thailand.
9) If you do stay in Thailand, learn the language. Learn about the country’s history and culture.
Watch local TV and local movies. Listen to Thai music. The only way you are going to have
even a chance of understanding how a Thai thinks and feels is to understand their culture.

By the by, if you are still considering Thailand, then I highly recommend the book Private Dancer by Stephen Leather before you go. The author decided to offer it for free as a PDF download.

http://www.pattayapages.com/girls/image ... dancer.pdf



You can also get a kindle version for cheap.

The book is extremely well written. Actually, I think that even Feminists would enjoy it, because the men come off looking like idiots, and the women look smart and heroic.

An extract that contains useful advice relevant to the present discussion:



The book is mostly about foreign men who get involved with prostitutes whom they meet in bars that cater to foreign tourists.

As an aside, I would recommend staying away from such establishments all together. If all you want is a little tail, then learn a little Thai, and figure out where the local Thais go for such activities. Little neighborhood brothels typically open for a couple of hours starting at dusk, they're friendly places, and you are unlikely to get hassled.

This is why I now know why people in Asia are so xenophobic. A better answer is, don't be a sex tourist at all. This is L&D, not the adult board.