Can Boys and girls with Autism be boyfriend and girlfriend?

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Definitely yes, I know a few couples. I know my match is out there too!

I think it can be possible! My boyfriend and I both have Asperger's Syndrome and have been dating for over a year now. One thing to think about is that Aspergers and Autism affect people differently and think about how a relationship would work with each others differences. My boyfriend and I both have a somewhat sensitivity to loud noises, but that hasn't seemed to affect our relationship. My past two relationships including my current one have been with other guys who have Asperger's Syndrome. I don't know what it's like to be in a relationship with an NT, but I feel comfortable being with another Aspie.

It's definitely possible! My ex had something similar (non-verbal learning disability) and we continue to be romantic partners and close friends. Like me, he would tend to become obsessive and "stuck" on certian things, but this was a trait of his that I was willing to let go and not take offense to. I guess it all depends on personal compatibility and willingness to negotiate (which could be tricky for some aspies as they are used to their ways of being): as well as seeing the person involved as a whole person rather than as primarily a person with a disability.

It more depends on the connection of spiritual energy or "spark".

There have been guys who have what I consider to be aspie traits who I adore to bits, and other aspie guys I find repulsive.
It's all about the connection.

I would rather have a guy with social skills because then I can learn and improve. If you're with someone for long enough, you start to become like them.

His impressive social skills would make up for my lack of them. I have other things to offer, I'm a fun girl, i make people laugh but I can also be awkward. I relate best to fun outgoing laid back men because then I can be myself: loud, silly but inappropriate. I don't see any benefit whatsoever from being with someone with worse social skills than yourself, when you aren't the best to begin with.

Yes they can. One of my friends is engaged to another aspie.

I've noticed that I find it VERY easy to bond with other spectrumites, to the point where if somebody mentioned being a spectrumite in a bio I would probably see myself as much more likely to be compatible with her.


Cheers,

TH

I just think if two parties get along well, the question doesn't need to be asked.