I'm beginning to think I'll never have a Boyfriend

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Same here. I will consider myself lucky if I don't hit 40 and still be single.

And for the record, the women that get my attention are not the "blondes on high heels" ones. For me, they are not even women - but rather, the stereotypical, widely accepted masculine image of what society thinks women should be. I am rather attracted to personalities that go against the grain.

hi

just been lurking this forum for a bit and this thread has forced me to post!

i would sell my soul to go out with an aspie girl......

before i read this forum i though they did not exist... heh except for my mum lol


edit.. err are you not from the uk??

When I was at college during 1990 - 91 the most gorgous male on the course, who all the girls fancied broguht his girlfriend along to the open day and to a dinner out.

She had short badly cropped hair, a broken nose from boxing and no makeup.
He told another male on the course that was the type that really turn him on.

Don't recall her being over interesting neither.

Girls like you wine about not finding guys when there are thousands of lonely aspies. PLEASE! If you wont settle for an aspie, then maybe you ought to feel sad. And even girls who date aspies date the cute ones who never had a problem dating.

That's silly, nobody is obliged to go out and meet desperate and dateless people they're not attracted to.

Of course I can hardly be sure at this stage, but I kind of doubt that I'll ever have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, or even sex. It honestly doesn't bother me that much. I've got friends.

Speaking from experience - as a female who's heard guys talk with their guard down about what they do like in a woman or being attracted to someone else etc... - a lot of guys like exactly your type. Don't change to suit someone else anyway or to find someone else, as the someone you find will be the wrong person! Eventually you will want to be yourself as anyone shoudl be allowed to... and then you wil both be unhappy.

A lot of guys look for 'tomboy' girls or like short hair or like girls who are into videogames etc. To repeat a saying I included elsewhere "there is a lid for every pot". I know it seems like forever, but when you finally find that one person who fits you as you are, it will be all worth it.

I know plenty of blokes who are bonkers about Routemasters (may they Rest In Peace - the Routemasters that is) Unfortunately for you they live in London - the blokes that is, as the Routemaster is alas no longer to be seen in our streets.

I'm a complete tomboy who lives in baggy jeans and t-shirts, I brush my hair (shudder) only when passing pigeons start getting caught up in it, and I've never worn make up in my life. My obsessions are no better or worse than Routemasters, and mind-numbingly boring to anyone who doesn't have a similar interest. I'm also getting married next month. Negotiations as to whether or not I will be wearing my jeans and t-shirt for the ceremony are ongoing....

im having a bad time too. i would shoot you a greeting sometime, but you're all the way over in england.

I'm beginning to think I'll never have a Boyfriend too

Roffle!



Oh, come on. Like that kind of thing doesn't happen from meeting IRL. I've met lots of great people from online.

The lesson isn't not to meet people... the lesson is not to ignore giant screaming red flags!

I think it's quite unlikely that I will find a guy that can turn me on really well, and is in love with me, whom I love back.

But i'm more than prepared to live alone with some pets.

Hahahaha!! ! I'd forgotten I had written that. Well, it's been two months, so I suppose I should update on this. A lot has changed in that time. I've changed a lot in that time. In the time that I've been on wrongplanet and exploring the whole AS side of things, I've come to a lot of new conclusions about myself and other people. In a lot of ways I've found myself.

I've met people that I would easily like to meet in real life, the only constraint being distance. I'm not that gunshy anymore. You're right, to say I won't meet anyone online anymore is a bit like meeting someone like that at the grocery store then forever swearing not to enter a grocery store anymore. I think I'll always be a bit more cautious, but that isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Lastly, on some level I have to make peace with the girl I was talking about in that entry. Not to say what she did wasn't horrible for doing what she did, but you don't always see the full picture. You don't always know what people have been through, what they are hiding or why they are the way they are. I suppose I could hold a grudge forever, but what good does that do? How well does that represent me? How well does that serve them? One day I'm going to meet someone with similar problems to her. Would it be fair to judge that person the same way?

It's important to forgive people so that you might have an open mind. A person who has partitioned themselves off from one part of the world has that much less information to go on the next time around and that much less of the world to enjoy.

Wow, that's quite a shift in attitude. How long ago was this relationship?

It was more than a year ago, but my views on a lot of things have changed more recently because of the discovery of my AS. I learned about it and started suspecting I had it in April. That entry was shortly after I arrived at wrongplanet. In that time I've learned a lot of things that have changed my view about myself and the world. I'm now much more prone to give people slack for not seeing the big picture.

I was pretty much already on the right track when I arrived here and the night I typed that I was just in a rather sarcastic mood. My attitude on many things has taken a much more healthy turn in the last eight weeks. I'm very happy with things these days. To be honest, that night seems like a lifetime ago.

Don't worry hale, I shall purchase a "Charlie" for you:

http://www.realdoll.com/dolls.asp