Sucks to be single!

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I found being single is 1000 times better than being in a relationship you don't actually care about enough. I completely agree about people kissing though. I mean seriously, if you take the time to meet up with your friends it's sometimes nice to see them being just them and not as half of a combined entity. My boyfriend and I are generally really uncouply, so despite the fact I am currently in a relationship (my first good one!) I still find that I hang out with my friends and it's just me and couples muttering things to eachother and holding hands.

Being single is great. Being alone is great. Only thing I miss is the easy access to sex.

That is all...

I'm turning 28 this February,and I'm still single.There are times that I hate being single,but I tell myself that I got used it.

I prefer being single. I am way happier than when Im in love or infatuation.

I hate being smothered, and I hate being with men im not that into, which is most of them. Even If I love someone to death the stress on my mind and body makes life very hard.

Whenever i leave a relationship I embrace single life with open arms. You really don't know what you've got till its gone.

I enjoy my single life, I do what I like when I like without having to mind someone else. There are sometimes that I do wish I had a companion but I find that the longer I've been single the less I desire a partner. That kind of worries me because I realize that having someone to count on like that is important for humans. My libido is also very high and I am a Christian, putting those together makes me think that marriage might not be such a bad idea. I've been thinking that I should try harder to meet someone, like maybe going out sometimes but just my work week drains me so bad(social aspect) that on weekends I don't ever even want to leave my bedroom.

I've managed to reach an odd little place where I'm neutral about being single. While I sure would love some comfort and companionship, I can do without it for now, and probably will for a while.

Prior to being single, I'd reached the point where meeting people, making friends, and connecting with women is not nearly so frustrating, vexing, or mysterious as it once was. I understand that if I go out of my way and take those first few steps aggressively, I can probably make friends with people I don't know so well. If I go to the right places with the right people, and have the right attitude, I will make friends with women. And if I manage my expectations, keep a broader perspective, and take strides to stay comfortable with myself, then connecting with women becomes far less harrowing an endeavor.
Basically, I'm now confident that if I go out, be sociable, and meet enough new people, there's gonna be some sparks. It takes tons of effort, and it's supremely tiring to be social, but it's just like running: The more you do it, the longer you can last.
So now, most my feelings of social inadequacy gone. Not all, but it's very manageable.

...On the other hand, boy do I have issues to deal with. Not at all similar, apparently, to the other guys in here but equally painful, I assure you. My libido plummeted hard during my last relationship, my ambivalence soared, and pretty much things were gonna get nasty if I didn't break off from the woman I loved. So, alas, I did. But now she's doing quite well, and I'm VERY glad for that - I was not right for her by a long-shot. However, I'm still struggling at my end. Not out of loneliness so much(although I certainly am), and not really hating being single(though I don't particularly like it).
So I'm kinda in between.

*sigh*

So yeah, the purpose of typing all that out was to let you folks know that there are different existences out there to live in. Relationships aren't the end-all-be-all, as it turns out.

Actually, being single isn't as bad as it seems. I wish the local 24 hour Time Warner Cable channel in my area (News 10 Now) posted the news clip on why looking for love isn't just unhealthy, but unattractive. So, I found this article.

I have to disagree with some of these. My mom at first had unease towards her second set of in-laws (my paternal grandparents, and my mom was a divorcee before she met my dad), but it took a nasty divorce and my father's death for my grandparents to see what a blessing my mother was to my father. My dad was an alcoholic and a bit messed up emotionally, but if it weren't for my mom, my paternal grandparents would never have had grandchildren, since my uncle has no children of his own. Furthermore, my mom has admired the accomplishments my dad's side of the family have made (if you want to know more, send me a PM), and even as an ex in-law, my dad's family still help my mom and stepdad out in so many ways, and if it weren't for my aunt and uncle, I'd be still commuting to school instead of living on campus.

They say that those in a relationship live a few years longer, but what if one was to prefer being single? Like me for example.

wow...my thread has really taken off. I'll have to straighten out a few things...firstly, PlatedDrake, i'm 20 and have moved out of home. Jc6chan, I don't like people kissing and stuff in front of me cause it's annoying, but you have a point in saying right now don't worry about it. Also, I have a certain guy in mind, (I have had him in mind since we met in 2008), and since writing this thread we've gotten fairly close so i guess i don't mind being single cause it feels like it's not going to last for much longer.

ha ha ha I was wrong on my last post. Mr Unobtainable doesn't like me, and I'm over him. At least I have more time to spend in the lab and listening to music.