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29 Aug 2010, 1:53 pm

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My father doesn't interfere in my personal life, being divorced from my mother and living 13 miles away, I don't always see him anyway, I don't tell him everything either.

Its my mother and sister who interfere. They know I am sexually active and sometimes ask me what I got up and asking me if I put the condom on myself. Of course, I start laughing, but only at their stupidity in thinking that they can get information out of me because I have a disability and that I may spill the beans because its something still quite new to me, but they got it wrong. I ain't telling them everything, I havn't even told them I sex twice without using a condom! Its their questioning of my personal life that helps me takes more risks. They should shut the hell up, I don't question them ever about what they get up to, even though I am the last of the 4 of us to get some action. NT's can be very very stupid sometimes, thinking they can control us Aspies. Dumb fools.

don't blame them for your own risky behaviour.


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29 Aug 2010, 1:53 pm

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It's none of their business really. I wouldn't tell them unless they asked or if it came up in conversation. *shrug*


Sometimes I wish it were that simple, but I'm really close to my parents. I don't live with them, but I visit every few weeks, and I talk to my mom at least every other day. Sometimes I kinda resent my lack of independence.



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29 Aug 2010, 1:56 pm

erisad i understand your frustration with your mom getting all up in your business (hmmm that sounded more risque than i intended. no microchips!! !!).

my parents didn't get too involved in my love life. but i was wayyyyy too knowledgeable about their relationship.


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29 Aug 2010, 2:02 pm

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My father doesn't interfere in my personal life, being divorced from my mother and living 13 miles away, I don't always see him anyway, I don't tell him everything either.

Its my mother and sister who interfere. They know I am sexually active and sometimes ask me what I got up and asking me if I put the condom on myself. Of course, I start laughing, but only at their stupidity in thinking that they can get information out of me because I have a disability and that I may spill the beans because its something still quite new to me, but they got it wrong. I ain't telling them everything, I havn't even told them I sex twice without using a condom! Its their questioning of my personal life that helps me takes more risks. They should shut the hell up, I don't question them ever about what they get up to, even though I am the last of the 4 of us to get some action. NT's can be very very stupid sometimes, thinking they can control us Aspies. Dumb fools.

don't blame them for your own risky behaviour.


Okay fine, I take more risks because people don't think I will. Their bias of my disability makes me break free of what they think they know.



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29 Aug 2010, 2:04 pm

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My father doesn't interfere in my personal life, being divorced from my mother and living 13 miles away, I don't always see him anyway, I don't tell him everything either.

Its my mother and sister who interfere. They know I am sexually active and sometimes ask me what I got up and asking me if I put the condom on myself. Of course, I start laughing, but only at their stupidity in thinking that they can get information out of me because I have a disability and that I may spill the beans because its something still quite new to me, but they got it wrong. I ain't telling them everything, I havn't even told them I sex twice without using a condom! Its their questioning of my personal life that helps me takes more risks. They should shut the hell up, I don't question them ever about what they get up to, even though I am the last of the 4 of us to get some action. NT's can be very very stupid sometimes, thinking they can control us Aspies. Dumb fools.

don't blame them for your own risky behaviour.


Okay fine, I take more risks because people don't think I will. Their bias of my disability makes me break free of what they think they know.
so... maybe take up skydiving? it isn't exactly admirable to take risks like unprotected sex. you could be both receiving and passing on STD/STIs, plus the pregnancy risk. are you ready to be a daddy?


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29 Aug 2010, 2:07 pm

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My father doesn't interfere in my personal life, being divorced from my mother and living 13 miles away, I don't always see him anyway, I don't tell him everything either.

Its my mother and sister who interfere. They know I am sexually active and sometimes ask me what I got up and asking me if I put the condom on myself. Of course, I start laughing, but only at their stupidity in thinking that they can get information out of me because I have a disability and that I may spill the beans because its something still quite new to me, but they got it wrong. I ain't telling them everything, I havn't even told them I sex twice without using a condom! Its their questioning of my personal life that helps me takes more risks. They should shut the hell up, I don't question them ever about what they get up to, even though I am the last of the 4 of us to get some action. NT's can be very very stupid sometimes, thinking they can control us Aspies. Dumb fools.

don't blame them for your own risky behaviour.


Okay fine, I take more risks because people don't think I will. Their bias of my disability makes me break free of what they think they know.
so... maybe take up skydiving? it isn't exactly admirable to take risks like unprotected sex. you could be both receiving and passing on STD/STIs, plus the pregnancy risk. are you ready to be a daddy?


How is it possible for me to pass on an STD when this woman is the second person I've been with? Plus, an STD ro me is deemed "a normal thing" - the majority of people in the world get them, why should I be any different and avoid them? I am saying that I WOULDN'T MIND HAVING ONE. Daddy! Thats just plain gross.



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29 Aug 2010, 2:10 pm

Risk taking is not empowerment.

Risk taking is an attention seeking behaviour, it's somewhat reckless and childish.



