Qualities you DON'T want in a guy/girl?

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How would you know?

They must mean "pointy rib cage"

Bipolar/schizophrenia/ADHD. Yeah, I know I'm dating a BP girl, but I think I've realized that mood disorders are very taxing and dangerous in relationships.

* Disrespectful
* Dishonest
* Stupid
* Drinks, smokes, or abuses drugs a lot
* Cold or uncaring
* Prudish
* Politically far right-wing (a mildly right-wing woman I could go for, but someone like Ann Coulter...no way!)
* Racist, sexist, homophobic, or any other kind of bigot

That's an excellent one liner Why didn't I think of that





Those are the kinds of women I'm most interested in except for Autistics & Aspies. I tend to get along much better with people like that than so-called normal NTs; maybe cuz I had serious issues myself years ago & I worked my way true em so I can better relate to it & people with issues can be more accepting & happy to have a friend

I guess I'm screwed then. I have noticed in similar threads (not this one so much) that a lot of people had put Chrstian and Republican/conservative on their lists of dealbreakers.

Ah, those skimpy outfits the girls wear these days leave NOTHING to the imagination.

I can agree with a lot of this:

I would kind of agree with this--though I would say that "development" is at least as good a way to put it, if not better.

The way I see it, immaturity is a negative-valued word that refers to lacking sense and/or being consumed by trivial things. Its meaning depends on the judgment of the observer. "Undeveloped" refers to being still in the learning stages of what life is all about, and wanting to experience things purely for the sake of learning to understand them and finding out one's preferences or place in the world. I have a hard time relating to women who could never have a relationship purely for the sake of finding out what it feels like to be in a relationship and/or experience the "high" associated with it, without expectations of how the other person will fit into their life. For me, emotions relating to sexual relationships are still much more objects of curiosity rather than things that have a defined place in life.



I pass judgment on this until I'm really in a relationship, but I have a feeling I WANT independence, as I can't stand being around other people for extended time. Maybe in the very beginning I'd want to be together constantly, but I think that would get very old very quickly.



Random, weird, and hyper I can agree with. Crazy/psycho can be awful, especially if she's paranoid. I knew a woman who had a habit of accusing people of crimes with shaky evidence, and I totally hate those kind of people. A more antisocial type of "crazy" woman who would never cooperate with/turn to an authority figure might be easier to get along with, paradoxically. Though generally I think that only mild "abnormalities" like hypomania, ADHD, etc. would really be positive.

The main difficulty with a "normal" woman would be that she might be turned off by me if I get "weird", for instance obsess over bodily functions in a sexual way or intellectually analyze random things. For instance, like John Nash in A Beautiful Mind when he gets slapped--I wouldn't hit on a girl in a bar like that, but may be sort of that way during sex and don't want it to repulse or creep her out. So in "honor" of that I add to nick007's list...

Ladylike~ I'd have a really hard time with a girl who considers her body "dirty" and wants to hide it from even her sexual partners as much as possible. Who can't stand her sexual parts being touched in casual ways, only in "serious" ways when her partner is in a specific mood.

I agree with you on all ends. Neither do I like hypocrites. I singled out yours because some girl nearly called the cops on me after I hung out with her just once and I made a sexually charged remark commenting her bust line and an outfit she was wearing. (And her outfit was revealing and she was acting like a jerk to begin with).

What is "checking out?"

to much of a nt or not at all. my BF is not a nt but not sure if he an aspie either.

- Prissy
- Whinny
- Girly
- Dumb
- Deceptive
- Prude
- Ignorant
- Lazy

I forgot the mention
Cultured/Classy
I'm socially awkward so I won't quite fit-in at big social fancy-dues. I don't own a single suit & I quote Larry The Cable Guy. I much rather lath at fart jokes than learn anything about art
git-err-done

That's really similar to what I meant by "ladylike".

I cross these gals off my list as well as the obvious meanies, cheaters, and racists:

1. ALCOHOLICS
2. CLOSET CASES - I'm out and proud, and I'm not getting introduced to your family and coworkers as a "friend." I'm not going to conservative church services with you to "keep up appearances." And for God's sake, I'm not going to schedule all our dates for lunch so we can avoid your husband.
3. MENTALLY UNSTABLE WOMEN - no, I am not talking about women who suffered from an eating disorder or schizophrenia in adolescence but are now recovered, who take medication for depression, who go to therapy, or who have Asperger's. I'm talking about women who self-harm, threaten suicide, starve themselves, throw things, and are just not healthy enough to be in a relationship. I have a nervous disposition myself and need a peaceful environment.
4. ALCOHOLICS
5. MASOCHISTS - do you seek out emotional pain? Do you manipulate me into insulting you so you can wallow? Do you call your verbally abusive mother just to hear her scream - and expect me to comfort you afterward? Do you resent me for comforting you? Then you need to go talk to a therapist somewhere far, far away from me.
6. ALCOHOLICS
7. ALCOHOLICS
8. WOMEN WHO ARE TOO INTO THE WHOLE BUTCH/FEMME THING - it's the 21st century. Lesbians no longer have to decide who the "man" is.
9. DID I MENTION ALCOHOLICS?
10. KINKY WOMEN - if it requires a safe word, I'm not doing it.
11. MULTIPLE PEOPLE - what people do among themselves is none of my business as long as no one gets hurt, but I wouldn't want an open relationship, a polyamorous relationship, or a relationship in which bringing extra people into the bedroom was the norm. I tried a three-person relationship in high school, and it was hideously complicated even without sex. Never again.
12. WOMEN WITH SMARMY CAREERS - I'm just not that into corporate lawyers, tobacco company advertising execs, politicians, or drug dealers.
13. SHALLOW WOMEN - whether you're a Barbie or a hipster, I'm not interested if you can't look past people's appearances and affectations.
14. UNINTERESTING WOMEN - oh come on, you have to have a quirk in there somewhere.
15. OH, AND ALCOHOLICS

Yes, it looks like a lot, but I think it's all reasonable. Most of the playing field is still open to me with these conditions in place.

MissPickwickian--I think I can agree with pretty much everything on your list. Except perhaps with "kinky", and "multiple partners". I agree that I don't like play that involves safewords--but I see "kinky" as just meaning interested in any of a number of fetishes. And I'd like to try being non-monogamous, even if I later decide it's too much for me.