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03 Apr 2010, 3:08 pm

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I know it's uncomfortable, but that's just too bad. We know that this situation you ran into today could've been more, for example. I know you're aware of that, and have no desire to be ragged on for it, but dammit, you gotta start seeing and taking more of the opportunities that come along. As well as being more forward. Clearly you had some semblance of passing interest in your friend's friend, for instance, or you'd have never mentioned her.
What was I supposed to say? The only thing I was able to find out in the 15 minutes I talked to her was that she was from California. That alone would mean that things would be unlikely to happen. For all I know, she could have had a boyfriend (that's a big issue for me, I don't want to infringe on other peoples' relationships).



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03 Apr 2010, 11:37 pm

Fair enough.
But consider this: If you're pretty certain you wont see her again, then you can safely flirt your head off with no worries about repercussion. She won't mind; it's just a compliment, since there's no more to be had from it. Keep your eye out for other situations like that. It's very good practice, and fun.



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04 Apr 2010, 4:01 pm

If nothing can come from it, what's the point? Random flirtations don't make a relationship...



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04 Apr 2010, 4:15 pm

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If nothing can come from it, what's the point? Random flirtations don't make a relationship...


What comes of it is that by having more experience dealing with people, you'll be better at it and more at ease with it.


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04 Apr 2010, 9:43 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
If nothing can come from it, what's the point? Random flirtations don't make a relationship...


What comes of it is that by having more experience dealing with people, you'll be better at it and more at ease with it.

Correct.
Flirting is very much a trial & error process. If you want to help your chances in the future, then you'll practice flirting.
Anyways, even if it doesn't end up in a relationship, it's gets to be quite fun and gratifying on it's own.



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05 Apr 2010, 12:04 pm

It doesn't feel gratifying to me. It feels nice, don't get me wrong, but I keep feeling like I'm using a woman i dont even know that well for a cheap thrill, and that makes me feel bad after the fact...



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05 Apr 2010, 2:57 pm

Yeah, it's a cheap thrill just like any other compliment given or received.
Flirting with others makes them feel good. And, unless someone does/says something really funky, it's enjoyable to take part in for both parties. If you would flirt a bit more, you'd get used to it, would feel less self-conscious, and would enjoy it.



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13 Apr 2010, 4:55 am

Northeastern292 wrote:
Self explanatory.

How can girls tell that you're "really looking" for a girlfriend? How can they tell and detect? Many people I know, including some here have told me that I've been looking for love and that love should come to me. But first, how do I "let it come to me" and second, how can girls tell that you're looking?


They can't - at least, I never could.

I think what some mean by 'let it come to you' is to go about your life but also you have to put some bait out there once in a while. In other words, ask a girl out once in a while.

But first, try to get involved in things that would put you near girls you might like (common types or interests.) It isn't easy but then it isn't easy for anyone. No matter who they are, no matter NT or AS.

Okay, maybe it's easier for rock stars - when they are currently a hit. Lol.