Anyone here afraid they will never get a girlfriend?

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I'd say my chances of getting a girlfriend are pretty low. Whenever I try talking to the opposite sex, I come off as weird and creepy. It almost seems like I'm chasing an impossible dream.

That's how I was when I was 18. No buts about it - I was creepy to the max, and I usually didn't know it. However, I am not anymore because I did not give up.
Something to bare in mind.

Perhaps it will take years to 'catch up' to others, feel secure in your capacity to connect, and yeah, that's kinda a long time... But it does eventually happen. Just keep at it, and be willing to find and address where you're going wrong.

How old were you when you got in your first relationship?

19, I think, was my first kiss, first sex, first relationship.
LOL to this day, I have no clue what she saw in me.
I don't feel that way now, but back then... yeesh.

I think there are a lot of aspies who are afraid of not getting a girlfriend.
You are not the only one, but dont give up hope.
Sorry, my bad english

I don't think I'll ever have another girlfriend. Sometimes it bothers me. It makes me feel sad more than scared.

I've given up trying to find a long term partner for the following reasons.

Being badly mistreated in relationships or used just for sex

Being given a false explanation everytime I get dumped

My exs all proving themselves to be liars and hypocrites, which means that my taste in women is just appauling.

And if I was to find someone who was prepared to stick around, I only know it's because I'd be a last resort and if anyone 'better' showed interest in them I would be cast aside anyway.

I accept that I am a failure and I will die alone.

I personally believe I'll end up with someone. I just need to stay positive because if I think about the pressures of being single I'll never be with someone. While I've been rejected numerous times it didn't really affect me since it's basically a compatibility test. The only thing I care about when it comes to dating is being with someone who truly loves and cares about me.

It is not a fear, as I am quite indifferent to having a girlfriend.
But I do not think I will ever have one because:
1. I do not speak
2. I cannot non-verbal cues that would suggest attraction
3. I do not go out, ever
4. I probably have some form of xenophobia
5. I have anxiety around people I do not know very well

I am completely oblivious to any cues.
I think one girl did something like that once.
Story
I was going to a store to collect some vinyl records to listen to (Beach Boys - The Spirit of Rock, Carl Orff - Carmina Burana).
And there was someone yelling at me, and I went to that person.
The person was sitting on the grass in a park with other persons and there were empty bottles and packages of food on the grass.
I was awkward for a while because I knew some of those people but not well at all.
I sat against a tree for a while and a girl came up to me and asked questions about me.
She asked which school I go to and I answered that she would not know it and I know because it is surrounded by forest and none of those people were autistic and it was a new school.
She was also smoking which was very annoying to me.
So I left and got those records and they were amazing.

I feel that way

I hope this thread isn't limited to gf situations, and one can post about their bf situations, also.

I'm split on whether or not I think I'll ever have a bf. The optimistic part of me (which I think is slightly stronger) hopes that someday it will happen, while the pessimistic part says that in the off chance I actually do get a bf, I wouldn't know how to keep the relationship alive. So basically, I'm just waiting to see what happens and putting myself out there as much as I can with my nonexistant knowledge of flirting and while still staying in my comfort zone.