Relationship/Dating Lessons Learned

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Lesson 1: She is probably more scared of the relationship than I am.
Lesson 2: She probably has no idea what she is doing any more than I do.
Lesson 3: All good relationships occur when both parties get comfortable at the same time.
Lesson 4: Approaching women is less than exact, because they don't know what it's supposed to look like either. Just look them in the eye and don't stutter.
Lesson 4A: I've found the best way to do this is to imagine that she is a proven b***h, and that you are legally obligated to talk to her, but you don't really want her to like you. In other words, show interest in her, instead of getting her to show interest in you. The only way to establish contact with anyone is to first establish common ground, so that's what you should talk about, whatever that is. Then you proceed from that point. There is no magic topic that everyone loves.
Lesson 5: Most women won't call you back or text you back right away because they are nervous, or more likely, because they are afraid that will make them a slut. They also try too hard, it's not just men, or spectrumy people.
Lesson 6: There will be lots of cryptic mixed messages. The meaning of these messages is always the same, something along the lines of "I don't want you to like me that much yet, even though I kind of want you too. Let's take it slow, and hopefully this Confuse Ray will work this time around"
Lesson 7: Don't use Harden too soon in the battle.
Lesson 8: All of these things, true or not, are meaningless until you experience them, because the meaning of something comes from associating it with an experience you've had.

Bonus Lesson: Don't be too weird in the beginning. I'm a weird guy, and I have a tendency to be too weird from the get go. This has messed things up for me countless times. I need to be more grounded at first, and then rant about stupid things that piss me off when she gets comfortable with me. Just a more specific reference to Lesson 3.

^ Even if you could do that, you shouldnt, as you need time to heal.

And, if he was such a "nice" guy, he would have stood up for you. Guys should not side with their mothers against you. That means they have no consideration for you. I think in time you will realise that this guy wasnt "nice" at all.

now you're just making excuses for him.
his mother obviously loves him so much she wants to keep him to herself - i highly doubt she'd let him be hurt by not having his medication.

A nutcase who obviously cares about her son a lot.
If she didn't care, why would she bother?

Sure she would. She wants him ALL to herself.
It's stupid and unfair, but it definitely happens.
No girl is good enough for her little boy .

i can totally see it.
men who live on their own are much easier.
are there no men on your college who you could find?

Sexless relationships don't exist and can't exist no matter how much I would like one.

Learned that one long ago.