Do you prefer the woman to make a move?

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I bet those guys have very high standards thou

They do. I was interested in two of them and I had no luck. They both rejected me.

Indeed. It's so ironic women these days like to consider themselves as emancipated unless it comes to dating. Then they want things as traditional as possible. I guess they only want the upsides of emancipation but not the downsides.



I'm 28, had my first girlfriend at the age of 19 and had 5 girlfriends in total, which is still quite a lot according to Aspie standards. I wouldn't complain if I were you.



I initiated all besides the first. Usually I tried just sitting close to her and if she still felt comfortable, I let me hands wonder off and see how much she allowed. If she didn't stop me, I looked for a good moment to kiss. It's by no means the best approach to follow but at least I was able to use this technique smoothly...



True. I also still have trouble understanding all their subtle signals, however my best friend (a lesbian woman) does the best she can to teach me the ropes and I recently met a straight woman I do somewhat connect with who knows I have Asperger's Syndrome and who does her best to understand why I barely respond to her flirting attempts even though I'm interested in getting to know her at a level beyond friendship.



You know many guys you THINK are all of the above. Many women your age don't have a clue how to read men, neurotypical or not. You gals are so guided by your emotions you can be easily manipulated to believe anything from some random as*hole who knows how female emotions work... and then they complain afterwards that all men are pigs. How frustrating and irritating !

Of course, always. Yes. I like it that way.

And what is this outdated, sexist notion based on? Women can lead just as well as men.

Here in the U.S., nobody or their dog postpones sex till marriage (Except for some very religious holdouts), and nobody bats an eye!

This is further proof that John Lennon was right when he said that "woman is the N of the world".

Some time around the start of the year I went on 'dates' with the same gal. We met up through interwebs singles place (it's a wonder I tells ya'!) and went had coffee, did a day trip on the road... and bowling...
At the end of the first 'date' (first time I'd ever actually 'dated'!) I wondered wtf I was meant to think abouts her (judge someone after 3 hours! get real!)
At the end of the second 'date', I knew it was a giant decision time. Send signal or not? I chickened and didn't (I was overloaded and confused so did nothing)

Now, in discussion with another lady-friend, she suggested that were I interested, I could give her a little kiss on the cheek or something (and as a guy I am to make such an event occur by manipulating lead-up events). My instant reaction (and where my rant fits in to the thread) was that I am really uncomfortable entering someone's personal space unless there's so much sexual-tension it's tangible to even observers.

Curiously, I think would have been uncomfortable had my 'date' initiated by kissing my cheek for the same personal-space reason. I am a fan of the guy initiating but much like other have said, it's something so totally mutual that it's comfy for guy and girl.

I'd have to say that either she has to make the move, or make it VERY clear that kissing/making out/sex is what she wants...

My girlfriends have always made the first move though...Hell with my current girlfriend I made it to 2nd base before 1st base. lol