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29 Aug 2010, 2:12 pm

Craig28 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Craig28 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Craig28 wrote:
My father doesn't interfere in my personal life, being divorced from my mother and living 13 miles away, I don't always see him anyway, I don't tell him everything either.

Its my mother and sister who interfere. They know I am sexually active and sometimes ask me what I got up and asking me if I put the condom on myself. Of course, I start laughing, but only at their stupidity in thinking that they can get information out of me because I have a disability and that I may spill the beans because its something still quite new to me, but they got it wrong. I ain't telling them everything, I havn't even told them I sex twice without using a condom! Its their questioning of my personal life that helps me takes more risks. They should shut the hell up, I don't question them ever about what they get up to, even though I am the last of the 4 of us to get some action. NT's can be very very stupid sometimes, thinking they can control us Aspies. Dumb fools.

don't blame them for your own risky behaviour.


Okay fine, I take more risks because people don't think I will. Their bias of my disability makes me break free of what they think they know.
so... maybe take up skydiving? it isn't exactly admirable to take risks like unprotected sex. you could be both receiving and passing on STD/STIs, plus the pregnancy risk. are you ready to be a daddy?


How is it possible for me to pass on an STD when this woman is the second person I've been with? Plus, an STD ro me is deemed "a normal thing" - the majority of people in the world get them, why should I be any different and avoid them? I am saying that I WOULDN'T MIND HAVING ONE. Daddy! Thats just plain gross.
now i see you are being silly. well, so you claim that you actually wouldn't mind having an STD? well, i hope you get one! the majority of people don't get them, and some of them are deadly. hope you enjoy yours!

being a daddy is "gross"? then don't have unprotected sex, because you are taking the chance you will get her pregnant.


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29 Aug 2010, 2:18 pm

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Craig28 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Craig28 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Craig28 wrote:
My father doesn't interfere in my personal life, being divorced from my mother and living 13 miles away, I don't always see him anyway, I don't tell him everything either.

Its my mother and sister who interfere. They know I am sexually active and sometimes ask me what I got up and asking me if I put the condom on myself. Of course, I start laughing, but only at their stupidity in thinking that they can get information out of me because I have a disability and that I may spill the beans because its something still quite new to me, but they got it wrong. I ain't telling them everything, I havn't even told them I sex twice without using a condom! Its their questioning of my personal life that helps me takes more risks. They should shut the hell up, I don't question them ever about what they get up to, even though I am the last of the 4 of us to get some action. NT's can be very very stupid sometimes, thinking they can control us Aspies. Dumb fools.

don't blame them for your own risky behaviour.


Okay fine, I take more risks because people don't think I will. Their bias of my disability makes me break free of what they think they know.
so... maybe take up skydiving? it isn't exactly admirable to take risks like unprotected sex. you could be both receiving and passing on STD/STIs, plus the pregnancy risk. are you ready to be a daddy?


How is it possible for me to pass on an STD when this woman is the second person I've been with? Plus, an STD ro me is deemed "a normal thing" - the majority of people in the world get them, why should I be any different and avoid them? I am saying that I WOULDN'T MIND HAVING ONE. Daddy! Thats just plain gross.
now i see you are being silly. well, so you claim that you actually wouldn't mind having an STD? well, i hope you get one! the majority of people don't get them, and some of them are deadly. hope you enjoy yours!

being a daddy is "gross"? then don't have unprotected sex, because you are taking the chance you will get her pregnant.


How can I get someone pregnant when I don't even "finish up" with her? Doesn't pregnancy require sperm or are Aspies able to get anyone pregant just by clicking their fingers?



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29 Aug 2010, 2:53 pm

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Erisad wrote:
It's none of their business really. I wouldn't tell them unless they asked or if it came up in conversation. *shrug*


Sometimes I wish it were that simple, but I'm really close to my parents. I don't live with them, but I visit every few weeks, and I talk to my mom at least every other day. Sometimes I kinda resent my lack of independence.


You're more independent than I am. I still live with her most of the time. Thank god for college. :D


hyperlexian - That's disturbing. My parents divorced before I was 2 so I saw none of that. D:



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29 Aug 2010, 3:09 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
erisad i understand your frustration with your mom getting all up in your business (hmmm that sounded more risque than i intended. no microchips!! !!).

my parents didn't get too involved in my love life. but i was wayyyyy too knowledgeable about their relationship.


That must have been terrible! :eew:



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29 Aug 2010, 3:12 pm

Craig28 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Craig28 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Craig28 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Craig28 wrote:
My father doesn't interfere in my personal life, being divorced from my mother and living 13 miles away, I don't always see him anyway, I don't tell him everything either.

Its my mother and sister who interfere. They know I am sexually active and sometimes ask me what I got up and asking me if I put the condom on myself. Of course, I start laughing, but only at their stupidity in thinking that they can get information out of me because I have a disability and that I may spill the beans because its something still quite new to me, but they got it wrong. I ain't telling them everything, I havn't even told them I sex twice without using a condom! Its their questioning of my personal life that helps me takes more risks. They should shut the hell up, I don't question them ever about what they get up to, even though I am the last of the 4 of us to get some action. NT's can be very very stupid sometimes, thinking they can control us Aspies. Dumb fools.

don't blame them for your own risky behaviour.


