Most Aspie men are in over their heads with dating.

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You for thinking that it's easy to keep a woman interested, especially at a young age. Young women or shallow women will dump a man over the stupidest things.

Or, maybe the conclusion is that it bothers women more. I see a lot of complaints from ASC men & women that socially interacting with NT women is generally more difficult than NT men (which is also my experience).

Simple solution, you just have to make yourself such an attractive partner that women overlook the inconvenient AS moments. It has nothing to do with being physically attractive or financially successful, although neither one of those will hurt either. I run an AS group with over 200 members, many of the people that show up have girlfriends or wives, plenty of them are conventionally attractive and "normal", and many of the AS partners are much more impacted and socially awkward than I am and you seem to be.

Some time back I wrote a little guide to correctly using craigslist and other online dating options for AS men, I'll see if I can dig it up and bump the thread since it contained some useful information for guys in your situation. I had a similar issue to you for a while about not having much social contact with women at work or school, so I got really good at meeting women online who shared my interests and mindsets including my dislike of loud clubs and bars. I even live on an island that's a 35 minute ferry ride from the nearest major city and was still able to get dates to ride the boat out to see me, including that girl in my avatar pic that I've been seeing for just over a year now. It's not impossible or even unlikely for Aspie men to have fulfilling romantic lives, we just have to work a little harder for it.

AGREED. could someone please start a thread that celebrates aspie success with women? cuz i refuse to believe that no aspie men are ever successful in dating.

well, it's no challenge to find a girl from a developing country who is willing to marry a man from a first world country. this is not news, and not good advice.

Why isn't it good advice? Because you're female and don't want the competition?

Every American woman treated me like s**t for years. Then I went to Mexico and women were friendly and I met my wife. We have been happily married for 19 years. American women suck and I strongly advise all men to avoid them like the plague.

its true, it just takes aspies a tad longer to learn it

no, it isn't good advice because it is often a relationship based on false premises. sad, really.

Too bad that's what women do anyways!

wow, that's a bit of random unfounded mudslinging apparently must be based on your own bitter experiences. why are the woman-haters so loud on this forum?

well, i take heart in seeing that not all aspie men are negative and nasty like this. i've had a few conversations with nice, decent, polite, kind aspie men. they are just a little quieter on the public forums, and less likely to want to incite a lot of negative attention. but they exist, and they are worth paying attention to.

Aww poor girl can't take a woman hater's opinion but she can voice her own

Its pretty easily for anyone, not just socially ret*d males, to get an exotic partner.

Take me for example. New Zealand men think my accent is "disgusting" as one told me. Overseas men LOVE it. Why? Because it's exotic.

Same applies for everything.

In many countries, white men, no matter who bad looking or socially they are, are considered the cream of the crop because they come from a rich country.

Thats pretty much what it comes down to. If you can't get a white woman, find someone who does like you. Stop whining and not doing anything.

Or... it's your attitude that sucks.

seconded

His attitude probably is pretty good with a green card to go with it

When I said that it's better for two people with Asperger's to establish a relationship because they would understand each better than a person with Asperger's and an NT person, that was just my opinion, and I was basing my response on personal experience. I know that even people with Asperger's don't always get along with other people with Asperger's. Sometimes, my boyfriend and I don't always get along, either. No relationship is perfect. I just meant that a relationship between two people with Asperger's might be better than a relationship between a person with Asperger's and an NT person, because they both have the disorder, and therefore both experience the same difficulties in socializing. Plus, a person with Asperger's doesn't have to explain the disorder to another person with Asperger's like they would with an NT person, because they both have it. Again, like I said before, I never told any of the guys I went out with that I have it, because they wouldn't have understood. That, and we only went out a couple of times, because there was never a mutual attraction, but that's not the point. The point is, in an Asperger relationship, there is no pressure to have to try explain yourself, and to try to make the other person understand why you are the way you are. Do you see what I'm saying? I'm sorry if I was not clear.