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slovaksiren
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09 Nov 2010, 8:00 pm

Never... all of the guys I thought I might have a relationship with just turn out to be good male friends and eventually I don't really get anywhere with them. Even if I try to be just friends, I often go my separate ways.



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10 Nov 2010, 10:02 am

Quincy27 wrote:
I am in the same boat. I'm 27 and have never had a relationship, dated or any of that. I'm not shy, in fact quite the opposite, but in my experiences, girls have always treated me like I was a creep or just a weirdo in general and back away. I'm sure I send out the wrong signals.


This is quite sad because it means I may have to get to 27 or 30 without a relationship. Meh... it's not going happen. I'm not going to be 30 (or even 27) alone.


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12 Nov 2010, 11:23 pm

Im a 22 guy and have never gone out on a date, or been in a relationship, although I have kissed and stuff like that before, but mostly in college when alcohol was involved.



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13 Nov 2010, 7:31 pm

Unfortunately, I am the 40 year-old virgin, while I have done some kissing and other foreplay, I have never had a girlfriend myself. I am trying to work on making things change though.



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13 Nov 2010, 9:15 pm

Me. I'm a female, but I've never had a relationship. I don't intend to date for a few years. That being said, I do, at some point, want to marry and have a family of my own. But I'm not going to rush either of these things.


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13 Nov 2010, 9:31 pm

No, but given that most teenage relationships are either entirely superficial or people mistaking intense lust for love, I'm not too concerned.


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14 Nov 2010, 11:31 am

hey that's a good thing!
lust is never bad



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14 Nov 2010, 2:06 pm

I haven't had one, though to be fair I am only 18. I would love one though. Falling in love, and that love remaining long after the initial fall, is the second most important thing in the world to me :oops:



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14 Nov 2010, 6:35 pm

I'm glad to hear I'm not the only guy on the planet who has never had a relationship with a member of the opposite sex before. Especially one in his late twenties. I feel like such a loser. My brother is nearly 18, and he's had at least three girlfriends that I know of. I am looking to skip all that dating stuff (too much hassle) and just find the right girl straight away. The teenage lust-infused stage, I'm not interested in, and I am kinda glad I skipped that.



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18 Nov 2010, 5:37 am

Adam82 wrote:
I'm glad to hear I'm not the only guy on the planet who has never had a relationship with a member of the opposite sex before. Especially one in his late twenties. I feel like such a loser.


Why limit the possibilities to the opposite sex? There's always the possibility you are actually gay or bisexual, and just never sorted through the homophobic prejudice that your average person who is over 22 or so as absorbed.



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18 Nov 2010, 3:45 pm

25 and I've never been in an relationship. On one hand I feel like time is running out for me but on the other I think time maybe on on my side.



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18 Nov 2010, 5:25 pm

Adam82 wrote:
I'm glad to hear I'm not the only guy on the planet who has never had a relationship with a member of the opposite sex before. Especially one in his late twenties. I feel like such a loser. My brother is nearly 18, and he's had at least three girlfriends that I know of. I am looking to skip all that dating stuff (too much hassle) and just find the right girl straight away. The teenage lust-infused stage, I'm not interested in, and I am kinda glad I skipped that.


good luck with that lol



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18 Nov 2010, 5:55 pm

RICKY5 wrote:
J-P wrote:
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Adam82 wrote:
I seem to be the only guy on the planet, even among Aspies, that has never had a girlfriend, ever. No kisses, nothing. I post on the LoveShy forums sometimes, but I find they're a bit too bitter and unsupportive over there.

I must be the only 28 y.o on the planet who has no experience with girls. I have female friends, but never anything more than this.


I'm 30 and I've never been in a relationship. I've never even been on a date.


Same never have relationship,kiss and date at nearly 22 years old. ZERO opportunity...Friend side i don't have friend to spocialize frequently...sometime i ask myself if it's not me the problem....Now im a misogynic man by women fault and xenophobic caused by heavy mistreatment by stranger(other race or my own race) even my family have made me suffer by moment. My self esteem suffer


Il serait bien pour toi si tu changerais ton mode de porter votres vetements . Te raser la tete et jetez la chemise de Mario! Pardonnes-moi! Mon francais est un peu rouille!

