Where do people find their bf/gf/friends?

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I've gotten alot of friends from going to cosplay conventions.

- your workplace
- the place where you study (a.k.a. your university/school/college)
- extra curricular activities (eg, sports you play, choirs, gaming groups, etc)
- mutual friends
- social events run by other friends
- online.

Personally, I made my friends from school (although only one or two, I didn't do too well socially at school), writing websites, choirs, jobs, university classes, college meals - a.k.a. sitting with different people at meal times, introducing myself, and so on (I live in student accommodation), acting jobs, house parties/gatherings of other friends, facebook, and via being introduced by a mutual friend.

The hardest part is not where, in my opinion, it's how. Once you've worked out the right social technique, it's easy to make friends. Keeping friends long term, however, is another matter...

It's hard to briefly explain "friend making etiquette", but basically you start by introducing yourself in one of the above mentioned contexts (thus you have something in common; although I have actually made friends and kept in contact even with strangers in the street, or strangers waiting at the bus stop, but this is harder and more rare). Smile, act friendly, and begin by discussing the event at hand (a.k.a. this is a long choir rehearsal today!), then ask them questions about themself and talk to them about yourself. Then to finish up, get their contact details if the two of you appear to be hitting it off. Keep things casual, light, and friendly. Keep the topics general to begin with and impersonal.

It seems like people meet others in the places they spend time most. If they attend school, they tend to meet people there. Other people try to date others in the workplace although that's less ideal and often a bad idea. Nevertheless it happens often.