She broke up with me because im an aspie

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you are fine just the way you are - it is the family [removed by lau]. to me - it would make more sense to either burn a cross on the front lawn of their house(a form of reverse discrimination) - OR - to torch the place and make their life hell for once.

That sucks, but at least you found out the sort of people her and her family are before things got even more serious. Good riddance to them, I'd say.

If she let her family tell her that she can not be with you just because you are an Aspie, then maybe she wasn't right for you. You desereve better than that.

Thats kinda harsh, and really ridicules of them : /

I dont think there is anything you can do, since your ex listend to her parents and broke up with you.
But i think you might be able to talk with your parents about this, and maybe get them to talk with your ex's "elders" about how ridicules, and stupid they are, for not allowing their daughter to love whomever she wants to and try control her.

Adults talking works best in these situations i guess.

I am so sorry about your situation. In my opinion though in order to be in a relationship with someone you normally have to be in a relationship with their family as well. The fact that her family doesnt accept you because you have aspurgers is extremely sad and unfortunate, but if people do not understand you does it make you feel like you want to be around them and have them also misunderstanding you and not realizing that you truely do love their daughter. There are plenty of girls out there that i am sure would love to be with you have have their familys love you as well. Maybe one day the girl you are in love with's family may come around but until then, have an open mind.



-Aussie

thinking about it, the threads title is actualy kinda misleading.
it's her parents that made her break up with you because you're an aspie, not her

[quote="curtis122"]I have found out why my Ex-Girl Friend broke up with me and it is Aspurges related. The "Elders" in her family says she is not alowed to be my GF. This is because she wants to have children.Her family has apparently "Dug up information" about me and has found out about my aspurges one way or another. Plus they have seen pictures of me. Now she is not alowed to go out with me because of my Aspurges. . Im finding this very hard to cope with because I cant be with the women I love because of something I cannot help!

What can I do about this? Have any of you been in a similar situation?[/quote


the advice id like to give you is that although this is very hard for you to deal with, everything happens for a reason. You may have held this girl very close to you but her family didnt really accept the fact that you were born into something that you cannot help. Just know that there is someone out there that will accept you exactly who you are. Take care.

I honestly can say that i feel this is really rude of her to do. You were born with something you cannot help. I think that her family should of taken your disabilty a different way, rather that just telling the girl to break up with you. Her parents should of let her do what she wanted, not what they wanted. You guys could of still had kids, just used the adoption method. I think even though it may be hard to cope with, you can still get by. Another girl will come along the way and replace her, it just might not happen over night.

I disagree. If the parents are very traditional it is normal they watch over who their children bring home. If they believe that Asperger's is horrible to have as a kid, I can imagine they want to prevent you from transmitting your genes to their future grandchildren.

Not that I agree with them, since I would love to have some Aspies as kids..... I just don't see it as a handicap while they probably do.