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In the earliest accounts of Asperger's I think we were described as being generally attractive with a slight elf-like appearence.

Facialy Symetry, which is actually quite unusual, is the trait your probably thinking was referred too.

There are some very attractive people on WP.
I am one of those people who got teased as a kid about how ugly I was. So often that now if someone tells me I have nice hair or something like that, I don't believe them. I can't just forget about all those comments made to me when I was younger. Yeah, I still have an attitude about it and may as well give in to the fact that I'm still...ugly.

That may be in part because your perception of beauty is through modern eyes. What was beautiful 50 years ago (or 20, or 100) is not what it is today. And in 50 years it is very feasible they will think we were ugly.

You mean like better makeup, plastic surgery, anorexia/bulemia and all. *laughs*

That is funny you say that, everyone says me and my son look like pixies, I never thought it was related to the aspie thing, now I wonder....

I went through the same thing. I got called ugly all the time when I was a kid, so I'm extremely insecure about my looks and always think people are lying when they tell me I'm attractive...for what it's worth though, I've seen your pictures, and I don't think you're ugly at all. I'm sure GalileoAce will agree with me.

Well I hope you didn't think I was lying...

I have often been told that I'm very good looking and while I can see it in a mirror, I think that most photos or videos of me are just shocking. I put it down to feeling comfortable and relaxed looking at myself as opposed to the strung out, socially inept basket case when someone points a camera at me. My av pic was OK until I changed the format and it made my eyes look psychotic.

I've just had to accept that with my red hair and pale complexion, there's one part of "tall dark and handsome" that just ain't never gonna happen...

Me neither...and I'm short.
No matter what GA says to me about my looks (nice stuff), there's always a small part of me iside that whispers, "You don't really believe that, do you?" I guess it's an insecure part of me.
Thanks QC (I hope you don't mind the shortening of your name) that was a really nice thing to say.

I disagree about Jordan and I have seen pics of her, she at least is not bad looking, however both Paris Hilton and Jordan's personalities repluse me. People's opinions of who is good looking or not depends on the person a lot of the time. I was discussing once with a guy online about a woman I found quite ugly and he disagreed with me and said she was okay looking.

I find a lot of women attractive enough to date, even those most others would find unattractive. I am much more attracted to women on the basis of their personality rather than their looks. So long as she has the right personality, is not really overweight/obese and has a face which I can look at and find some beauty, she is beautiful to me.

But still given my experiences, I have a feeling I am better looking than a lot of other guys. I get the ocassional handsome or cute comment out of the blue, I have never been called ugly in front oF my face and probably behind my back. I have for a long time taken attention to presenting myself, like styling my hair, shaving, dressing right. I do that to impress people and fit in more than attracting potential mates.

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I'm not sure whether I'm ugly or not. I've put my pic on Hot Or Not just now to test it scientifically. I'll get back to you guys once a week has passed so there's been time enough to assemble a general consensus about my external beauty or lack thereof. I'm hoping I'll be handsome. But hey, win some, lose some.

That's me. I consider myself anywhere from "below average" to "very ugly". Some people in my life keep telling me otherwise, but my brains tells me that they're just being nice because they're my friends. Believing that I look anywhere near average is just inconceivable to me. As a result, when I look for a date/girlfriend, I aim really low on the attrativeness range, knowing that I have no right approaching anyone higher than a 5 (out of 10).

I'm not bad looking—I wouldn't say I'm great looking, though. I've noticed sometimes my appearance piques a woman's interest; talking to her for a few minutes causes her to lose it, though, especially after the initial joke when she finds I'm actually not much of a conversationalist.

I always figure that women can sense desperation so I go for someone I consider a 10 or I don't bother. It's not my idea of a good time.

"Women can sense desperation" is true, but don't forget that desperation can work both ways. Like it or not, I have to aim for someone who won't reject me based on my looks or AS traits. And what's wrong with two desperate people finding each other (and happiness)?

Nothing whatsoever. I'm speaking only for myself and although my comment was in reference to yours it was not a personal attack on you. At the end of the day this is a matter for the individual and you have to please yourself. I just know what I want and would rather be alone than with someone who hasn't got it. It's got to be perfect, it's got to be worth it, too many people take second best but I won't take anything less, etc. etc...

BTW who's to say that my 10 and your below 5 wouldn't be the same person?