3 years with my GF and still i havnt kissed her

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i guess i can relate to this.
I was in a relashionship with someone for 6 months when i was about 13 and we never proper kissed.
I came to realise later i was to young and thats why i was scared to kiss
I also realised he was the wrong person and i never felt any attachment or love towards him. if anything i was scared of him. i know this because we got back togheter when i was 16 and we did kiss but he kept pressuring me and maniplulating me.. i didnt like him close to me at all.

With my current boyfriend i feel comfortable with him we have been togehter nearly a year and when we first kissed it was so wonderful and just kind of happend..

I wouldnt worry about not being able to kiss it will come naturally, and if your gf really loves u and u love her it wont matter tbh shes probbanly as scary as you are.
However, maybe youve got to think, are your issues of kissing from her? Ie do you love her asnd feel comfortable with her? because tbh if youve been togehter 3 years you should be..

tbh you are really young!! ! maybe you arent mature enough for that kind of relashionship yet?

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I think im ready but you could be right maybe im not ready yet but when people start fligin this stuff around school about me not being able to kiss her its really awkward for me and her and when we are alone then there is never a moment to do it oh well im gonna keep trying

Your girlfriend must really care for you if you two haven't kissed. I mean, sure you're 15 but I know she WANTS to. I think she is just waiting for you to feel right. I want to make love to my boyfriend but I'm just waiting for him to be ready.

Kissing is wonderful when it's with the right person. It seems gross when you look at it logically but if you care for the person, it seems right

Valentines day is coming up soon, be a man/ get your courage together, and buy some chocolate/flowers, and give her a kiss that day to.
It'll make it all extra special =D

Do it! I felt the exact same way as you before this summer (not that I've had a girlfriend in a while... try three years). That's when I got my first real kiss, and when the time came I didn't even think about it and she said I was the best kisser that she knew of (which is quite a bit of people, she's kind of skanky). That was awesome because I could play it off like it wasn't my first (which is kind of embarrassing at 19). Just relax and go for it. The worst that could happen is that neither of you enjoy it very much, but you know what happens then? You go right back to where you are now. You have nothing to lose.

I'm from Norway and we see the same here.

But what you're actually witnessing, is the youth rebelling against the adults - as they've always done, and will continue to do forever. Our parents have experienced it, and our grand parents before them.
You're an adult now, and things change. You are bound to notice that the next generation will behave even "worse" - at least according to our standards.

Is it wrong to want to leave your girlfriend and set her up with someone else who you know WILL kiss her because this is too much stress and anxiousness for me im probably better at helping others with their releationships than with my own so if i set her up with someone better than it will be ok right? even though it will kill me to see them kissing at least she finally got kissed its just not by me thats all

Im glad u have a gf....its a relief to see a diagnosed aspie around here with a gf. ummmmm....just kiss her, you've been with her for three years. if she slaps you then just say "i thought u didnt mind"

Honestly, that is the best advice! Just get it over and done with! And Good luck!

Just in case you have a hard time distinguishing humor, he was kidding. She won't slap you (so don't be nervous!)

I think 1/3 of norwegian teens have sex before they turn 16.

If i said what i honestly felt right now, i would get banned for it.

You're not worth helping anymore, to think something like this?
god forbid you from ever finding anyone if thats how it is.

Why would you even think of something like that? She wants YOU to kiss her, not some other guy. You said you kissed her on the cheek, so take that same kiss and aim for the lips. Close your eyes, pucker up, and do it. Kissing isn't the great monster you're letting yourself think it is, you'll be just fine and I'm sure your girlfriend will be thrilled. Start with that first quick kiss on the lips, and you'll wonder why you took so long to do it.

It sounds like you have developed an anxiety about kissing rather then not being ready. You need to build yourself up to it. Have you tried kissing her elsewhere like her neck? Do it gently she should like it.

I think you misunderstood what he was trying to say. He obviously wants her to be happy, and he's afraid that he isn't making her as happy as she could be and he would sacrifice his happiness for hers. I think that is very respectable (although misguided). There's more to a relationship than kissing; if she would be happier with someone else she wouldn't have stuck around for three years!

Yeah i guess so i mean why leave now if it bugged her so much she would have left ages ago yeah i have developed an anxiety over it and have been stressing over it and making a big deal over a small thing yeah i will keep trying and will i hope to get this over with soon