Okay fine, I take more risks because people don't think I will. Their bias of my disability makes me break free of what they think they know.
so... maybe take up skydiving? it isn't exactly admirable to take risks like unprotected sex. you could be both receiving and passing on STD/STIs, plus the pregnancy risk. are you ready to be a daddy?


How is it possible for me to pass on an STD when this woman is the second person I've been with? Plus, an STD ro me is deemed "a normal thing" - the majority of people in the world get them, why should I be any different and avoid them? I am saying that I WOULDN'T MIND HAVING ONE. Daddy! Thats just plain gross.
now i see you are being silly. well, so you claim that you actually wouldn't mind having an STD? well, i hope you get one! the majority of people don't get them, and some of them are deadly. hope you enjoy yours!

being a daddy is "gross"? then don't have unprotected sex, because you are taking the chance you will get her pregnant.


How can I get someone pregnant when I don't even "finish up" with her? Doesn't pregnancy require sperm or are Aspies able to get anyone pregant just by clicking their fingers?
i won't judge you for now knowig this, but simple penetration can lead to pregnancy. ejaculation is not required.

http://www.steadyhealth.com/Pre_cum___P ... 78339.html


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29 Aug 2010, 3:16 pm

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erisad i understand your frustration with your mom getting all up in your business (hmmm that sounded more risque than i intended. no microchips!! !!).

my parents didn't get too involved in my love life. but i was wayyyyy too knowledgeable about their relationship.


That must have been terrible! :eew:
errrrm, yes. but i should clarify that i didn't really know when it was going on, i was just told when it wasn't. and my mom's speculations about my dad's preferred gender. and what they would do in bed. oh, never mind. no matter how i explain it... it sounds horrid.

and it was sort of horrid, except that i didn't know my family was different really. therapy is helping. as the shrink explained it, it's like i was 'in bed with my parents'. it's kinda why i don't understand adult children wanting their parents to be aware of their sex life (or parents asking about it). to me, it's the other side of the same coin. education and an open dialogue are great, but details are kind of not cool.


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29 Aug 2010, 3:28 pm

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education and an open dialogue are great, but details are kind of not cool.


Agreed!



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education and an open dialogue are great, but details are kind of not cool.


Agreed!


I concur too. :D



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29 Aug 2010, 4:36 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
Craig28 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Craig28 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Craig28 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Craig28 wrote:
My father doesn't interfere in my personal life, being divorced from my mother and living 13 miles away, I don't always see him anyway, I don't tell him everything either.

Its my mother and sister who interfere. They know I am sexually active and sometimes ask me what I got up and asking me if I put the condom on myself. Of course, I start laughing, but only at their stupidity in thinking that they can get information out of me because I have a disability and that I may spill the beans because its something still quite new to me, but they got it wrong. I ain't telling them everything, I havn't even told them I sex twice without using a condom! Its their questioning of my personal life that helps me takes more risks. They should shut the hell up, I don't question them ever about what they get up to, even though I am the last of the 4 of us to get some action. NT's can be very very stupid sometimes, thinking they can control us Aspies. Dumb fools.

don't blame them for your own risky behaviour.


Okay fine, I take more risks because people don't think I will. Their bias of my disability makes me break free of what they think they know.
so... maybe take up skydiving? it isn't exactly admirable to take risks like unprotected sex. you could be both receiving and passing on STD/STIs, plus the pregnancy risk. are you ready to be a daddy?


How is it possible for me to pass on an STD when this woman is the second person I've been with? Plus, an STD ro me is deemed "a normal thing" - the majority of people in the world get them, why should I be any different and avoid them? I am saying that I WOULDN'T MIND HAVING ONE. Daddy! Thats just plain gross.
now i see you are being silly. well, so you claim that you actually wouldn't mind having an STD? well, i hope you get one! the majority of people don't get them, and some of them are deadly. hope you enjoy yours!

being a daddy is "gross"? then don't have unprotected sex, because you are taking the chance you will get her pregnant.


How can I get someone pregnant when I don't even "finish up" with her? Doesn't pregnancy require sperm or are Aspies able to get anyone pregant just by clicking their fingers?
i won't judge you for now knowig this, but simple penetration can lead to pregnancy. ejaculation is not required.

http://www.steadyhealth.com/Pre_cum___P ... 78339.html


So I guess now that I should take some condoms along, seeing as she doesn't have any at hand. Thats the reason why I went twice without condoms, she had none. Years ago, when I had the first woman, she had some, thats why I wore one.

Basic moral: don't assume that a sex worker will have condoms. Craig - "Duly noted and understood, I will wear a condom, even though its a crap sex session, a complete lack of feeling". No more sex for me, thanks for all that interference.