What did you just say?



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18 Nov 2010, 7:16 pm

nthach wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
J-P wrote:
Jono wrote:
Adam82 wrote:
I seem to be the only guy on the planet, even among Aspies, that has never had a girlfriend, ever. No kisses, nothing. I post on the LoveShy forums sometimes, but I find they're a bit too bitter and unsupportive over there.

I must be the only 28 y.o on the planet who has no experience with girls. I have female friends, but never anything more than this.


I'm 30 and I've never been in a relationship. I've never even been on a date.


Same never have relationship,kiss and date at nearly 22 years old. ZERO opportunity...Friend side i don't have friend to spocialize frequently...sometime i ask myself if it's not me the problem....Now im a misogynic man by women fault and xenophobic caused by heavy mistreatment by stranger(other race or my own race) even my family have made me suffer by moment. My self esteem suffer


Il serait bien pour toi si tu changerais ton mode de porter votres vetements . Te raser la tete et jetez la chemise de Mario! Pardonnes-moi! Mon francais est un peu rouille!

What did you just say?


I just told him in rusty french that he should change his appearance for starters by shaving his head and ditching the MArio t-shirt in his profile pic.



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18 Nov 2010, 7:21 pm

RICKY5 wrote:
nthach wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
J-P wrote:
Jono wrote:
Adam82 wrote:
I seem to be the only guy on the planet, even among Aspies, that has never had a girlfriend, ever. No kisses, nothing. I post on the LoveShy forums sometimes, but I find they're a bit too bitter and unsupportive over there.

I must be the only 28 y.o on the planet who has no experience with girls. I have female friends, but never anything more than this.


I'm 30 and I've never been in a relationship. I've never even been on a date.


Same never have relationship,kiss and date at nearly 22 years old. ZERO opportunity...Friend side i don't have friend to spocialize frequently...sometime i ask myself if it's not me the problem....Now im a misogynic man by women fault and xenophobic caused by heavy mistreatment by stranger(other race or my own race) even my family have made me suffer by moment. My self esteem suffer


Il serait bien pour toi si tu changerais ton mode de porter votres vetements . Te raser la tete et jetez la chemise de Mario! Pardonnes-moi! Mon francais est un peu rouille!

What did you just say?


I just told him in rusty french that he should change his appearance for starters by shaving his head and ditching the MArio t-shirt in his profile pic.

And I agree - appearance is one thing people judge on.



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19 Nov 2010, 11:59 am

nthach wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
nthach wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
J-P wrote:
Jono wrote:
Adam82 wrote:
I seem to be the only guy on the planet, even among Aspies, that has never had a girlfriend, ever. No kisses, nothing. I post on the LoveShy forums sometimes, but I find they're a bit too bitter and unsupportive over there.

I must be the only 28 y.o on the planet who has no experience with girls. I have female friends, but never anything more than this.


I'm 30 and I've never been in a relationship. I've never even been on a date.


Same never have relationship,kiss and date at nearly 22 years old. ZERO opportunity...Friend side i don't have friend to spocialize frequently...sometime i ask myself if it's not me the problem....Now im a misogynic man by women fault and xenophobic caused by heavy mistreatment by stranger(other race or my own race) even my family have made me suffer by moment. My self esteem suffer


Il serait bien pour toi si tu changerais ton mode de porter votres vetements . Te raser la tete et jetez la chemise de Mario! Pardonnes-moi! Mon francais est un peu rouille!

What did you just say?


I just told him in rusty french that he should change his appearance for starters by shaving his head and ditching the MArio t-shirt in his profile pic.

And I agree - appearance is one thing people judge on.


I am told all the time that it isnt whats on the outside but whats on the inside-people say I am nice and all sorts of things-but its like the Kennedy-Nixon debates-people that watched it on TV said Kennedy won because he looked good on TV but people that heard it on the radio said Nixon won the debates-just like when you go to the book store you read the title on the cover before you buy the book-the book could be a great piece of writing but if if has an off the wall title you will just pass it up-not fair but we live in a society that values style over substance it seems-hence I will probably never be happy even with copious amounts of alcohol affecting the other person-as I have seen in some previous posts on this thread being one of the added factors in a person having some sort of sexual interaction with another person.


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