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Not around here it's not.

Oh...I reread what you said. Sorry, I thought you meant his physical appearance when you said sub-par looking. I just thought you were posting to complain about how his thread annoyed you....I wouldn't really have said anything if I thought you were replying to give him advice. Like if you just told him something like this "Having realistic standards, self-improvement on the inside and outside, and becoming more of a catch, and also less dependent on a lover's approval, is what's going to get him where he needs to be." I wouldve thought that was just your advice and not really an attack on his thread...again, sorry....

Oh yeah i wouldnt say christianity itself...I think it depends on the christian. Some christians are out there holding rallies against people because they're gay and they don't approve of their sexualorientation, as if the gay person did anything to them or they can turn them straight by holding rallies..and some start yelling at people for not believing in god. I'm a christian and I don't do that type of stuff and when I see somebody who is being a bigot or intolerant it gets to me because that's the reason some people hate christians in general...

Many people do realize that the noisy fundamentalists in the news don't represent most Christians.

I'd say you're probably right to be honest. What you expect is way too much. Its hard enough for aspies to get partners anyway without a list of criteria the partner has to meet.

You won't move in your quest for love. You seem to think its a huge priority.. if that was the case wouldn't you do anything?



Okay, so you know the list is pointless, but you STILL stick to it? Dear god, WHY? You know the word "aspie" is only a label right? Someone has to have a piece of paper from some health professional before they can go out with you? That sir, is your problem.

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I think everyone has a criteria list their partner must meet but they don't make theirs so tight it makes it impossible for them to find someone.

I had a criteria where someone must not be needy, must accept me for who I am, must not want lot of sex or need it, have a driver's lisence, have a job, not be lazy, must be nice and clean, must not be ignorant or judgmental and closed minded,must accept my fetish, must be able to baby me, must have a diaper fetish. I didn't care if that person be aspie or not because that just make it harder for me to find someone. I was also thinking about then joining normal dating sites in the future and hoping I meet a guy who is opened minded about my fetish. I heard lot of them are anyway. My lazy ex didn't care for it and he did change me when I wanted him to. But he was worried over me making myself sterile from pissing in them. Then he stopped being a worry wart.

But living here in Portland, driving wasn't a must anymore so I crossed that off the list. My husband met everything on the list except car. But the thing was I didn't make it so rigid where someone had to like the exact same things I like or have the exact same opinions as me. That's what Tim is doing.

I give up, too.

The Simpsons and South Park criteria is so people won't think I just want sex and nothing else.

People who like the Simpsons and South Park have no problem with sex outside of marriage, or oral sex, or fetishes.

People who don't like the Simpsons and South Park are waiting until marriage, and think sex should only be for procreation.

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If thats true and you really do give up on trying so hard to find someone then she's probably on her way. Isnt that the way it always works? Assuming a positive attitude in you is still prevalent.

I feel that I don't have to jump through hoops to be with an Aspie, like I would with a non-Aspie.

That's why I limit myself to people on the spectrum.

I don't require that she be diagnosed. If ahe were on WP and her profile said "Not sure if I have it or not", she would still be considered.

Tim, instead of trying to find a woman who's conservative Aspie Christian who likes Simpsons etc. etc. why not edit your list to 'someone who likes people that are conservative Aspie Christians.....'. After all, your criteria is basically just a description of yourself and all you really are looking for is someone who accepts you.

Would you date someone who was a different religion or didn't like Simpsons as long as she liked you and respected you interests?

Yeah, you might meet a conservative aspie Christian who thinks you're a total twat.

You should be looking for someone who will like you.

Before even pursing a relationship, you should do some self-analysis. You obviously want a female you because you're unhappy with yourself and want someone to accept you. Why is that? Work on yourself on the inside, also improve your physical appearance as much as possible. Make yourself a catch, and ironically when you're more happy with yourself, you won't even feel the desperation for any girlfriend, and that's when you'll meet her and be able to keep her.

I have been in two relationships in the past, and I base my criteria on those two relationships.

My first girlfriend was an NT and she cheated on me because she found a guy with a nicer car.

My second girlfriend, an Aspie who didn't like the Simpsons and South Park, thought premarital sex was a mortal sin, and that sex should only be for procreation.

As for me, I'm not picky. As long as she's not too young (18 at the youngest) or too old (no more than 12 years older), is 100% faithful, loyal, and honest, loves me and accepts me for who I am, the rest of the details don't matter much.