I have a crush on a possible Aspie girl

Post Reply New Topic

Get the f**k out of here, I.D.

Ugh, sounds like me in high school. It's best to try not to get clingy, and to convince yourself that a girl CAN find you attractive; otherwise a cute nerdy girl will talk to you one day and you won't realize she may have liked you until hours later. Try to resist the tendency to fixate on one girl, or to label all women as whores and liars. Yes, women have some behaviors that you could interpret as mean, but there are so many great things about women you're currently jealous others get to experience that you will one day experience. Unfortunately you'll probably go through a few bad experiences before reaching that mindset. "A girl likes me oh my god!! ! women are suddenly great! ...one day later she says let's just be friends...I'm devastated for months, all women are whores!!...hey another girl likes me, I better not **** this one up!....aagh I ****ed it up three days later, women are so cruel!"

I suggest you make friends with a girl. It can be a shy fat girl, whatever. You're trying to go after something you know nothing about. Women are as psychologically different from men as NTs are from Aspergers peeps.

You'll never get anywhere with the "all women are filthy whores" mindset. It's all in your head. You're placing yourself on a lower level than all the NT girls at your school. It took me years of social observation and analysis to be a "chill, normal guy" and since hooking up is MUCH harder to learn through observation, it has taken a lot of trial and error, and I'm still a virgin. But now when I tell people they go "WHAT?!?" I just found out I have Asperger's and my friends that haven't known me for long don't believe me.

If you can make yourself look nice and fake confidence, some very attractive girls WILL find you attractive. You won't believe it at first, and you'll mess up the first few opportunities you get, and hopefully analyze your mistakes to death until you never make them again.

Wow. Giftorcurse: you have been obsessing over this poor woman for months now, expressing a disturbing amount of interest in someone who does not like you.

For her sake, I hope you stop.

Get help. This is unhealthy.

I had a crush on the same girl between 5th and 8th grade. I asked her out multiple times. It's so hard at first not to become immediately infatuated with girls...

Sensitive, eh?

are you simply trolling this thread now? = /
At first i thought this case sounded like something that could actually work out, but quickly it turned out that you're either just trolling, or you need some help.
This freaking thread is old man.
And if it's not trolling, you are seriously obsessing over this girl, geh, so pathetic = /

Truly, someone like you will never find anyone, at least not like this.

Trolling?

The girls at my school HATE ME! I'M SUFFERING!! !

You want me to go out with some slut, sat it?

You should try, y'know, actually doing something about your problems. Whiny guys are so unnattractive.

God, you're like one little whiny brat aren't you? = /
I mean, jesus, i consider myself to be a complaining/whiny person.
But you're like the king of being a whiny brat.

Why don't you go talk to a psychiatrist to sort out all of your weird problems.
I'm sure no one really cares about your problems since you just run around in circles and flip the f**k out when people come with suggestions or try to help.

Jonsi, f**k off.

The man above you knows his stuff.

What am I thinking? I'm destroying this girl's psyche. She doesn't have many friends. Today, I found her in the library by coincidence. She asked, "Why am I alive?". I heard sobbing. She grunts when I try talking to her, like Frankenstein's monster. She's very stubborn. Once a stalker, always a stalker. I want to open up to her. I don't want her to think I'm a boogeyman.

Well, it seems in your eyes, there's only 2 ways of you getting through this. A) Somehow get her or B) Kill yourself.

But think about this. You have no idea where your life might be in 10 years. You may find someone new, someone just like her, hell better for you. There's millions of people out there, and not everybody are stupid obnoxious as*holes, that's normally just the case in high school. The thing is you've matured a lot faster than most other people your age and for that reason you feel like people your age are beneath you. But during your 20s they'll catch up and people will start seeming less like as*holes and more like nice human beings. What's happened here is you're stuck in a garden of weeds and you've found a flower. Compared to the weeds around it, the flower seems beautiful and perfect. But you can't have that flower because the fact is it's not your flower. As you grow older, the weeds will begin to change into flowers. (Terrible metaphor I know, but it sort of works.)

Romantic.

I've entertained the thought of going out in public with an imaginary girlfriend. Happy about that?

you said it yourself here, your destroying this poor girls psyche and you think she views you as a stalker. If she thinks your a stalker, you should just let this go man. NO girl wants to be followed around, and even if she did like you, follwing her is a huge turn off.

I used to operate like you when i was 15. I had 0% luck with girls that age....i used to 'ambush' this one girl in the hallway or whereever to talk to her and she thought I was creepy as hell. I'm in college now and my fortune has shifted, i have a beautiful girlfriend and have dated 3 others before her in college. THe main difference is the manner in which I went about attracting these girls, you gotta be discreet and make it all loook like chance meetings. I would notice all the attractive females in class or around campus on sight, but i learned to just look past any women I didn;t ever get into a conversation with or who wasnt in my class. If ive talked to them or had them in class it gave me an excuse to say hi or how are you! and start talking. never drag on this kind of chit chat and never dive into anything too personal.

After you get to that stage, if the girl is in your class or somewhere u are together a lot try sitting next to her the 1st time, because you know her its ok. The next class or next few classes if she sits next to you she has chosen you to be a non-sketchy friend, if not she has other friends or isnt interested. I usually get the hint here and back off.
Sitting with someone everyday leads to a lot of conversation and this is where I usually get invited to parties or to hang out with her friends/ vice versa . Once you are both at a party or somethig out of class, the friendship starts and gets stronger as the weeks go by.

From there you can try melding it into a relationship, but u have to understand that even tho a girl can be your friend she can easily not even be attracted to you at all....so really finding a good partner is just a numbers game. You probably have 1,000,000 women compatible with you on Earth, but you only come in contact with 2000 women out of 4,000,000 so obviously your chances of meeting one of these women as very very very veey slim.....thats why people date for years and years to cycle thru the incompatible ones until they find one that is compatible.