Guys - Why do you want a woman in your life?

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I can agree with this.

A catagory is missing. To get rid if this chronic loneliness.

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hmm, well primarily for the meaningful relationship

but lots of sex is a pretty good reason too

If it's not a meaningful relationship, then I see no point. I've never been into one night stands. If there's no emotional connection, then I just can't go there. Like Isabelle said in Mozart and the Whale: attraction is the whole package.

MikeH106 you're wise beyond your years.

Actually it's quite atypical - just look at the other answers here.

Has it ever occurred to you that more and more women want the same - no strings sex, f***buddies, FWB, etc.?

Why do I want a woman? Because I don't want to feel like it's me, alone, in this sea of society...

i dont really need one

Exactly. This whole nice guys vs bad boys crap would be a lot simpler if people realized that there are chicks who just wanna f**k as well. Maybe the nice guys aren't gettin the hot chicks cuz they're looking for a relationship, while the chicks they're going after are just looking for a f**k.

Because it's normal natural for men and women to like each other but I have never had a real
female friend since my age had only one number in it, and I am 30something now.

I think things might be changing and people might be more willing to just SAY WHAT
THEY WANT instead of frustrating each other with invisible hints. I don't know all, but the
personals around here are starting to look like plot summaries for X rated movies.

Nobody's looking for friends, so maybe I should go to church to find friends.
(My old church closed when the pastor died.)

Having female friends doesn't help... I would say most of my friends are female, but I'm still perpetually single...


That's not really indicative of anything... personals are over text, where people have the same limitation that autistics have in real life: not being able to read or express non-verbal communication... I guess that's why there are so many people saying that dating sites are good for autistics (in theory, it levels the playing field), but I'm personally not the kind of person who would really be into a dating site... perhaps you might be, but it's a personal choice you have to make...


I know firsthand that church is good for friends only if you're after the married with kids 30+ crowd (often 40-50+ in most cases), unless you find a fundamentalist outfit somewhere (those are easy to find, but you wouldn't want to join for obvious reasons)...

Meaningful relationship of course. I have never gotten someone to look at me though, but it is something I would do almost anything to get.

I choose option one because I value the idea being there for someone and having some one to lean on when you have on of those time were feel off and to be able to be there when they need you has much as some guys value sex.I am a teenage pubescent male so the sheer fact I did choose the option of having someone just to bone them is might be quite shocking to some.

Why do I want a woman in my life? Good question, why do I need a woman in life?


Well the truth of the matter is that if I have enough things to do to keep my mind occupied, being single doesn't bother me. Only when I have time to think then do I begin to feel lonely. I consider dating and being involved with a woman romantically as a luxury, not a necessity, and that it is neither a contract or guarantee. Love favors some and makes a mockery out of others who need it or seek it the most.

As I said, being involved with a woman romantically, as we all know, is not a guarantee, but hypothetically, if I needed a woman in my life, I would do it for these reasons:

1.) To erase my belief that women don't care about me and that women are not nearly as superficial and petty romantically as I have previously, and sometimes currently, deem them to be. I don't trust 95% of women romantically, and for reasons ranging from arrogance to an already assumed rejection of me. By having a woman in my life, it would prove that not all women dislike me as I think they do.

2.) To have someone I can share my personal thoughts, feelings, ideas, and emotions with without the backlash of rejection or criticism. I see romantic relationships as extremely close friendships that take on the romantic element due to how much the two individuals share in common.

3.) Physical intimacy. No, I don't mean anything pertaining to sex or any act related to sex I mean things like hugging, cuddling, kissing, etc. I have been in what you can call a very intimate friendship, and the feeling of human touch and closeness is such a wonderful and calming experience

4.) So I could spoil her rotten I love buying gifts and presents, and if I was in a relationship with a woman, I would do the same. I'm generous and very well mannered around women I trust. I like making people happy, and I certainly could make a girl happy, key word: if she'd let me

5.) To understand what "romantic love" is. The words "romantic love" have no feeling or connotation to me. I know what "crushes", "lust", and "admiration" are, but romantic love is a concept I don't understand. To be in love with someone is to open up completely, forsaking all defenses meant to protect our self esteem from harm. It means trusting in someone and not fearing what might happen. Romantic love to me is a big gamble, it is hit or miss, and you have a lot to lose as well as a lot to gain.

Well that sums it all up for me.