I want to get a rough idea... Aspie males please enter!

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Apparently not anymore. Someone wanted it resurrected. LOL. For what ever reason, it became rellivant again.

What I meant is that the criticism at the start about members is irrelevant because they no longer use the board, not that the subject matter is irrelevant.

When threads are resurrected sometimes people end up posting arguments in reply to comments from people who aren't here anymore. It's better testator a new thread.

The attitude and atmosphere in L&D has vastly improved since this thread was started.

I was earning a lot as a single man (close to 52k USD post tax). I am still single but have given up everything for my newest project so earn almost zilch. Like 1/5 of that (exchange rates do come into play, though). I do have much in the way of assets like a shop, an apartment, various storage and warehouses I have free reign over as well as several peoples artwork who have either vanished or lost touch with me.

I have no "mate" or children of my own, this is down to a number of things such as being extremely careful, and only so much of a sex life because I identify as an asexual to some degree. I know a lot of self made people with wives and kids, though, it doesn't seem to have affected their income or lifestyle as they hold truly tight bonds with one another.

Arrrgh! Tricked!

No income, no employment. Only one girlfriend previously.
But I've rejected many. I find it difficult to know where to meet intelligent females.
Also would probably prefer AS female, now that I know I'm AS.

I struggled to know what society was and that I was completely different.
And how to actually go about 'dating'
Now I will struggle to impress (even if I have income, I'll be reluctant to brag about it).
Wish to move country, which would give me an 'impress' advantage, but requires a reference to sign for passport - I've no friends.

I've been living with my girlfriend for over 4 years now & my only source of income is Social Security Disability. It was $864 a month last year but this year it's $867 because of the COLA. I only have two exes thou & I never had a date with anyone else for lots of reasons. My current girlfriend is also disabled & wanted a guy who's very supportive which I am.

ah, I see what you mean now. Yes, I agree.

20 year old college student, been single my entire life. No girlfriends, ever, almost no friends in general.
From my personal view: Society in general is brutal to those who dare to be different. It's far from just women- I have just as little luck befriending men as I do with finding a partner in a woman. Society is to blame here. People will actively try to sabotage your chances if they think you're even a LITTLE off by telling others to stay away from you. That's not to say I'm blameless either. I am a fundamentally broken person emotionally that is incapable of connecting with others. And I understand where people come from, they just can't change how they feel about someone. It would be wrong to expect them to. But from my perspective, it's gotten to the point where even in my own dreams whenever I feel like I'm about to be loved, something in my dream literally stops it and derails the romantic vibe. Love as a concept is even unattainable for me even in my dreams, and I have accepted this reality due to the crushing rejection I constantly felt from women that I try to approach romantically. No matter what I did, maintain eye contact, try not to be a creep, lost a ton of weight, made massive improvements on my people skills, got insanely good at the guitar (though personally I just love playing). Nothing helped me. I was bitter about it and I still am frankly, but I'm not mad at any one person or group of people. Like I said, people just can't shake that gut feeling about you. I have accepted that this is the nature of humanity, and it seems quite likely I will die alone.

From what I see on the forum: There are a lot of bitter men here that are upset and I can see why. Life is so, so hard. Then multiply that by magnitudes living in a society where socialising is all that matters, and you can't do that properly because of AS. Women aren't to blame really, I understand that they shouldn't have to give themselves to someone they aren't interested in. On the same hand, however, I feel like some women are too quick to judge. But what do I know- I don't know how a woman thinks or even how to please one, so my assessment of them is most likely wrong, said if we're sticking with the whole "objectivity" theme here.

You hit the nail on the head
Bitterness is one thing that hardly ever occurs overnight but
Usually over time.