Should aspies hook up with other aspies?

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You seem intense, not laid back.

OBJECTION!! !

sorry I just wanted to do that

I'm older now and I feel I've had plenty of time to figure out what I really like. I personally feel more comfortable and compatable with people who have AS. And I have a difficult time seeing myself in a relationship with a NT ever again.

um.. where did I say people should avoid aspies?

And no, I haven't had a bad experience with one, i'm just not attracted to them. It is probably possible that I can be attracted to them if they have traits I find attractive, but they mostly don't.

I find AS cute in women. Them saying the darnest things, their innocence, their stims, their fixations, their naivety.

People find me cute. My honesty is one of them.

Like when we met at the Portland ASAN when I was masquerading as a woman?

Merle

In all honesty, I don't really think about it much. I just do what I gotta do.

Hmm...well, I don't see why they shouldn't hook up with each other, being that they're similar, and frequently think alike. To say that it's a bad idea, is saying that you don't like yourself, and that you wouldn't want to be with someone like you. If another aspie isn't going to understand your quirks, then it doesn't seem logical to assume that someone described as NT, would be more able to. Also, "aspie" isn't a 'type' of people, it's a way of of describing a person. To me, the label "aspie" is no more than an indicator that another person is likely to have some of the weird traits that i do, and IMO, more likely to be compatible.

I agree with you here. I do tend to fancy the aspie types more.
Wait is that an aspie guy over there? ... *swoon swoon giggle giggle*

Well, I've dated NTs most of my life. I am now dating a guy who is Aspie. We have lots in common, understand each other, and get along really well. I guess that being diagnosed late in life, made it possible to appreciate my own Aspie traits, to the point where I could appreciate them in a man. OTOH, since childhood I have been attracted to Aspie types, but too shy to do anything about it. Usually I ended up dating NT males because they overwhelmed me into it.

I just don't believe that we can predict whether we will have a successful relationship with someone, just because they are or aren't on the spectrum. I have met several Aspie males whom I did not find attractive. In fact, I found them very irritating. So, one never knows...

Well, judging by my parent's relationship, and my upbringing, I'd say emphatically NO!

i think the guy i am emotionally involved with is an NT (he loves his mum and sisters dearly) but he has a few aspie-like traits. He's shy, intellectual and accepts my social deficiencies. In fact we got together due to intellectual compatibility. btw he's a mathematician so it is possible he has a few genes similar to aspie genes... He does write in an emotional effeminate way though.

I'm a straight woman, but I have always been sexually attracted to AS men.

Interesting topic!

Any other comments/feedback on this?

It all depends on the type of Aspie that there is out there. In my case, I am really into NTs, physically attractive, bad girl types. These are real turn ons for me in my opinion.

I guess you could say that about me too. I often wonder why other people can't seem to find any joy in going outside, absorbing the sun's rays, feeling the breeze, listening to the sweet melody of black-capped chickadees. My sister likes to go shopping and my older stepbrother likes to go to the gym. I don't try to spend every second of my free time on planned activity or achievement. My ideal day when I don't have to go to work is simply drifting from one activity (reading, internet, time outside ect.) to the next, making it up as I go. Should I even change out of my pyjamas today? Trick question. I don't know yet.

I find that I don't get along well with this one aspie that I once considered a good friend because of how rigid he is. I have almost no obsessions, compulsions, or phobias left (I might actually have none left) but he's afraid to go outside because he thinks it's "dangerous". He's emotionally dependant on me and wants to spend all his time with me on what feels like achievement to him, but feels like work to me. He seems to seems to regard just having fun with me as a waste of time and proclaims "I HATE WASTE!". Since he reminds me of a whiny child when he does this i've been ignoring him and not answering his phone calls for a while now. Just my way of being a parental figure to him and punishing him for throwing a tantrum. I shall not reveal his identity.

Nevertheless I don't get along well with NT's either because I'd rather read one of Grimm's Fairy Tales or go on a walk than see a movie. Also, I find that most people, NT or autie, laugh at the stupidest things.

Both ASers would need to have open lines of communication and be able to communicate with one another. Is that possible?